I hate change...

lilmutegirl

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I had trouble titling this thread, but the title I chose seemed all-encompassing, so I went with it for its versatility.
Currently, the change I need to deal with is that I need a second job (like, I'll need to start next month, or figure out a whole new budget/dip into savings more than I already am, etc.)
I put my application into one place and on Friday, the manager called me. I have not called back (it is 2:00 pm on Monday). I'm very anxious about talking to her, setting up an interview, going to an interview, possibly starting the job, etc. I feel confident that if my availability fits, I could obtain this position, and probably be fairly comfortable (for me, at least) and do okay. It's just the initial change of getting the job and adjusting that freaks me out...
 

lilmutegirl

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I know...the thing is, yes, I realize that I need a job, and this is a potential job. Even if I don't get the job, it could be good experience to get back into the job market. However, I don't have total control of this situation, and I'm kind of freaking out...I also worry that if I wait much longer, it will be too late (but I don't know how late is "too late). I assume if I call today, it may be okay, but what about tomorrow or Wednesday?? I want to be prepared when I do call...
 

Sacrament

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You won't be more prepared than now. The more you wait, the more you'll suffer in anticipation. Also, the quicker you take that leap (knowing you can take it because you're ready and able), the more proud and relieved you'll feel afterward, not to mention confident in future endeavors.
 

PugofCrydee

You want to know how I got these scars?
I personally have found the best way to deal with these situations (or anything that is going to cause any sort of anxiety for me) is to simply acknowledge that its going to be just that - uncomfortable - then simply attack it.

I know its uncomfortable, I know I have to/should do it.
I know no one can make this easier or get it done but me.

So I usually just 'harden' my senses, focus on what needs to be done, and do it.

I realize this approach wont be suitable for many people. But it works well for me.
Maybe you could try it out, start with something simple and keep getting things done until you work your way up to the more uncomfortable things :)
 

lilmutegirl

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Sacrament and PugofCrydee: You're so right, and thanks for the advice: it is very practical and not all flowery and metaphorical (I tend to espouse some things that are vague in an attempt to not give concrete advice myself, and I don't like it when people say the same to me).
 

lilmutegirl

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So, I had an interview with the store manager and another with the district manager. I have been offered the position (pending a background check, which I'm sure will come back fine). It even pays more than I anticipated. I am excited, but a little nervous that I won't do as well as I hope to. I may like change somewhat after all...
 

Deus_Ex_Lemur

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So, I had an interview with the store manager and another with the district manager. I have been offered the position (pending a background check, which I'm sure will come back fine). It even pays more than I anticipated. I am excited, but a little nervous that I won't do as well as I hope to. I may like change somewhat after all...

Great to hear! From your OP I relate SO much in past. Even now again havin been unemployed those feelings prob WILL return when get back to that time off for your thoughts to overtake reason. Gotta fight that and realize what just happened - you may like change afterall - it's NEVER as bad as WE MAKE it in our imagination.

You will do better than you think and remember you will NOT be flawless no one is, mistakes is how we learn. I remember fearing that so much, on a film set doing a newer crew position - I definitely got flustered sometimes and was slow but I learned. I asked questions too when unsure. It's a good uncomfortable.

So always sucks to be the new gal or dude but that passes quicker than think. Assuming you pass your background check which I don't knowwww you seem like you have a few skeletons in the closet...... :thinking::applause:
 

Crankor

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One thing i've noticed from interviews, they always make the job sound way more complicated than it really is. Like they go on a 15 minute rant about one part of the job and it translates to -pick this up, put it down here-

I blame it on people really not being good at explaining things. I tease managers often about that. I listen in on them explaining something and instead if just saying it in 3 words they go on with like 4 different stories about it....
 

lilmutegirl

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So...now I am just waiting...I had two interviews and turned in the application, and have a tentative start date (a week from tomorrow--but no specific time). I am also waiting to hear back about my grad school application. One of my letters of reference was hopefully turned in this weekend, and that was all that was missing from my application. As soon as everything is received and reviewed, I will be contacted for an interview...
 

lilmutegirl

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I think my grad school application process will be done soon. :) I have two potential people to write letters of reference for me--I guess whoever submits one first wins. I am very excited about this, surprisingly.
 

lilmutegirl

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So, now I have an official start date (next Sunday) and I was super excited, until I got an email this afternoon that one of our full-time people at my other job (the one I want to make a career of) is no longer employed there (as of today).
Firstly, I am really curious as to why she is no longer working there--like, did she do something that caused her to get fired, or did she quit of her own accord (I know she has health issues). If she got fired, I would like to learn from her mistakes.
Secondly, she is 63, so I anticipated that she would possibly be retiring in the next few years (around the time I finish my Master's degree and would be prepared to take over the job). My boyfriend thinks this could be a good opportunity for me, and I agree, except that I don't feel ready to take it on, and am not sure that I would be the best candidate for it right now (I had planned on improving my skills over the next couple of years before the opportunity would arise).
I would feel bad if I started my new job, only to change my availability (drastically) or quit because I got a full-time position, but it would be great to finally feel like an adult. Even if I don't get the job, a part-time position of the same description could open up (assuming a part-timer moves into the full-time spot), so I could at least possibly move up a pay grade...
 

lilmutegirl

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Today was my second day at my new job. It seems pretty good so far, but a little overwhelming with all the new information, but once I get used to it, I think it may be okay.
Now I am mostly concerned that if I end up getting the full-time job I want, I will have to change my availability at the new job or quit. Even though, in the long run, I would rather have this full-time job, and it would be most beneficial, I would feel guilty if I abandoned this new one so soon...
 

lilmutegirl

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Well, I currently work part-time at the library. This is what I want to do long-term, and it pays more than the part-time job at the store I just started. The potential full-time job is at the library. It would be much more lucrative than what I am currently making. I don't know if I would necessarily get the full-time job, and if I do not obtain that position, I would need to the job at the store to stay afloat financially. I just feel awkward at the potential of quitting a job I just started...and if I apply for the full-time job and don't get it, I'm not sure what I will do in the next several years career-wise...
 

lilmutegirl

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Yes, I could. And, I am really jumping the gun here with my worry: full-time position hasn't even been posted, so I have not applied. In fact, it occurred to me that they may try to cut costs by transferring someone in the same position from another location and eliminating the position that has just been vacated, so it's not guaranteed that anyone will get the job, technically.
I think I am slightly overwhelmed with the new job, also, so I am probably looking for a reason for it not to work out.
 
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