Inconsiderate Teacher

My teacher basically screamed at me and threatened to give me a zero because I couldn't find a partner to do an assignment with.

I'm too shy to go around the room and ask every single person if they have a partner.

I almost cried in class because of his lack of understanding and how he embarssed me in front of the entire class.

I don't understand the situation at all. Either he was trying to help me overcome my shyness by putting me in that situation or he just doesn't care that I find it difficult to team up with people I don't know and expects me to do as he says. So is he the vicitim in this situation or am I?

it sucks..

I can feel your pain... I don't think most teachers are "out to get anybody" but because SA and shyness are really looked down upon, especailly in the US, it just makes matters worse....

I remember when i was in middle school, around 6th grade, I got straight A's in every class for the whole year. The only class I got a B+ in was Math.. It wasn't because I did poor on my tests, I aced them. It wasn't because I didn't do the HW... It was because of my "lack of class Participation" so the teacher gave me a B+.......

I even went out of my way to raise my hand and particiapte in class during the last semester/quarter/marking period.. i don't remember what it was called now..............But that wasn't enough.........So instead of 7 A's, I had 6 A's and 1 B+...........

It sucked cause I worked hard all year for my grades and I even went out of the way to try and participate more in class... I raised my hand, got up to the board, answered questions and I felt proud of myself...

But none of that mattered because even though my tests averaged out to about a 95, my HW was around a 95, my assignments and quizzes were around a 95..........My class participation in that final quarter was still like a 25........ I didn't get it and still don't get it to this day....

Maybe I would have said something to a teacher, parent, my family or anybody but I never liked to speak up, so I got my 6 A's and 1 B.....

Now that I look back at it, i always though I was too hard on myself and my father was def very hard on me.......................so sometimes I think "i'm never good enough" because of those factors.....

but maybe this teacher had a profound shaping of my outlook on life.....Cause even to this day, at 30 years old, I don't believe in that old theory that "hard work brings great rewards.."

Because at the end of the day I'm the one overlooked for jobs, and promotions not because I don't work hard, don't learn things, don't have skills and talent, but because I'm the person who doesn't talk that much, doesn't socialize all that much, and am more or less a quiet laid back person most of the time.

To me, hard work is great, but if you can't really talk, it usually leads to burn out and anger because others who don't work as hard seem to always get ahead.

On your topic, find a way to speak up more, even if it means you have to study more than anybody else.. Because from my perspective, if you don't talk, people view you as less of a person and talent than everybody else who can talk.

Thanks for the reply, pjam76.

Class participation always lowers my grades too. I work better and get things done quicker alone, than in groups.

I so agree with what you said about being overlooked for jobs just because you talk less than the other applicants. I haven't applied for a job yet, but similar stuff happens to me all of the time.

Don't teachers get the idea that when you're so shy that other students tend to mock you (well it happened that way for me) and it's so hard to work in groups because they treat you like you have nothing to offer.

I think some people are missing a sensitivity chip when they scream and yell at you for something they don't understand.
Causing someone shame doesn't really help them, I don't understand why "normal" people can't figure that out :roll:

Personally, I hate working in groups or with partners in class. I’m an adult and attend evening college courses that I pay for. I don’t want my grade dependent upon how well other people do. Teachers – I don’t think they have a clue about SA/SP. I guess they think we’re lazy or stupid.

What I found out through a really bad group situation was that if you have to work with the group, then ok; do your best. HOWEVER, if possible, plan to do the project ALONE. Sure it’s extra work for you, but you have to look after yourself and your grades. Plus, if the other members of the group decide to turn in a load of crap, you can present your complete project that’s done correctly.

Also about teachers, it would be nice to see how they cope with their own kids who develop SA/SP. Maybe then they'll think back and regret all the cruel things they said and did. Hey, Ms Faulk - I'm talking to YOU!

Teachers can be absoloutely horrible! Through the whole of high school I was absoloutely terrified to lift my head from my work incase I accidentally made eye-contact with a teacher (or anyone else, for that matter) and was made to answer a question. Sheer panic would set in if someone so much as mentioned my name.

