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Old 04-28-2008
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i have no friends, my mother doesn't talk to me, I get a lot of chances for a girlfriend but I am too shy to go for it so i **** it up. I am always nervous. I really think I am going crazy slowly, the same way someone in jail who never sees anyone so they go crazy, but faster than me of course.

anyone I try to talk to says "just go make friends" well it's hard when every kid at school always treated you like shit and you never had a friend. please tell me what to do. I have no one to talk to. I am not depressed, I am mostly lonely from all my ruined chances. what can be done. I think I am crazy.

I want to die from the loneliness. I would never try to suicide although I will always suffer always. I really can't talk to anyone at all. I am in new jersey.
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Old 04-28-2008
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Well you have already took the first step by comming here. Stick around and start posting here. You can start off with online friends then maby meet them in real life.
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Old 04-28-2008
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Try visiting the chat room, for starters. I've noticed that I'm able to open up more in a chat room than even in a forum.

And my friends in the past have said that I'm a lot easier to talk to in things like an instant messenger program. Definitely take baby steps. When you've talked to someone online it makes it easier to talk to them in person, I think. Talking online can be a way of making a habit of talking to people.

But anyways...have you tried talking to a doctor? I don't know how bad your problem is but social anxiety/social phobia really is considered a medical problem, and there are doctors out there who are capable of helping people like you and me.
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Old 04-28-2008
 

I don't have any friends either. I figure its mainly because I'm socially inept and I trust no one. It would be difficult to suddenly make friends after years of having no friends. Maybe you could begin making friends online, since its probably easier for you to speak to others from a distance. I would recommend paying a visit to the chat room here, but when I try to go into it, the whole internet closes out on me(I wonder if its incompatible with the Fire Fox program). :? But the question is, how would these people truly act in person?
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Old 04-28-2008
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Well MotherWolff do you have JAVA?
If you dont get MIRC from the internet, you should pay a visit to the chat here, its wort the effort.
I have foud that chatting online realy helps me with my APD, so maybe it can help you too.
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Old 05-01-2008
 

Hey thanks scorpion, JAVA was what I needed.However, there was hardly anyone on the SPW chatroom. I always seem to visit chatrooms at the wrong time of the day. When I'm in one its like there's hardly anyone to there to speak to. And alot of times I worry too much about saying the wrong things. Don't you theloneliest? But I won't give up the chatrooms idea just yet. I just have to get into the habit of going to those more often.
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Old 05-08-2008
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I need friends now.
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Old 05-08-2008
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I don't know if i said this but I have no friends really. and I am going crazy, I need a gf but I am too shy. I need someone to talk to now and I really wish I could be gone.
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Old 05-08-2008
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Hi theLoneliest. I think you should stop focusing so much on haveing friends and focus more on just interacting with people who share similar intrest.

Friendships dont happen relationships dont happen over night. Before you can have friends you must first just be around people weather it be online or in real life.
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Old 05-08-2008
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U can always choose to get better when you feel ready, so never give up. Also stop wanting relationships just let go. The attitude that you need friends is driving you crazy not the actual situation. Despite what you may think you can be content to live alone. You will not go crazy as long as you are around others from time to time even if you don't talk with them. Let go of outcome focus on plan for recovery :wink:
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Old 05-23-2008
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Hi Loneliest,

Thanks for your post. It sounds like I'm a bit older than you, but I know exactly what you are going through. People aren't meant to be alone no matter what anyone says. It is a horrible existence made even worse by the lack of understanding by most people.

Most of us have so much to offer, but it is often hidden behind our anxiety.

Please feel free to write me anytime.
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Old 06-11-2008
 

I don't believe that being alone is necessarily a bad thing as most of society declare it to be. Solitude has its own rewards; rewards that gregarious individuals may never receive. Isolation(or anything else just about including excessive company of others) is only a negative aspect when it begins to cause one's everyday life to deteriorate somehow. So establishing relationships with others may help ease the amplified loneliness or get rid of it altogether. But I don't think the company of others can guarantee anyone that they will be happy and content for the rest of their lives. I am certain that even relationships can cause more harm than loneliness for some people.
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Old 08-13-2009
 

About 3 months ago my wife walked out on me, and it wasn't long after that I was diagonised with having a cyst on the brain, so I have been off sick from work. I have been at home for about 10 weeks now, and not once has anyone phoned me, don't get me wrong I've tried phoning them without any luck. I feel so alone and helpless. It's so hard sitting around wondering what to do with no one self with no one to talk to. I cry most nights because I feel like so alone and I don't sleep to well ether, I don't know weather the pain inside my head or the pain inside my heart feels the worst, all I know is that I don't want to feel alone anymore, and as I write this with tears rolling down my face, I feel what's the point in staying on the planet. Yeah sure enough I've thought about ending my life because I can't stand anymore pain or feeling the sense that no one cares, and the one that gets me is I also feel like some dirty rag only fit for the bin. I hate this life and to be frank it stinks. I know this might sound a bit long winded, but I've had enough of feeling alone, and I just need to unload some of this pain before it kills me. Now I have had to give up work, which makes me feel happy and sad at the same time
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Old 08-14-2009
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Something very similar happened to me. I am also alone. I think that something may help you is that before we are born we choose lessons to learn in life. For example, also no one calls me. They all seem super stingy. And, the most beautiful diamonds are the ones that are going through the most work. Not easy. It helps to think that you learned that this lifetime you chose to "make it on your own". Then at least you know whey there is the lonliness. Then perhaps sometime soon there will be nice people to come into your life. But if you think that you chose to lean peoples' selfish ways, then you advance spiritually. Does that help?
 
 
Old 08-19-2009
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You have stolen the title of so many of my journal entries.

I am amazed that someone else thinks the same thing.
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Old 08-29-2009
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. . . um . . . but not anymore.
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Old 08-29-2009
 

You are not alone, we are here for you. Do you have a doctor you can entrust in? They can give you a recommendation for a psychiatrist. I also heard from someone that you can get a support worker to hang out with and talk to, to get you out of the house and into social events.
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Old 08-29-2009
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try playing online multiplayer games like Second Life (i just started and its a social game, you can create/do anything you want or completely mimic real life in the game).
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Old 08-29-2009
 

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try playing online multiplayer games like Second Life (i just started and its a social game, you can create/do anything you want or completely mimic real life in the game).
OMG! That game is so boring, I spent so much money on that thing, it is ridiculous. I feel super more lonely in that game, it's another problem on top of a problem. Though, now that I think of it I needed to be reminded to eat....

It's not real life, not at all. Nothing can replace real life, and Secondlife makes real life worse sort of like the internet I am on right now. Sigh, I guess I am addicted now and need help for that too.
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