awkwardamanda
Well-known member
This always happens to me. I'll want to start a conversation with someone, but I'll get too nervous and I'll put it off and put it off until I chicken out altogether. I'll sit here meaning to send someone a message, but I won't know what to say. I usually won't have anything in particular I want to discuss. I just want to chat. So I'll beat around the bush for a while, thinking about things I could talk about. I'll debate whether to start off with hello/hi/hai/yo/howdy/hey/etc. And then I'll just end up getting too nervous about the whole thing so I'll wait and wait and it just gets worse. Sometimes I'll be ready to click somebody's name and I'll pause for a moment and I can't do it. Often I'll just decide not to bother after a while. I'll talk to them another day. But the same thing will happen. Eventually I'll just go for it but that's only after a lot of agony and failed attempts. Then sometimes things go alright and I'll manage to have a decent conversation for a while. But then sometimes they don't. Sometimes the conversation is brief and quickly turns to awkward silence. I hate the awkward silence. Then I'll wonder why I bothered saying anything at all. Sometimes things just come to a dead end. If I'm the last one to say something and I haven't gotten a response after a few minutes I don't know whether to say something else. Did they not get the message yet? Did they read it but just not bother responding? So then I don't know if I should try and add to what I've said. Or maybe all is said and done with that and I should try and change the subject. Sometimes I'm on the other end of the situation and the other person sent the last message and I just don't know what to say next. I might really have to think about how to respond. Sometimes I'm not sure if that seems to be all that needed to be said about a topic. I don't know if I should try and think about something more to say on the subject or if I should try and think of something else to talk about. But if I think too hard it just comes out forced. I end up saying something stupid and the conversation falls flat right there. Or I'll wait long enough thinking about what to say that I'll decide not to say anything so it doesn't come out all wrong. Then I'm stuck wondering what the other person is thinking. Are they bored talking to me? Do they find it just as awkward? Are they not sure what to say either? Or maybe it's no big deal. Maybe the conversation seems to be over with and that's that. But later on I'll wonder whether to say goodbye when I log off. If there's been a long pause, even after a good long conversation, then I don't usually bother, although it depends somewhat on who I'm talking to. I have had people come back and say they're going after maybe an hour or so of not talking. I dunno. I just always worry about what I'm saying or doing and what's normal and how others perceive things. Similar issues, anyone?