I feel I can't get close to anyone anymore

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missjesss

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Because I've been dealing with social anxiety for so long I can def feel a sense of change heading towards avpd as I think I have both now I cannot even get close to anyone for fear of rejection once they see who I rlly am I just don't know anymore I even find it hard to be around my own family members sometimes I just think im turning avoidant I mean don't get me wrong I have my good days where I can see ppl and go out etc but I feel as though im a big secret and no one rlly knows me and I dont know how to let anyone know me :-(
 
fitftw

fitftw

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At least you want people to know you. It's not that I don't know how, because I definitely do. I just plain don't want to let people in, because everything about people irks me, down to the little things. I can deal with internet just fine, but being in close quarters with people makes me feel extremely awkward and I try to get away as quickly as I can.
 
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missjesss

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yes well I have started to feel like that as of late even around so called friends and family I feel as tho im an outsider and they don't know me at all I always feel like theres a huge mask and I just can't **** it off and be myself anymore!!!
 
fitftw

fitftw

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the only socialization I get is at school and it freaks me out. I'm only comfortable in my room, which is where I am 95% of the day, every day.
 
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missjesss

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well at least you go to school hey do you have any friends or anything?

I know being alone makes me happy sometimes I think I am slightly introverted aswell so yeah I am trying my hardest to beat this problem tho who knows what will happen and where I'll be next year :)
 
fitftw

fitftw

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I don't have friends, I have acquaintances. I even avoid my roommate 99% of the time. I have online friends, and that's about it. A year is a long time, you might be totally different in a year.
 
Confuseddd

Confuseddd

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Yeah i feel the same way.
I feel lonely and that no one really knows me.
I don't know what im gonna do when my bestfriend... my only true friend...
goes away for college. I am going to turn into a sad sad man. I need a girlfriend so i can have an intimate connection with someone, but i am losing hope that is possible at this point for me.
 
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missjesss

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Confuseddd

I have always relied on a bf since I can remember but now I can honestly say that im starting to find myself and I do not need a bf I thought I was getting better when I was with my ex bf (I was only half into him coz I thought I couldnt do any better silly s.a) I tried to break it off with him 4 or 5 times but kept getting back coz I was lonely and weak at the time I feel alot stronger within myself now to say that i honestly don't mind if im alone or not :) you need to find that inner strength
 
Bustn Justin

Bustn Justin

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I feel if people really knew me they would turn away. Its not like I have some huge secrets, just think they don't like me for me.

Now that i live on my own, I don't try to go out and spend time with other people. I feel more confortable being in my own home on the net or watching TV.
 
Confuseddd

Confuseddd

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missjesss said:
Confuseddd

I have always relied on a bf since I can remember but now I can honestly say that im starting to find myself and I do not need a bf I thought I was getting better when I was with my ex bf (I was only half into him coz I thought I couldnt do any better silly s.a) I tried to break it off with him 4 or 5 times but kept getting back coz I was lonely and weak at the time I feel alot stronger within myself now to say that i honestly don't mind if im alone or not :) you need to find that inner strength
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i've had that inner strength... for awhile now. It is just to the point I want that connection again from someone. I miss the feeling of being in love and having someone care about my well being
 
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missjesss

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Confuseddd

Yeah I do understand that well are you joined to any dating sites I would suggest giving them a go..

I am currently seeing someone now I rlly liek him but my s.a makes me very cautious and I don't know how im going to tell him about it when the time comes.. eek
 
Confuseddd

Confuseddd

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missjesss said:
Confuseddd

Yeah I do understand that well are you joined to any dating sites I would suggest giving them a go..

I am currently seeing someone now I rlly liek him but my s.a makes me very cautious and I don't know how im going to tell him about it when the time comes.. eek
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I could try that I guess , but i dont want to have to i suppose.
You know what i mean? Im not even sure what it would take for me to really fall in love with a girl. I just know it is not very easy ehh : /
 
Just G

Just G

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Listen Jess, the only advice that I can give you is to be totally honest with your friends about it. By opening up about your issues, you could create a deeper connection with them. This also gives them the opportunity to open up about their own problems.

I've had those "emotional" talks with my boys, and most of the time it's resulted in newfound appreciation for one another.

It's usually how you find out who your true friends are.

I know that doesn't do you much good, but if you would like to give me a more detailed overview of the issue, then my door is always open to help. :)
 
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