SamTheSammich
Active member
Okay so I'll try and make this as brief as possible. I met this girl,we have so much in common (with how in depth with video game lore she is,social stances,stances on certain issues going on in the general society and world,etc.) and have been talking for two weeks now (not long yes) but I've gotten to know her really well and told her about my general life story the other night. We've been talking as if we were very close and been sharing compliments back and forth and even going as far as talking about us dating and she even went with it. Now come last night she tells me that she doesn't see us working out as a couple.. and would rather be friends just all of the sudden out of nowhere completely unexpected..
I told her that I understood if thats how she really felt,but I was still confused why this happened all of the sudden when literally everything felt like it was going 100% well.. In my eyes the friendship between one another in a relationship is a major factor so it hurt when she told me this but not as bad as telling me something like "I don't want to have anything to do with you anymore" ,I was just happy that she was still by my side as a friend. She said she was too afraid to tell me sooner because she didn't want to hurt me,which is like me .. I understand that part ,I've been in that situation before being to scared to tell someone "no" because I didn't want to make them upset,I'm just still confused as to why it seemed like it was obviously going so well then right back down in a snap of a finger because usually you experience distance from that person or a different tone of feedback which didn't even happen,we just were talking normally the whole time. I'm getting the feeling something was told to her by someone about me that made her change her mind about me.. but I try not to overthink with that,what do you think? And now she still wants to keep plans about hanging out this weekend like we made before this happened,and I will go,I'm not going to do anything rash like going in to hold her hand because I want to keep my cool,but I also feel there MIGHT be a chance otherwise for something to develop.. I know I need to give this time and see but what do you think I should do? Just not keep getting my hopes up (even though its VERY VERY hard not to..) and keep waiting to see what happens or something else?
(Also I haven't been on here in a while so hello everybody again
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I told her that I understood if thats how she really felt,but I was still confused why this happened all of the sudden when literally everything felt like it was going 100% well.. In my eyes the friendship between one another in a relationship is a major factor so it hurt when she told me this but not as bad as telling me something like "I don't want to have anything to do with you anymore" ,I was just happy that she was still by my side as a friend. She said she was too afraid to tell me sooner because she didn't want to hurt me,which is like me .. I understand that part ,I've been in that situation before being to scared to tell someone "no" because I didn't want to make them upset,I'm just still confused as to why it seemed like it was obviously going so well then right back down in a snap of a finger because usually you experience distance from that person or a different tone of feedback which didn't even happen,we just were talking normally the whole time. I'm getting the feeling something was told to her by someone about me that made her change her mind about me.. but I try not to overthink with that,what do you think? And now she still wants to keep plans about hanging out this weekend like we made before this happened,and I will go,I'm not going to do anything rash like going in to hold her hand because I want to keep my cool,but I also feel there MIGHT be a chance otherwise for something to develop.. I know I need to give this time and see but what do you think I should do? Just not keep getting my hopes up (even though its VERY VERY hard not to..) and keep waiting to see what happens or something else?
(Also I haven't been on here in a while so hello everybody again
)