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Old 04-02-2011
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I think I lead a life which many could call 'successful'.

I am just about done with my engineering degree, I have a good job lined up after I graduate and I have a decent amount of money from my last job.

However, my life is so painfully empty, it's hard to put into words how lonely I get sometimes.

I have nothing that truly makes me happy anymore. Not my PS3 (I'll be selling it soon), not my music, not my academic successes...nothing. I feel like I can't take joy in anything in life, and I'm more and more being drawn to consume "soft drugs" in order to escape my misery.

I have no real friends to turn to; I sit at home on the weekends browsing the internet, and it gets so depressing once I become self-aware of how lacking my life is compared to my peers.

I'm at a very, very low point right now...hardly capable of finishing this post. So I'll get back to it later. For now, please, suggest something I could do...anything. I can't bear the stale, meaningless blandness of my life anymore. How can I find my calling?
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Old 04-02-2011
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Same,I've lost interest in everything except music and books,even gaming which I use to love.

Get a pet maybe,like a bird?Thats what I'm going to try sometime
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Yeah, you're meaning "I really enjoy(ed) that" feeling is no more there, depressive feelings, emptiness. There are probably thousands of people on here which feel the same, lacking in so many aspects, that we forget or don't see the little things that we do have/do. There are those things that I call my hobbies (browsing the internet, playing some PS3, watching TV) but honnestly, most of the time I'm just feeling like wasting my time without any real goal or meaning, like browsing hundreds of sites without actually reading what's on it, or deepening into a subject, feeling disconnected all the time. All signs of (mild) depression.

I personally fill night by browsing all kinds of news sites, gaming sites, forums, software sites, rushing through it all but honestly not having read 1 things seriously, taking the time to do it, just like watching TV, switching channels on the fly, no more taking time to watch & try to enjoy a full movie.

I personally only experimented with soft drugs a very long time ago, and looking back, in my personal case, it made things just worse.

It's such a cliché and probably you heard it hundreds of times, but ... Head up, and start by trying to enjoy little things, just a little chat, just something little you see or read, try not to "breed" on all the negative things you feel, just little by little.
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Old 04-02-2011
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well, volunteer to help those in need. Prayer helps also.
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Old 04-02-2011
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Congratulations on your degree,I wish I was at that stage of my life,what I would sugest is to find a club of some sorts or some sport that you like or anything like it,I think this would be a good start.
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Old 04-02-2011
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Why don't you see a therapist or a psychiatrist? Antidepressants might make you feel better.
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Old 04-02-2011
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I agree with Lonelykitsune. Pets are great for companions specially dogs. I have Keiser, my Siberian husky. Without him I have no idea where I would be. He's gotten me through loads of tough times. No matter what if you bring them up right, siberians or what ever dog you choose they know when you are down or depressed and are always there for you.

Better than some humans imo.

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Old 04-02-2011
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You've got to try.

Try to make yourself feel better within yourself, if only to spite the anxiety and depression. The anxiety and depression may still win most of the time, but at least you tried and sometimes maybe you will win and feel better about things even for a moment. Then you can say take that anxiety.

Give money to charity
Help yourself and others. Keep a good things list and try to build on it.
Exercise, sport. It can improve your mind, and the drugs produced are free (endorphins, seritonin).
Plan holidays, adventures. See the world, the country you live in.
Watch sunrises and sunsets
Take photographs, write stories, paint, draw.
Study for a masters or pHd.
Make a home for yourself
Get a pet or a menagerie of them. Then you will think about looking after your pets and not yourself all the time.
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Old 04-02-2011
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Hi
I also get VERY VERY DEPRESSED, and I often think that the best sollution for me would be to die, basically. But I know that I could never really kill myself, I´m too scared.
But, I also have good moments/days.

A pet could bring happy times. I will definitely get a dog when I find another place to live in a couple of months.

Travel to exciting/beautiful places, like the caribian coast in Costa Rica, or Bali in Indonesia... Or how about an ayurvedic retreat in India... Daily treatments with massages and healing. (Prices are low in India)

And how about trying to NOT use the computer too much. I have noticed that I sometimes get extra depressed when I spend hours n hours in front of a screen.

GO TO THE NATURE.... Even if it doesn´t seem "interesting" at first, you should to try to reconnect with nature, it can make you feel the oneness that exists there. Deep forests, deserted beaches, mountains...

I wish u all the best, and remember u are not the only one who feels that life is like a harsh joke.
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Old 04-02-2011
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I would really suggest doing sports and outdoor even if it sounds like a very annoying suggestion....
Or take a class of anything that you wish you could do (music, art, dance, language) but don't dare "because of your SA", and swear to yourself you will do it until the end even if it kills you
A dog is a good idea too, not only that dogs are awesome, it would force you to go outside and play with it and maybe talk to people who likes your dog.
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Old 04-03-2011
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However, my life is so painfully empty, it's hard to put into words how lonely I get sometimes.

