I think I've figured out why people react negatively to me (funny!)

blue-roses

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So...yesterday I was walking through the uni, on edge as always, watching out for "threatening" people - the hostile, the intimidatingly attractive, the loud and overconfident. I saw this awful-looking girl coming towards me from the corridor ahead, with a big frown, kind of stomping, wearing all black and with her fringe obscuring half her face. I braced myself to walk past her and avoid eye contact...and then realised that when I hunched my shoulders, so did she. Then I suddenly realised...Yup, you guessed it, I'd seen my own reflection and been put off by it! :eek: :D (I can't believe I actually didn't recognise myself for a while there, but anyway...) At first my heart just sank when I realised how ugly I looked, then a few minutes later it hit me that that must be a huge factor in my being ignored or given funny looks by people. ::(:

Of course I've known for a long time that the "vibe" we send out to others through body language etc. influences how they treat us, but I didn't realise it could be such a strong message. This was a huge eye-opener....I think I'll bring it up in my next therapy session so I can get some help to work on it, because I've tried changing my posture and everything before, but it never seems to work; I think I need someone else to be there giving me feedback.
 
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Sacrament

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Well, you were wearing all black and walked around as if you were the saddest thing on the face of the Earth. Gotta switch to brighter colors and maybe do something fun with your hair!
 
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