NotAfraidJustBlah
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Hello... Well yeah, I"m not just trying to be positive or bump our self-esteem.. I always just felt like, the point of TALKING really is just for MEETING people.
In reality, for long term relationships people actually rather have quiet people.
But the problem is that they think, "but if you're quiet, how can I meet you?? You won't come talk to me, and that puts pressure on ME to talk"
Really.. talking, and talkative people, only get to MEET more people, but then that same virtue that allows them to meet people makes them annoying as a long term day to day friend.
That's the irony, and catch-22, of being quiet.
So really, we shouldn't be worried about being quiet... we should be concerned with ways to meet people when you are quiet...
.. Oh, I should also add though... being quiet AND "boring" isn't that good either... But, quiet.. and then being somewhat interesting in that you actually DO things, is what people actually prefer. People like quiet friends who DO things (like, having a super quiet friend, but who has some cool thing they do that people find out later on and think, wow, interesting)
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In reality, for long term relationships people actually rather have quiet people.
But the problem is that they think, "but if you're quiet, how can I meet you?? You won't come talk to me, and that puts pressure on ME to talk"
Really.. talking, and talkative people, only get to MEET more people, but then that same virtue that allows them to meet people makes them annoying as a long term day to day friend.
That's the irony, and catch-22, of being quiet.
So really, we shouldn't be worried about being quiet... we should be concerned with ways to meet people when you are quiet...
.. Oh, I should also add though... being quiet AND "boring" isn't that good either... But, quiet.. and then being somewhat interesting in that you actually DO things, is what people actually prefer. People like quiet friends who DO things (like, having a super quiet friend, but who has some cool thing they do that people find out later on and think, wow, interesting)
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