i feel awkward hugging ppl

LazyHermitCrab

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It just feels weird :confused: I don't really hug anyone besides someone i'm dating unless I get hugged first. It's not like I don't like hugs but sometimes I've gone for a hug and the other person acted like they didn't want a hug. It's also weird leaving someone and just waving most of the time so I guess it's gonna be another awkward thing to deal with. Anyone else?
 

WeirdyMcGee

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I do the good old greeting bow at 15 degrees.
Yep.

I don't like people touching me, so if it's a choice for me at all to not hug (as in-- I'm not being pulled into a hug) I will bow my head instead and say my thanks/greetings/whatnot.

My family members are mostly aware of this.
Some people are confused by it but accept it pretty quickly.
There are some people who refuse to accept a bow and will grab me and hug me instead.
It depends on the person, but I find a good rule of thumb is to close the hug- count to 3 and release.
haha Most people seem to be satisfied with that and will get the hint to stop hugging... unless they are plastered; then they will continue to hang all over me and tease me for trying to escape.

Anyway- I'm not a huggy/cuddly person.
Looks can be deceiving.
I wish I had spikes and could puff up to deter anyone from touching me; but I don't think that's very common in humans.
 

Shyangel

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I absolutely agree. Every time I've ever hugged someone(hardly ever) one person doesn't expect it and you both hesitate and kinda half hug. It's painfully awkward. I avoid it at all costs.
 

Iluv

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I do too! I only hug my family or people who I know it won't feel awkward. Other than that I tell people the excuse 'I'm a germaphobe' so I don't offend anybody
 

coyote

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my family wasn't very touchy or huggy

and neither were most people where i grew up

and where i live now

so it works pretty good for me

every now and then some huggy person shows up, and no one knows what to do

(although i really like closeness and hugging with a romantic partner - even in public)
 

Aletheia

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speaking without words

one person doesn't expect it and you both hesitate and kinda half hug

I love touch. I love hugging boyfriends and family members and I can't imagine not hugging my nephews.

But when someone with whom I don't have an established touch relationship hugs on me, I get taken aback. And whenever I'm taken aback, I freeze and can't think what to do. Which doesn't foster warm acceptance.
 

DeadmanWalking

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I really don't feel comfortable hugging people or showing any form of affection. Ever when I'm hugging my family, I always put one arm around them and kinda lean away from them. They have to force me to put both arms around them::p:! Hugging someone I like is a bit easier, but I still feel uncomfortable hugging them. I've never hugged someone voluntarily with both arms.
 

LazyHermitCrab

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Hugs are nice but it's just a lot to think about so it's not always worth it lol. Someone may say here's a hug and give me a half hug when i'm going for a normal hug and i feel like i'm getting pushed back haha. I would hug anyone if everyone had the same kind of hug style or I would just know if someone would rather a handshake or something. Whatever is comfortable. I want to look at someone and just know if that person wants a hug or not. Some may think i'm standoffish and others would say i'm too in their space and well idk :eek:
 

LazyHermitCrab

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I really don't feel comfortable hugging people or showing any form of affection. Ever when I'm hugging my family, I always put one arm around them and kinda lean away from them. They have to force me to put both arms around them::p:! Hugging someone I like is a bit easier, but I still feel uncomfortable hugging them. I've never hugged someone voluntarily with both arms.

Family hug attack ::p: each hug is not the same though. My uncle hugs for what feels like 20 seconds i'm thinking "uhh the greeting has been accomplished already sir?"
 

Invisibleman

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I cant even remember the last time somebody gave me a hug,most people just seem to want to skip me whenever they give out hugs. The one time a girl has ever hugged me was for free hug day which is sad, I didnt know where to hold really so I just did like a half hug with one arm.
 

LittleKitty

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I like hugging people. I hugged one of those people holding a free hug sign once. Hugs are great =D Though, I don't usually hug people.

For me hugs are awkward when you feel uncomfortable and then the person tries to go in for a hug. Emotionless hugs are awkward for me too, also when you hardly know the person.
 

Lexington

Banned
I've never hugged someone for so long.(since I was a kid)
I feel other people (especially girls) don't want me to hug them, so I avoid the situation.
 
Same here. I don't like it when people touch me. I don't even like touching people. the only people I hug is mom and dad. If I had a boyfriend, I'll hug him of course.
 

Cyanide2601

Active member
I hugged my dads girlfriend (who happens to be my best friend) for the first time in 16 years a while ago. Both her and my dad welled up with tears like it was my wedding day or something.......i guess i should make more of an effort.
It just doesnt occur to me that people might want me to hug them, because i never want people to touch me, unless they are my partner of course.
 

Rembrandt Broam

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I'm OK with being hugged, but I'm not really a hug initiator. I'd find it really awkward to actually go up to someone and hug them unless it was someone I already had that sort of relationship with. I mean, as someone with SA even a "Hi" is difficult for me, so a hug is way too much to expect. ::p:
 
Hugging is awkward for me, too. My family was never touchy/feely, and honestly the first hug I can remember getting is when I was 14 or 15- from a lady at church. She made a comment about how "closed off" I was about it (I had my elbows bent and locked at my side, I think). Since then, I've learned how to hug with open arms, even though on the inside I still have the feeling off "Oh no, don't touch me."

That being said, I do like hugs when it's someone I actually want to hug, but I never initiate them, except with my children.
 
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