I want to get her out of there!

I'm sick of how my girlfriends parents treat her. Her dad threatens her and tells her right to her face he hates her. Her mom picks on her constantly and treats her like she is a joke. Today I witnessed her dad call her a coward and told her he wished she was dead. It pissed me off so badly that I had to go home before I hurt him.

In the past her father has almost killed her and her mom didn't do anything to stop it. They call her names, they beat her, neglect her, and are just awful people who are sad excuses for human beings.

She's been pushed so much that she doesn't even cry now, she doesn't know how. But after she started dating me she cried in front of them and they still didn't do anything.

I'm so sick of hearing about their abuse towards her. Hell they even gone to lengths to pick at me to her. I always tell her some day I will get her out of that house. Even if it means I have to work full time and go to school I just don't want to see her suffer anymore.

How old is she? I take it you live with parents or roommates(?). Given her situation, any chance she can temporarily move in with you anyway? Anything sounds better than her current situation.

theoutsider said:

How old is she? I take it you live with parents or roommates(?). Given her situation, any chance she can temporarily move in with you anyway? Anything sounds better than her current situation.

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She is 23 and she has a 3 year old son. That is why she can't move out yet.

so sorry to hear that broh i wish you will get through this somehow :|

Sometimes being nice isnt enough. You should man up and tell the parents you do not approve of how the speak about your partner and let them know you have a problem with it and that you'd like to be shown some respect in regard to how they speak about her in your presence.

The Observer said:

Sometimes being nice isnt enough. You should man up and tell the parents you do not approve of how the speak about your partner and let them know you have a problem with it and that you'd like to be shown some respect in regard to how they speak about her in your presence.

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I wish that was the answer, but if I do that I would never be able to see her again. They control her and treat her like garbage. It took me long enough for them to like me and I don't want to lose the privilege of seeing her and her son.

If she can't choose, who she wants to see with 23, there are surely more issues beyond how her parents treat her. Don't forget that it's her in the end that has to stand up against the things and people that harm her. If you take the full lead as a person from "outside", everything will probably escalate quickly with potentially bad results, e.g. if she feels pressured to turn against you. I would be a little careful, what seems crucial is that she stands up for herself, so in your position I would encourage her to do that, without necessarily going much further. Good luck!

Blueborn said:

If she can't choose, who she wants to see with 23, there are surely more issues beyond how her parents treat her. Don't forget that it's her in the end that has to stand up against the things and people that harm her. If you take the full lead as a person from "outside", everything will probably escalate quickly with potentially bad results, e.g. if she feels pressured to turn against you. I would be a little careful, what seems crucial is that she stands up for herself, so in your position I would encourage her to do that, without necessarily going much further. Good luck!

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She does stand up for herself. But in the past when she did her dad beat her and he still treats her like shit. We still see each other a lot I just hate seeing her treated how she is.

dannyboy65 said:

She does stand up for herself. But in the past when she did her dad beat her and he still treats her like shit. We still see each other a lot I just hate seeing her treated how she is.

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Does she have some sort of plan how to stop the abuse, or considered to act legally against them? If everything's just going on as usual, it sounds like she's not going far enough, but I don't have a full picture of the situation of course.

Blueborn said:

Does she have some sort of plan how to stop the abuse, or considered to act legally against them? If everything's just going on as usual, it sounds like she's not going far enough, but I don't have a full picture of the situation of course.

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See she can't afford to live on her own, she doesn't just need to support herself but also a 3 year old boy. On top of that me and her are both college students and we can only work during the summer because we are full time students. She is also a full time mom.

So she's totally dependent on her parents financing her? Is there any way she still can get financial support from her parents or elsewhere if she moves out?

Blueborn said:

So she's totally dependent on her parents financing her? Is there any way she still can get financial support from her parents or elsewhere if she moves out?

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It's a difficult situation but me and her are figuring it out.