im sick of negative comments by people

sticks and stones rubbish- calling can hurt-
i cant stand people in public who make negative comments on others- saying for instance- cheer up it might not happen- why say this? why comment? shut up and go and enjoy your own life and stop watching people- ive read posts on here where people have said others have commented they look nervous- i wouldnt dream of sayin this to somebody- it could hurt them, affect them in a big way-
when people show annoyance, swear and impatience at the slightest things and huff and puff it makes me annoyed-(say in a queue)
i try so hard to not complain, moan cos theres so much of it out there- im trying my best to cope with sa- im keeping my head down more than ever as i dont want to hear see all this-
People out there shut the eff up- wer not interested u try having this

I had to vent!

I know what you mean. Why does a person feel they have to point out someone's flaws? I think some people are just clueless, or just rude. That's why I avoid people, so I won't accidently come across these types.

sleepysparrow said:

I know what you mean. Why does a person feel they have to point out someone's flaws? .

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I know, do these people not realize that people are already overly-aware of their flaws and already self-conscious about them? Like thank you for telling me I'm really quiet, I HADN'T NOTICED *******. The same thing when people comment on my looks or when my mom points out that I've gained a ton of weight. NO ****. I have a mirror and I cry about my weight gain everyday, I don't need you to inform me about it.

it bothers me people who have personalities that makes them uber critical, negative, cynical and fault finders. there is a book called "how to win friends anf influence people" and it emphasises the psychology behind overly critical people that makes them out to be people you'd want to avoid especially if they don't weigh it out with plenty of praise and encouragement.

how many people do you know in authority that are more encouraging then critical? not many. but facts show that encoruagement motivates people way more the criticism does the reason is because encouragement actually makes the person want to try it again where as criticism makes people want to give up more often then not. i'm not saying don't be critical. i'm just saying word your criticisms differently. people tend to communicate like this "oh that's not how you do it, you've screwed it now, that's crap" ..instead of saying something encouraging like "you got it half right and you had the right idea but if you really want to get it working, you could to do it this way" .."you had the right idea etc", "you are doing really well" ...

i actually believe that our society is simply brought up and conditioned with with questionable communication skills especially if its mainly cynicism and judgemental without any counter encouragement or positivity.

if they point out your flaws, point out theres...

mean person: "you look like your nervous"
me: "you look like your an a$$ hole"

problem solved haha.

lol solo

rude people are rude.

Really thou...mean people just suck that's all there is to it. I definately can't stand negitivity and rudeness!

Solo Dolo said:

if they point out your flaws, point out theres...

mean person: "you look like your nervous"
me: "you look like your an a$$ hole"

problem solved haha.

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It depends on context. The person can be trying to help you, put you at ease.. etc.. just maybe not that good at doing it. If you said that, then it'll probably only make things worse.

Some of my coworkers used to ask me if I'm nervous and actually helped me out when I said I was. It depends on the intention of the person making the comment really. If you're not sure, you can't just be overly harsh on the other person either.

Yup, I think mean people have to excist. Not ! Lol I dno, it's part of a caracter from some one. People are diffirent. But you're really not the only one annoying themselves on people like that. Try to ignore it, if it would feel good to say something nasty to them, go ahead.

Hm. Sometimes people just don't know better. Or are trying to make some sort of communication, and this is the first thing that comes to their mind, sadly.
I have a dad who blurts out all sorts of rude things sometimes, and mum's often been very negative too.. So it's sometimes difficult for me not to be negative too..
These patterns usually run in families, and it may be difficult to get rid of them even if you want to. And some people may just not be enlightened enough to even want to. And think by criticising they're proving how they're good parents or something. /sigh/

I wish it could get better, really. I wish all parents would go to 'school for parents' and that constructive communication would be taught in kindergartens and schools already... (There are already some courses and really good books, but not everywhere, and sometimes people that's need them most don't go to such classes...)

Dealing with Difficult People (by Rick Brinkman and Rick Kirschner) or some other books on communication might be helpful for any of you struggling with this, they were for me. In the end, it's sometimes still best to minimize situations where this arizes or contact with negative people yeah..

@brooklynn SPEAK IT, SISTER! i can't stomach people like this. especially when it is passive-aggressive. they say it just loud enough for you to hear so you know they are talking behind your back but they still won't outright say it to your face. those people are the worst.

Negative comments not nice. A lot in the past. Now I give blank stares and shrug.

I know what you mean. I don't see why people think that they have to make useless comments about things.

The other day I was sitting in art class listening to my mp3 player and I guess I had it up a little loud because the guy in front of me said, "That's some bad drumming in that song your listening to".

I did say anything, I just thought, "so what! Why do you think I care about what you have to say about it!". I could feel my face turning red and I just go SOOO anxious. The pathetic part was that it made me feel bad, I spent the rest of the day reliving that and worrying about it even though it's just music.

Another thing happened while we were waiting for the instructor to show up in my psych class a couple weeks ago. These girl walk by in the hallway and was wearing a funny hat. All the girls in the class started making fun of it and stuff. I mean, so what? Why are you so mean.

@iamthisone are you sure he didn't mean bad as in badass?

Yeah! ::::::::::

dottie said:

@iamthisone are you sure he didn't mean bad as in badass?

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I was wondering the same thing, but judging by the music I was listening to and the band, I doubt he meant that. To be honest the music ability of the band is quite bad compared to normal standards, but poor music ability is something I find interesting and original in music.

I just got embarrassed by the fact that he actually made a comment about it. I'm just like that.

I can generally stand the overtly negative comments... at least you know what you're up against and know that person feels about you. It's the coy, snide comments that really get to me... or the ones who look at you while saying something quietly to someone else. The attempts or psuedo-attempts to not be obvious about it are what really piss me off.

Sial Axetder said:

Negative comments not nice. A lot in the past. Now I give blank stares and shrug.

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ha, me too ::