I got stood up on a date. Whats wrong with me??

PrincessKitty

PrincessKitty

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I haven't been dating in about 4 years because of my previous relationship (the guy was abusive towards me)
Then when I feel like dating again. I got stood up.

Me and this guy planned everything, then on the day he kept texting me "are you sure you want to go"
I kept on replaying "yeah sure :)"
So when it was nearly 4pm i got a text saying "meet me in an hour" so I did (still at my house) then when it was 4:30 (around that time) He texted me saying "can we meet in 45 minutes"
So I did again, finally i walked down and I was about 5-15 minutes late. But when I got there he wasn't there.
After two days no explanation, no apologies.

I don't want to date after that. I've been stood up by my ex and then another guy I was seeing. Now 4 years later I got stood up again.

What's wrong with me?? :crying:
 
FountainandFairfax

FountainandFairfax

in a VAN down by the RIVER
I'm sorry you had to go through that.

Nothing is wrong with you, people are ****s sometimes and social phobics often attract the worst kinds.
 
shyflower

shyflower

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FountainandFairfax said:
I'm sorry you had to go through that.

Nothing is wrong with you, people are ****s sometimes and social phobics often attract the worst kinds.
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I agree 100% on that one..we think it is always us with the problem and they point the fingers at us.. not always the case.. some people feel they can do no wrong..it is sad! Thumbs down to that idiot :thumbdown:
 
S_Spartan

S_Spartan

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This is the age of "The Flake". This behavior is absolutely everywhere now. I have no idea what people get out of it.

I blame texting because it gives people a mask to hide behind.

I also blame social media because it gives people this subconscious misconception that they have unlimited options(when they really don't).

Someone needs to do a study on this because it's becoming a big part of our culture.

I've even been hearing a lot lately of business people standing up their clients with no explanation being given.
 
MikeyC

MikeyC

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Did you ever find out why he stood you up?

There doesn't seem to be any reason for it, really. I wouldn't put any thought into it. He's not the right guy for you (or any girl if this is continued behaviour).
 
PugofCrydee

PugofCrydee

You want to know how I got these scars?
look at it as a blessing in disguise. Any reasonable guy who has respect for the person they are dating would at least communicate.
You don't want this guy, but in a strange way he's done you a favor by showing how he treats people.
Move on to better things and nicer people.
 
Srijita52

Srijita52

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There is nothing wrong with you. There's something wrong with the guy. Maybe he's just a player. Have you asked him why he stood you up?
 
WeirdyMcGee

WeirdyMcGee

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I know it *feels* crappy but there's nothing wrong with you.
It's probably just bad luck. :thumbdown:

My sister and aunt each set me up on several blind dates and I was ditched/stood up on every single one of them.
So, to this day, I've still only been on *one* first date, ever.
Pretty sure I'll die alone. haha
 
Hoppy

Hoppy

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"What is wrong with me?"

Why did you ask what is wrong with you?

Why didn't you ask what is wrong with him?
 
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MistMoon

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PrincessKitty said:
I haven't been dating in about 4 years because of my previous relationship (the guy was abusive towards me)
Then when I feel like dating again. I got stood up.

Me and this guy planned everything, then on the day he kept texting me "are you sure you want to go"
I kept on replaying "yeah sure :)"
So when it was nearly 4pm i got a text saying "meet me in an hour" so I did (still at my house) then when it was 4:30 (around that time) He texted me saying "can we meet in 45 minutes"
So I did again, finally i walked down and I was about 5-15 minutes late. But when I got there he wasn't there.
After two days no explanation, no apologies.

I don't want to date after that. I've been stood up by my ex and then another guy I was seeing. Now 4 years later I got stood up again.

What's wrong with me?? :crying:
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It's definitely not you dear...this guy sounds like a real toolbag. You're actually LUCKY it didn't work out, if this is the way he handles dates. You don't want to get involved with someone like that and then find out later their true colors. Don't give up on dating, it'll be worth it once you find the right person. :)
 
SeasonalBlues

SeasonalBlues

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I'm thinking maybe he got really nervous and couldn't go through with it because of that. And he's now so embarrassed with himself, he's just avoiding you. Just a thought.
 
THeCARS1979

THeCARS1979

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PrincessKitty said:
I haven't been dating in about 4 years because of my previous relationship (the guy was abusive towards me)
Then when I feel like dating again. I got stood up.

Me and this guy planned everything, then on the day he kept texting me "are you sure you want to go"
I kept on replaying "yeah sure :)"
So when it was nearly 4pm i got a text saying "meet me in an hour" so I did (still at my house) then when it was 4:30 (around that time) He texted me saying "can we meet in 45 minutes"
So I did again, finally i walked down and I was about 5-15 minutes late. But when I got there he wasn't there.
After two days no explanation, no apologies.

I don't want to date after that. I've been stood up by my ex and then another guy I was seeing. Now 4 years later I got stood up again.

What's wrong with me?? :crying:
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Hey, maybe its not you, maybe its them. and if you look anything like that avatar your a knock out
 
dannyboy65

dannyboy65

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PrincessKitty said:
I haven't been dating in about 4 years because of my previous relationship (the guy was abusive towards me)
Then when I feel like dating again. I got stood up.

Me and this guy planned everything, then on the day he kept texting me "are you sure you want to go"
I kept on replaying "yeah sure :)"
So when it was nearly 4pm i got a text saying "meet me in an hour" so I did (still at my house) then when it was 4:30 (around that time) He texted me saying "can we meet in 45 minutes"
So I did again, finally i walked down and I was about 5-15 minutes late. But when I got there he wasn't there.
After two days no explanation, no apologies.

I don't want to date after that. I've been stood up by my ex and then another guy I was seeing. Now 4 years later I got stood up again.

What's wrong with me?? :crying:
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Nothing is wrong with you people are stupid. My last date which was 2 years ago went terrible. We were watching a movie at the theater and I held her hand. we did for about 30 mins and then she said she was going to the bathroom. She never returned, texted me back or did anything to tell me she was sorry I felt terrible
 
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