I feel hated by the world

Ive been bullied a few times in my life and now I feel hated. It's horrible, I don't trust people, Im stressed out, Im paranoid, Im inscure and Im a loner. I can't be around people coz it drains me and I feel exhausted all the time. I feel like Im bad company and so I stay alone but Im lonely and sad and afriad I wont get better. help.

jellybean said:

Ive been bullied a few times in my life and now I feel hated. It's horrible, I don't trust people, Im stressed out, Im paranoid, Im inscure and Im a loner. I can't be around people coz it drains me and I feel exhausted all the time. I feel like Im bad company and so I stay alone but Im lonely and sad and afriad I wont get better. help.

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i was once a bully in my school..But you know what now im a father i feel sorry for the things ive done to my old schoolmate because i bullied them sorry for my bad english.Remember this everbody needs a friend no man is an island just do good to others and i promise you it is a good karma.the persons bullying you just be good to him im sure he will realize his mistakes hes doin to you.he will regret it when he gets older.dont be insecure you know what the loner in our school is now a successful bussinesman its proven just do best on what you do,ignore the guy that pushes you around,when you ignore him he will realize his nonsense to you..(i hope you get my point im not good in english) i hope i can help you! ill pray for you friend..

thanks for reply but you know what, Im an adult thats the sad thing. Ive been bullied in the workplace and bullied by friends when I was at a very low point in my life! Im embarrassed coz Im being bullied by adults and Iman adult too. I should be able to handle this but I have been so depressed and stressed from it. Do you mind me asking why did you bully when you were younger? did you have a reason? what was the bullied person like, were the different or quiet or vulnerable or something?

you need to make it very awkward for that person, if they ever bully you again ....because if they know your easily stepped on they'll keep doing it ...its a vicious cycle

if you lash out at a certain bully in front of other co-workers or people and make it an issue that will make it awkward for him then they will most likely stop and realise you wont put up with it ....

Yell at them at the top of your lungs to back off and to not talk to you ...just do it
even if you grab their shirt or just push them hard, dont punch them or use any violance obviously, but a forceful push just to show them what happens if they want to play games with you ...

trust me bullies should be fired on the spot in my opinion and taken straight to a mental hospital to be taught how to treat people and when they're cured of that awful characteristic only then can they be let back out into society....thats how i see it, its one of the worst things you can do to a person ..is to be a repetative bully, there is a difference between sarcasm and abuse in the form of a bully whether its psychological or physical or both ...

jellybean said:

thanks for reply but you know what, Im an adult thats the sad thing. Ive been bullied in the workplace and bullied by friends when I was at a very low point in my life! Im embarrassed coz Im being bullied by adults and Iman adult too. I should be able to handle this but I have been so depressed and stressed from it. Do you mind me asking why did you bully when you were younger? did you have a reason? what was the bullied person like, were the different or quiet or vulnerable or something?

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Hello again. A lot of adults are bullied, and bullying is not just a school thing so don't feel embarassed about it. The reason why people become bullies is that they are so insecure about themselves they try and shift their insecurities, so that the victim is made to feel bad about themselves. Most of the time bullies are part of a gang and they do it just because they are afraid of being outcasted...In short bullies are lame.

hey recluse, I know it says more about them than it does about me but it's hard being subjected to it. The only thing I console myself with is the fact that I have a clear conscience and I always think that people like that must hate themselves for what they do but maybe they don't, maybe they can live with themselves just fine? hope everything is going ok for you

jellybean said:

hey recluse, I know it says more about them than it does about me but it's hard being subjected to it. The only thing I console myself with is the fact that I have a clear conscience and I always think that people like that must hate themselves for what they do but maybe they don't, maybe they can live with themselves just fine? hope everything is going ok for you

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They can live with it because most of the time bullies are self-centered and stubborn. That is, until they burn all their bridges (which inevitably happens) and they're the ones left feeling alone and unwanted... then they start to come out of it. But unlike you, they deserve it, so don't feel bad about em too much.

jellybean said:

hey recluse, I know it says more about them than it does about me but it's hard being subjected to it. The only thing I console myself with is the fact that I have a clear conscience and I always think that people like that must hate themselves for what they do but maybe they don't, maybe they can live with themselves just fine? hope everything is going ok for you

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I don't know, perhaps some bullies are narcissists.

I can relate to everything you've said

I'm kinda feeling the same way right now, man. You're definitely not alone! (Although I know that fact is of little respite.)

I'm currently in the middle of my 3rd week of six-day workweeks, which is actually a breeze compared to some of the things I've seen. It's just the principle of the thing that bothers me. 'Cause out of 10 people in the department, I'm the only one that gets stuck with the extra day when something happens. The first of these three weeks, I had actually put in for a personal day, so I was looking forward to three days off in a row (for the first time in 6 years there, no less), then por supuesto, something came up. Had to work two of those days. Meanwhile, everyone else still got their 2 days off. Week after that (last week), someone else has a personal day, they get their three days off, I work six days again. This week, everyone's got two days off except me. I feel like I'm making this all about myself, when it's really them that make it all about me now isn't it? I'm sure they just figure well since I'm so shy I must not have a life, so it doesn't matter.

Cut the foreplay and kill me already. (Sorry, I just love that line, I made it up myself too!)