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Old 05-04-2010  
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The littlest things are often a big deal when you have S.A. and Avpd, Ive been obsessing since I got this invite to a Pinkly Party, if you don't know what it is, its for women and its a Mary Kay party (makeup). I just flat out don't want to go not just because of S.A. but because I don't like Mary Kay stuff, I like my own makeup and also I won't buy anything if I go. Now I know, its not just the buying stuff and trying on makeup, its spending time with the ladies and just kicking back, but I'm only going to know one person there, and thats the one who invited me. Ive turned this into such a huge deal in my head, I have to let her know by this saturday if Im going or not. I feel I come across as too intense if I were to say no, and explain why. I feel so sensitive to the persons reaction...

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Maybe if you just use the reason of only liking your own make-up. There are many women who have their own favourite make-up and don't like to bother with any other brands.
This way, you won't have to worry about her reaction, because it has nothing to do with not wanting to go because of the SA or only knowing one person there.
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Old 05-04-2010  
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I can't say I blame you, but that's because I always freak out when I know I'm going to be around a bunch of women whom I don't know. Things really aren't as scary as we make them out in our minds. Maybe you should make yourself go. That's what I started doing once people started inviting me out. Eventually I got used to it and then I began enjoying myself.

Will they be serving alcohol? Well, that would just be silly. I mean, makeup and alcohol may not mix very well. Don't mind that question. I'm drinking right now....

You might end up having fun and meeting some really nice people if you go. What's the worst that can happen?

I guess the worst that could happen is they think Im a snob, because I am pretty quiet and prefer to observe, also I'm awkward at saying goodbye, when the whole deminstration is done I'm afraid I'll run out the door lol..like okay c-ya lol, which is what I prefer to do. Im awkward at announcing that Im leaving.
And Im hoping there will be alcohol but I don't know.

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Old 05-06-2010  
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You don't have to go, the decision is yours.
Just like any event, people have different reasons to go.
Maybe this isn't your scene and you enjoy do things more suited to your style.

Or go with a friend, that way your not on your own and they can do all the talking!

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Old 05-06-2010  
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If you flat-out don't want to go , then don't! Easy peasy japanesey
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Old 05-07-2010  
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If you flat-out don't want to go , then don't! Easy peasy japanesey

I wish it was easy lol. Mostly I guess I want some kind of understanding.
Im still not sure if Im going or not.
Also, I get in so deep with overthinking things...or else I wouldnt have this problem...

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Old 05-07-2010  
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I think you should go, but it's totally up to how you are feeling about it.I don't like parties much either and I loathe the day one approaches. But in retrospect, I'm always glad I go, even when I make a completely fool of myself.
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well i've learned that if you KNOW it's gonna be terrible and you won't enjoy it, then it's perfectly ok to stay at home. BUT, if you think you could enjoy yourself there but are feeling uncomfortable, just try and push yourself to be there. i bet it NEVER goes as bad as you expect it to be.
just remember anyways, its absolutely fine to not go. as long as you know you wont beat yourself up about it afterwards
Yeah, that's my problem. I always beat myself up afterwards if I don't go.
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Old 05-07-2010  
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If you know you won't enjoy yourself, then don't, you'll only end up feeling terrible during the party; that clearly can be seen through you by your friend and it'd put pressure on her to keep you entertained. I noticed this when my friend tries to get me to be more sociable, but it just doesn't work out. Tell your friend, she will not mind. But if you feel like you want to go, give it a try, always push yourself, usually it turns out good, if it doesn't, you can always go home early. It's okay to leave early, I have done it plenty of times and nobody minds.
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I only ever went to one party in my life, and that was in year 11. It was so boring- I nearly drifted off to sleep. I'm still not sure what possessed me to attend. Everyone were just eating, drinking and talking. I just sat alone, acting antisocial.

I left early. Deciding that parties are not for me.

If you like socializing and talking to people, then go. If not...well, all I can say is - it's going to be a very depressing experience.
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