i don't like hugs

I had to resurrect this thread because I just noticed something.

Hugs usually feels awkward to me when it's face to face. However, the kind of hug where the person sneak behind your back and then wrap their arms around you and squeeze, feels like the warmest thing in the world to me. Even when it's someone I barely know nor appreciate.

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Pacific_Loner said:

I had to resurrect this thread because I just noticed something.

Hugs usually feels awkward to me when it's face to face. However, the kind of hug where the person sneak behind your back and then wrap their arms around you and squeeze, feels like the warmest thing in the world to me. Even when it's someone I barely know nor appreciate.

:thinking:

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its not that I don't like hugs I'm jus so USED to people NOT wanting to hug me that I just never try to hug anyone..I worry that if I try to hug someone they might get the wrong idea and just punch me in the face or pull out one of those pocket tasers.


especially if its a girl...how are you supposed to know when its ok to hug a girl?...they don't actually TELL you like "ok you can hug me now if you want" so theres really no way to know for sure if its ok....

only hugging old friends that I haven't seen in a while , and parents of course.

i only allow hugs from a very small number of people, and i only really enjoy hugs from an even smaller number of people, and i love hugs from one specific person.

anybody else? dont touch me. please.

Pacific_Loner said:

I had to resurrect this thread because I just noticed something.

Hugs usually feels awkward to me when it's face to face. However, the kind of hug where the person sneak behind your back and then wrap their arms around you and squeeze, feels like the warmest thing in the world to me. Even when it's someone I barely know nor appreciate.

:thinking:

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I would never come up from behind someone I barely know and give them that kind of hug. I'm glad you like it but for the person initiating it, there's a HUGE risk of it being taken the wrong way (sexual) and having to face repercussions because of it.

Slightly off topic. The lady who works at the counter where I take my car for service is a big hugger. I love this since I like hugs as well. Apparently, if she knows you well enough she will also kiss you...on the lips. Not an entirely bad thing to me since she's attractive. This morning as I was leaving, I guess she figured she knew me well enough (I've been going there for at least 3 years now). She looked like she was going to kiss me but, me being unsure, I just gave her a big hug and said I'd see her next time. That was kind of awkward.

I like hugs. I just dont like initiating or asking for them. I still gotta be hard for the streets.

I was hugging everybody last year at work I felt so happy.

Same here. Skinship is not my thing as well. We can like each other without being too clingy! I thought it was not normal but I guess, there is a lot with the same thinking.

Yea, hugs are tricky! If you get it wrong it can be incredibly awkward and painful. Because of this I tend to avoid hugs wherever possible, unless I feel strongly that a hug is called for in a situation. And if I decide to hug, I try to be bold, and un-half hearted about it, and open my arms early to make sure the recipient knows I'm coming in! lol!

I love hugs.