So...yesterday I was walking through the uni, on edge as always, watching out for "threatening" people - the hostile, the intimidatingly attractive, the loud and overconfident. I saw this awful-looking girl coming towards me from the corridor ahead, with a big frown, kind of stomping, wearing all black and with her fringe obscuring half her face. I braced myself to walk past her and avoid eye contact...and then realised that when I hunched my shoulders, so did she. Then I suddenly realised...Yup, you guessed it, I'd seen my own reflection and been put off by it!
(I can't believe I actually didn't recognise myself for a while there, but anyway...) At first my heart just sank when I realised how ugly I looked, then a few minutes later it hit me that that must be a huge factor in my being ignored or given funny looks by people.
Of course I've known for a long time that the "vibe" we send out to others through body language etc. influences how they treat us, but I didn't realise it could be such a strong message. This was a huge eye-opener....I think I'll bring it up in my next therapy session so I can get some help to work on it, because I've tried changing my posture and everything before, but it never seems to work; I think I need someone else to be there giving me feedback.