I'm meeting a chat friend today

Hi everyone,

Today is a nervous day! I will go to a friend which I've known online for a year or something now. She's around my age and we're good friends , we can talk about stuff. :) Today I will meet her in person. I will be taking the train for three hours ahead and back and will stay from 4 to 7. I know I might be crazy for travelling so long for a friend and they might think I am ::p: But she appreciates it:)

I am a little nervous though, I mean, she lives in a mental hospital thingy with a lot of ppl, and the supervisors will pick me up, she is very anxious too and she has borderline/autism, I have it too btw. :) I wonder how it will go...

This is a serious test for me, I hope I won't be clumsy and robotic in social situations like I used to be, cuz then I ruin the ''date'' (friend wise).

My MAIN FEAR, is to make her uncomfortable (like I always feel) so then it's like the most awkward ''date'' ever. So, what should I do to stay comfortable and in my comfort zone and be RELAXED?

That's the hardest task for me, so she might find me weird in real life, on the chat i'm just cool and all, but in real life, I'm scared xD

Also the train is very hectic for me, ALL the people, will make me hyperventilate, but at least, when i'm out of the train i'm more at ease i hope, and I travel 2 hours for my girlfriend lots of weekends... so thats good already for my SA. I mean, my gf helped me to overcome this fear (well, i still get lots of scary feelings in a train) but she helped me, by going there again and again for a lot of times and I held on to her support, she's so sweet for that, and now i can do it myself, great isn't it ^^


Well, wish me luck....

I hope it will be fun and that it will go just fine.. nervous!
 
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Meeting Atreyu? ::p:

I hope it goes well for you.

Yeah I wish, he's still in Fantasia though, I wish I could just fly to Fantasia, to be less fearful since that world is just my imagination!

Nah, I will be meeting a girl, Atreyu ain't a girl haha. ::p: he might look like one lil bit.

Thanks Gustavofring. I really hope it will ::(:
 

MikeyC

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You'll be fine. Start off with something you two have in common and work the conversation from that. I'm sure she'll be just as nervous as you so don't fret too much. I hope it does go well.
 

Hoppy

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Good luck. I'm sure she will just be as nervous as you are, but we're all cheering both of you on.
 

Srijita52

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I hope it goes well :) Both of you might be nervous at first but I'm sure it'll go away as soon as you start talking. Good luck!
 

Phoenixx

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Good luck! Like everyone else has said, I'm pretty sure she's just as nervous as you are, but I'm sure everything will be great. Let us know how it goes! :)

On a random note, I totally did not recognize you with your new name and avatar, Saskia. ::p:
 
Thanks all, it's been a great ''date''. I have been very nervous on the way to its date, but it's been going so well, the people there were so nice and she has a damn luxurious appartment. She's very lucky. Her supervisors were very welcoming, they told me, it's really good I was there and It's brave that I told them I was socially anxious, they appreciated it and said, it's even more brave to be there. :)

My friend and I talked at the beginning until the end, so we had a good talk and I have to say I was nerve wracking but at least I was talking, though smiling uncomfortable a lot and feeling odd but we had a good conversation and she really find me a sweet, caring good person. We've watched a movie together, ate together (I didn't eat all because of nerves), we made a beach walk together (very beautiful) and chatted about life.

So it was a good day, though i'm very anxious how I'm gonna keep this friendship up and alive, I wouldn't wanna break it, I always feel uncomfortable having people at my home coming over since it can be a stressful place, so I think I wanna invite her in my town, just at the mall, to go to the cinema and might go to a terrace or shopping and have some fun. :)

Idk, just have lots of fears , but at least I did it, and she is a GREAT caring friend.
 

Phoenixx

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That's awesome! Sounds like you two had a great time. I know this is easier said than done, but don't let your fears hold you back. You both have a good friendship started already. :)
 

fadedteal

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Good for you! Hope it goes on well in the future too. Wish I can have a friend irl who likes to interact with me too.
 
Thanks all for your comments. It went great. We're still chatting and we will meet again some time. I'm happy to have a friend though she's upset now because she has a problem herself a very huge one (depression, etc..etc..) so I try to help her as much as I can.. though ppl tell me to think of my own mind too.. Why am I too good by helping all time when I can? I don't know my own boundaries.
 

Srijita52

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Thanks all for your comments. It went great. We're still chatting and we will meet again some time. I'm happy to have a friend though she's upset now because she has a problem herself a very huge one (depression, etc..etc..) so I try to help her as much as I can.. though ppl tell me to think of my own mind too.. Why am I too good by helping all time when I can? I don't know my own boundaries.
Its great that you're there for her. I'm sure she appreciates it very much.
 

EscapeArtist

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that's so great that you guys got along. You guys can help eachother through... It is true, whoever said to remember yourself first, don't forget your own needs for hers. It's great that you guys both can support eachother. She's lucky to have you
 

Phoenixx

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That's great. Hope you guys will meet again. Glad you're helping her, but like others have said, try to keep a good balance by helping yourself too. :)
 
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