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Old 12-02-2008  
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Default Im a 22 year old virgin.

I have a major personal dilemma: I am still a virgin- at my age! This is literally driving me insane. It is affecting me psychologically. I feel that there is a part of my life that is missing.

I want to meet a nice girl and take things at an easy pace and see if it develops into a relationship. I want a girlfriend so bad. I know nearly everyone has already done it ,but is it unusual to be a virgin at my age?
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Old 12-02-2008  
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welcome to the club!
i'm 20 and haven't had a kiss ...
i've found post and messages on the internet by virgins with 20, 30, 40, 50...

if i learnde something latelly is that it's not that big deal, why you need to follow such labels?

in some aspects it's even good, you've passed that phase where everybody is rushing for sex, now you can just take things easily and make this is a really special way.

i'm convinced that to find real love i need to settle and find inner peace, stop beating myself and develop some self love, if you're not ok with yourself you'll hardly be ok with another person.
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I'm soon to turn 22 and am still a virgin aswell. I don't know why but it really bothers me.
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Old 12-02-2008  
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I'm older than all of you: 26, 27 the end of January, & I've still never even been kissed. Though for me it's the result of extreme socia phobia. It makes me feel totally pathetic, but I know it's not going to be this way forever.

“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” _Dr. Theodor Seuss Geisel
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i'm convinced that to find real love i need to settle and find inner peace, stop beating myself and develop some self love, if you're not ok with yourself you'll hardly be ok with another person.
Thats about the best advice I've ever heard for this problem.

I was a virgin at 22ish, next year that all changed and got my first real GF, I tell you, thats where it went downhill for me, she was a total nightmare, who I as an SA person was nowhere near enquipped enough to deal with, next one after her years later was a nightmare too.

Those two bad relationships made me worse

‘Nietzsche says there are two kinds of people in the world. People who are destined for greatness, like Walt Disney and Hitler and then there’s the rest of us. He called us, ‘the bungled and the botched.’ We get teased we sometimes get close to greatness, but we never get there. We’re the expendable masses. We get pushed in front of trains, take poison aspirin and get gunned down in Dairy Queens.’
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same here man.
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I lost my virginity very young.And this might sound daft as a guy but id do anything to get it back now.Im not saying it isnt nice but... if you just sleep with someone for the sake of it.. well in my humble opinion it isnt the same as giving yourself to someone you care about.

We all have needs at the end of the day so i can understand people being frustrated... but i dont think its all its cracked up to be.Give me affection over sex any day of the week and ill be a happy man.Id be even happier with both but still
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I am to the point where I feel or think that if all I got was affection (from females) or just attention from females that might be enough at least for a little while. It's better than nothing.. and it just might fill that cut out hole in my life that "supposed" to be "female" in my life. Maybe I just see it like.. too absolute. I think of male being yang and female being yin, as if we are sort of.. interdependent on each other, maybe even co-dependant, but I hate codependency. I mean.. I am not super man right now, at this point I haven't reached nirvana (like I ever will given the conditions I am in) so I'm still.. subject to "karmas" or whatever, Life, and it's consequences, and cause and effect, and the rules whatever rules we are set up in. I may never reach that "state" anyway the way I am right now.

tbh I actually have had some sexual contact.. about .. 3 times or so, but I don't see it as really "sex", it wasn't "complete", in fact the experiences might seem kind of sad and discouraging, as if the experiences are supposed to foreshadow my future. Not related to performance but moreso that there was not really any sort of "connection" or "vibe", and the choices I made may not have been the best choices I would say but I was thinking it's the only thing I could get. So yeah...

ok I'm vulnerable now.
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22-is that all :roll:

i'll be 29 in about two months and I don't think I'll be losing it before then. I've gotten used to being ignored by the opposite sex, hopefully something might happen next year but don't place any bets.
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I'm 21 and I accepted it, **** that shit. I did an extensive report on std's and aids for college, and that took all the want of sex. I wont be able to connect with anybody in a social level to be able to get to sex, i'm ****ing way to uncompatible.
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