I have no real friends to turn to;
Yep, you can be rich and have a great job, but if you don't have any friends or significant other, being rich can be meaningless. Humans have a deep desire for human connection, without it, we can be empty.
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Old 04-03-2011
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I'm going through the exact same thing, except I'm nowhere near successful.
Sometimes I feel so...disconnected. Like I'm just watching the world but I have no part in it.
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Old 04-03-2011
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something will come along google some ideas i suppose i never been in that situation lol dont be defeated....
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Old 04-03-2011
 

maybe you should question life and the real existence... because these are all material things that many people are robotically captivated by, its good you are not into that.. Maybe go on holiday, or find a new hobby.. i find doing something for someone makes me happy, being active... or having a goal in life to reach.

something to do, something to love and something to hope for = contentment.

or maybe love is what you need..
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Old 04-03-2011
 

I just have one question, are you looking forward to anything?

I do have another question: How did you succeed in school?

I have no advice because I feel the same way. I'm dating a wonderful guy finally after a string of unsuccessful attempts in dating and in relationships. I've received a scholarship and an internship. I'm a part of a school paper. All this for a girl who is super duper average.
For one, success makes me uncomfortable, I like being in the background most of the times.
Now, I'm still depressed and feel I'm lacking and I don't know why...
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Old 04-04-2011
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I think I lead a life which many could call 'successful'.

I am just about done with my engineering degree, I have a good job lined up after I graduate and I have a decent amount of money from my last job.

However, my life is so painfully empty, it's hard to put into words how lonely I get sometimes.

I have nothing that truly makes me happy anymore. Not my PS3 (I'll be selling it soon), not my music, not my academic successes...nothing. I feel like I can't take joy in anything in life, and I'm more and more being drawn to consume "soft drugs" in order to escape my misery.

I have no real friends to turn to; I sit at home on the weekends browsing the internet, and it gets so depressing once I become self-aware of how lacking my life is compared to my peers.

I'm at a very, very low point right now...hardly capable of finishing this post. So I'll get back to it later. For now, please, suggest something I could do...anything. I can't bear the stale, meaningless blandness of my life anymore. How can I find my calling?
Well I am Bi polar a lot of those feelings come from there and a ton is your environment. I feel the same way plus gaming is dying on consoles its coming back to pc and I would check out the program called steam works. It really is just an environment change even a small change can have a great affect. If your like me though dating is out of the question and going outside means you get arrested then stay home check out steam though. Sounds like a life change is needed and probably grew out of video games it happens once people stop dreaming and wishing. So create another goal and wish it may come back.
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Old 04-04-2011
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Hi,

I have found myself asking the same sort of questions...

I am going to be getting my papers, get a good job (im hoping SA will not hold me back) and be sucessful.

But right now, i have nothing i like to do. The only things i like to do, is drink and drug and that in the end will not help my situation. I am giving up drugs now, i am in addiction counselling and that is why i have come to realise my intrests faded whilst i was intrested in drinking and druggin'. That intrest has now become addiction...
- one piece of advice, please do not let that happen to you. It may help in the short term but from all my young years (and may i add i am still young) till where i am at now, it hasnt helped.

I dont really know what to say, i just wanted to say that i know that feeling.

Another thing tho i have come to realise is, intrests and hobbies do not just happen to find us...we must find them.

Ask yourself, what would you like to do? This will be the first step. I still am struggling with this step but will continue to struggle until i find something i like, something that i actully enjoy to do, something wich can occupy me for hours, something that i can be proud of, something that i can be silly about, something i will have forever, etc.
- like i said, i havnt found those things yet, but sometime i will. I dont want drink and drugs to be my intrest/hobbie. That as a hobbie, is no good...

...so dont go down that road

Take care
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Old 04-04-2011
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I'm not an actual doctor, but based on your analysis I would prescribe ...love.

Everyone can love, and I'm sure you will find interest there. It is human nature to love, and it's probably the one thing in the world that EVERYONE shares as a common interest.

Through love you can also find yourself maybe some of your hidden interests!
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Old 04-15-2011
 

One thing I know, spending too much time around tech stuff like computers and games would make you feel useless sometimes. That's for me, anyway.

Most things have been said and may sound typical, but personally I have found them previously fulfilling myself. Try to go out and volunteer. Travel and get around nature more rather than stare at some stuff that humans created. Maybe from then you can find the things that can give you that meaningful or joyous feeling you are looking for, you never know. Go out and search for it, they're out there waiting for you.
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Old 04-15-2011
 

I think eveyone goes through phases where they just get board of everything. The same thing happens to me ever know and then, I just seem to lose interest in everything. If I play a video game or watch a film Ill turn it of after 5 minutes. The best thing to do is maybe take up a new hobbie or activity. You could learn how to play an instrument or if you allready play one take up another one, its a very stastiying feelng learning to play something on a new instrument. Or take up some kind of physical activity, cycling, swimming or even just going for a walk every day. Anything really to just occupy your time.
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