I feel terrible for having this feeling

dannyboy65

Well-known member
Well I have a good friend from college. For a long time I had a crush on her but I still treated her normal and like a good friend. We tell each other everything and we are really open.

Recently however her boyfriend cheated on her for the second time. Their relationship is done and she is depressed. I'm helping her the best I can and even hanging out with her and trying to make her feel better. I just don't want to feel that I'm only doing this cause she's my crush.

Something in me wants to be in a relationship with her. But a much larger part wants to help her the best I can. I feel guilty for thinking about being in a relationship with her when she is hurting.

Is it wrong for me to think that even though I won't act on it. I do care that she makes it through this for the greater good.
 

slimjim119

Well-known member
That's good your helping a friend who's going through a bad time. I wouldn't feel guilty about your crush. Your only human. Maybe down the road your friend will develop romantic feelings for you. Right now I would just help her through her tough time and leave it at that.
 

Corrs63

Active member
You're helping her and that's fine, either as a friend or as a crush. Relationship could start with the friendship. There's nothing wrong with that.
 
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