crashmodem

All i want to know is certainty on one thing, if i will ever get a girlfrined.

I can already hear replys back stating not with my attitude, which is true, and i am trying my best to improve myself, but i think a lot of my anxiety is because everyone else around me has a girlfriend/boyfriend, and so i feel left out.

If i knew say two years from now i will be in a happy relationship, i wouldn't be feeling like this.

sabbath92001

Of course you'll get a girlfriend. If that's something you value, go after it. Everybody deserves companionship and love, so do you. Use that value to dignify gradual exposure.

Chilling__Echo

nicely put!

and i agree

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ColdFury

Nothing is certain. I've been wishing for one since I was 16 and I'm still empty handed.

jss

yes me too :(

however I am still wishing to have a girl friend some day

I thought of online dating sites many people said they could get successfull relationships through it

but I couldn't yet have the courage to join in one of them and post my full details and my photos I cann't risk if some one I know saw my post in the dating site

EmptyWords

ok let me just say this. Wishing does absolutely nothing in terms of girls. You really can't just sit there and do nothing and expect for a girl to just fall in your lap and be your girlfriend. YOU have to make the effort.

Also to the guy talking about the dating site. Why exactly are you worried about somebody you know seeing your picture on the site. If somebody saw it that would mean they were either browsing it or are on it as well lol

jss

I just know it trying at least nowdays will not help
my life and my conditions now is not suitable for that

I had a story I will not write it even I don't like remembering it

so I will just say a brief

about 6 years ago I fall in love with a social extrovert girl may this is the main thing which attracted me
but the love was only from one side
for 2 years I became very successfull in college and socially too. you know the power of love LOL

after 2 years of love I know it. she didn't ever love me or even think of me

do you know why? I think you do

because I am shy,introvert or lately I knew it I am SA sufferer

I don't like this happen again I cann't do it or say I feel with much pity for my self for facing that again

concerning the dating sites matter

I am worried from embarrassing situations ecpecially with my colleagues I have many problems because of SA right now I don't like it to increase

and if the dating site didn't help it will hurt just more failure and suffering

ColdFury

Don't bother. I've been trying those sites for years and have yet to hear from anyone and I get ignored when I message anyone on it.

4myself

Just out of curiosity, can I ask what is it that makes you want a girlfriend so badly?

The less you talk, the more your listened to.

jss

Man basically cann't live alone even SA people cann't live alone

I don't mean alone in home or room but I mean alone in thinking,alone in feeling,alone in their pain,alone in life

In most cases parents or brothers and sisters cann't be that person who share our life because they have their own life and their own problems and wishes

especially SA people need some one to help them in their suffering and problems, some one who will not get annoyed or bored from them,some one who will be open-minded and understandable for them and their problem

psychotherapists may have these features but unfortunately they don't have the most important thing in this. they don't have LOVE
they work for money even if they are friendly,kind and helpful

and because of this reason I didn't go to psychotherapist till now

some other important thing I would like to mention
SA sufferers or say the most of them have a permanent feeling that they are oppressed in life
they feel they didn't get their fair portion of life

they see their life passing every day, going away

normal people play,enjoy,love,marry and succeed in life but they don't

having a girl friend or boy friend whatever is considered a small thing of these lost things

It may be not that much important for normal single people but it is surely important for SA single people

I said all of that according to my feeling as a SA person :oops:

I hope I am right, friends
if I am wrong in any thing please let me know