I feel so alone

Hi,

This is my first post. I have been feeling so horrible for the past few weeks. I just moved to a new country and still havent been able to speak the language yet. I moved here because i thought i would surprise someone whom i love deeply. He is from here but he is working in another country. I thought he would be ecstatic to know that im coming to his country and trying to learn the language to communicate better with him. It has been a while since we last talked ( we used to talk daily but due to some stupid words i said to him when i was angry, we stopped being so close) and now after i informed him about the news, he appeared so uninterested. He said he was busy with work. I did a little check and found out he had a new job just about 2 months ago. He did mention that he wanted to find work in my country some 3, 4 months ago but now he ended up getting a job in the same country he has been living and not even tell me anything about it.

Now I feel so terribly lonely. I canot make friends here yet, plus i can't speak the language yet so how to communicate? and I'm also on the shy side. I know i have to move on and get on with my dreams, but I feel so terrible especially at night and when i wake up, all I could remember was him.

What can I do now? I want to join a fitness club or yoga club here, but it would be so stupid to not understand the people

I think you have it right, you need to just move on..

Use google and youtube to help you learn some basic phrases of the new language and yes, go join the yoga class or health club! You can pick up little bits of speech here and there just by listening in on others.

Good luck

That flat out sucks! But looking on the positives, there are people in Spain who speak English! It's the lingua franca of Europe. And you speak a second language, so you are clearly a capable learner in that regard. This move was a bold one, and you are in that rocky immersion phase, but if you embrace the challenge you will be a stronger person for it! Like I said, you are clearly an intelligent and capable young woman, you can do this. I have been there myself, trust me, it gets better. But you need to put yourself out there first. Opportunities aren't going to come to you, and the more you back off the more pressure you place on your shoulders. In any case, whatever you decide to do I wish you all the best

You shouldn't have moved to another country to surprise someone. It's a huge risk. Now that you're there, you have to start over, maybe buy one of those dictionary things for tourists to learn the basics, go to coffee shops, etc. Try to find a community nearby for people who come from wherever you're from. Also, join whatever clubs you want to join. In no time, the language will become easier and easier for you to understand.

I guess i have to learn the language first before joining some clubs.

Have you other reasons to be there or was it just for him?

I hope things get better for you soon