I remember I couldn't find a debate partner for my English class one year, so she made me do it by myself. I didn't get a single vote, even though I put in a lot of work, and it was a subject I really believed in. The other team won because they were more popular.

I had another teacher who I still can't forgive to this day: Mrs Kemp, another English teacher. She made us do our oral presentations in front of a video camera, and then she made us sit and watch ourselves on TV while she dished out 'constructive critiscism'. I was sitting there biting back tears, actually shaking with self-loathing. To this day I can't watch myself on camera, or listen to my own voice. It was literally like being subjected to my worst nightmare, and then being forced to re-live it.

I wonder if teachers have any idea of the lasting damage they can inflict on shy and sensitive pupils? They can't be completely ignorant. Maybe they just don't care?

Yeah I hated having to pick partners or get into groups at school, I was always thinking that I was the last person anyone to be partnered up with.
Paranoid I know. I always prefered doing the work by myself because at least that way I know it was going to get done.

only problem

The only problem with not working in groups or working better alone, is the fact that once you get into the career world, if you can't work in a group environment or a team environment, then you probably won't keep jobs for that long.

Jobs today always emphasize, communication and team work.. Yeah you will work by yourself in many jobs, but more often than not, you will have to work in groups and on teams.. It's just a fact of life.

The world and it's history are filled with geniuses and smart people, but for the most part, nothing was ever built just by one person...

I don't think most teachers are out to get anybody, they are just trying to prepare you for later on in life.

I've been in IT since 1998 and my uncle was an engineer since the 70's. IT has moved from basement loners to teams.. Large teams.

If you can't work with other people or learn to, most employers will not keep you around, especially when it comes to the better paying careers.

Group participation is what i've failed badly at too in school. What bothers me is when you get in a group . . . . and the over confident idiots steal your ideas . . . . which you only just whisper. Lmao happens all the time! Also it's annoying being left out, just staring blankly at your team do an experiment in science when your left to do the note taking while they get all the fun and burn things with bunsen burners :twisted: .

from what i noticed with SA throughout school teachers tended to either like me alot or treat me like i had the plauge. i had several that were great with the fact that i didnt talk to anyone in class and did my work. I also had several teachers that seemed to hate me for it, oddly enough most of the subjects i liked and was good at were the ones where the teachers seemed to hate me.

I always hated group projects myself, since i would generally end up doing the entire assignment myself while the rest of the group talked goofed off, the main exception to this was projects where a presentation was invovled, those i would do and just hand to someone and let them explain it it always made me rather angry though to do all of the work and have others take the credit.

i dont know that im all that smart in most subjects, but science was always easy for me. I had one chemestry teacher that would on occasion let me get away without doing the labs, they always felt so "dumbed down" and i would write down what would happen and why and hand in before we even did the labs so that i didnt have to try and find a group to work with.

english teachers inparticlar always made us do those evil things, act out a book we were reading, act out our own creative writing, or like Sable mentioned the all time low, record yourself giving a presentation. :evil: i uh..disapeared for most of those days and aced a couple of the $25 packets for the classes i failed because of it.

trying to explain anything to teachers like that is impossible, once they decide they dont like you theres nothing you can do. i had a computer teacher fail me for not doing the homework, even after i dug through her pile of papers and showed her the graded work with my name on the top of the paper, it even went to the principal and he just said 8O "she doesn't have to count your work if she doesn't want to" 8O wow that one made me mad

middle school staff was ok, the classes/students were another story but no one cared about anyone in highschool, not the teachers, the principals, the councilers, heck even the school pyscologist didnt care about the students.

when you find the teachers that just seem to hate you no matter what you do, do whatever you can to get out of those classes and in with a decent teacher.

seriously that teacher sounds like a fucking asshole - excuse my language.
if he actually screamed at you over something like that he has anger management issues. forget about idiots like that. just do what makes you happy.