Introvert to extrovert
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AtTheGates
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Yes. I'v done it (actually I kind of just FAKED it)...but it wasnt very well received so now im "back at the drawing board" so to speak.
Opaline
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Key word there is "faked." You may be an introvert or an extrovert naturally, but here it seems you mean you faked social confidence and couldn't sustain it for long, so you gave up (I've done the same).
AtTheGates
Banned
kind of...but alot of It depends on how well received I am by people...im so used to being ill-received that over the years iv become more and more introverted...I think if I could just find the right people/time/place then I could start becoming more extroverted...but iv yet to find that elusive niche that everyone else seems to have had no trouble finding.
No, I don't think so. It's your nature. Of course you can turn up/turn down in different settings. You can play the part of an extrovert at times, but to completely transform into one is something else. I would just exhaust and irritate myself trying to become an extrovert. It's just not who I am.
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I hope that, with enough work, introverts can develop more self-confidence and comfort to become more extroverted, in their own time. It seems that finding a niche can be difficult, as people vary so widely, even within the same setting. Some say it's those differences that make us interesting, though I know quite a few badly behaved extroverts. It reminds me of a series called 'I, Claudius', where a stuttering, shy young man must become an emperor. He never truly feels at ease with others, but he does finally feel at ease with himself.
Sacrament
Well-known member
Of course you can. It depends on how you act and feel. My comfort zone implies hiding away or being in very small, controlled groups, but if I'm in larger groups and I'm feeling confident (through people laughing at my jokes, etc), I become an extrovert. I also become an extrovert if I'm drunk, but obviously that's not what I'm looking for.
Obviously, though, it's also a matter of choice. You might seem more comfortable being introverted, and rationally prefer it (instead of hiding your extroverted side behind all the crap your mind says).
Obviously, though, it's also a matter of choice. You might seem more comfortable being introverted, and rationally prefer it (instead of hiding your extroverted side behind all the crap your mind says).
AtTheGates
Banned
I relate to this somewhat. if im being well-received by people then it boosts my confidence which allows me to gradually become more outgoing...but sometimes even if ONE person seems to not like me then that will make me want to "recoil" so to speak..its something im working on...I think there are always going to be people who just dont like me for whatever reason they can come up with and I need to not let their opinions have so much power over my confidence.
Goblinko
Active member
Not to mention that being shy and being outgoing are traits, so you can have people who are apparently extrovert having their "shy" moments in front of a person and people considered introvert having "outgoing" times with their friends.
It really depends of the moment, you know.
Diend
Well-known member
It happened out of the blue for me. I suddenly felt that video games had little meaning in my life. I'm not saying I'm an extravert, but I view my introversion as a withdrawal from life due to my shitty life. When I felt I didn't enjoy escapism through media (television is boring to me), I began yearning for more close, social interaction.
PKMNMANIAC
Member
I think people misunderstand what introversion/extroversion are. It's not being shy or outgoing, as some people here have said you can have an outgoing introvert or a shy extrovert.
As far as I understand introversion and extroversion are how your energy dynamics work. A introvert is drained by social situations (not to say they don't enjoy them) and recharge by doing solitary activities. For example after a day surrounded by people at work/school a introvert wants to go home and read a book or watch tv. Whereas an extrovert, after a day of being alone at a desk want to go out and have a drink with their friends.
That being said I don't think you can change from one into the other, I have tried to go along and do the extrovert thing and instead of adapting it just led to me getting exhausted and burning out.
You shouldn't want to change anyway, being a introvert isn't bad. I know accepting it rather than thinking I was strange helped me become more confident
As far as I understand introversion and extroversion are how your energy dynamics work. A introvert is drained by social situations (not to say they don't enjoy them) and recharge by doing solitary activities. For example after a day surrounded by people at work/school a introvert wants to go home and read a book or watch tv. Whereas an extrovert, after a day of being alone at a desk want to go out and have a drink with their friends.
That being said I don't think you can change from one into the other, I have tried to go along and do the extrovert thing and instead of adapting it just led to me getting exhausted and burning out.
You shouldn't want to change anyway, being a introvert isn't bad. I know accepting it rather than thinking I was strange helped me become more confident
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No. You can pretend but you can't change your personality.
AlienGeranium
Well-known member
I think people misunderstand what introversion/extroversion are. It's not being shy or outgoing, as some people here have said you can have an outgoing introvert or a shy extrovert.
As far as I understand introversion and extroversion are how your energy dynamics work. A introvert is drained by social situations (not to say they don't enjoy them) and recharge by doing solitary activities. For example after a day surrounded by people at work/school a introvert wants to go home and read a book or watch tv. Whereas an extrovert, after a day of being alone at a desk want to go out and have a drink with their friends.
That being said I don't think you can change from one into the other, I have tried to go along and do the extrovert thing and instead of adapting it just led to me getting exhausted and burning out.
You shouldn't want to change anyway, being a introvert isn't bad. I know accepting it rather than thinking I was strange helped me become more confident
Yes, this.
PugofCrydee
You want to know how I got these scars?
I think you can learn to pretend to be one or the other, but your intrinsic personality is formed when you are young, within the first 6-8 years. So by and large you cannot undo that.
jellyfishgirl02
Member
It depends on what you mean by introversion and extroversion. If you mean can someone go from being quiet and reserved to loud and "out there", then yes, of course, but that isn't really what introversion or extroversion are. It's actually about the way you process social interaction and what you get out of it. Introverts are drained by social interaction, while extroverts are energized and stimulated by it, so their lives tend to revolve more around people and interacting with them than that of an introverts. It actually doesn't have much to do with how you act in social situations, even if a generalization can be made.
I think as you grow, you can probably change. I mean, your brain is constantly developing and is a very malleable thing up until adulthood so I don't see why not!
I think as you grow, you can probably change. I mean, your brain is constantly developing and is a very malleable thing up until adulthood so I don't see why not!
Richey
Well-known member
Yes, you can change to extrovert...and visa versa.
If you can target the main reason of your introversion.
For instance I can show up to things but second guess everything I might say, so the other stronger personalities take control by default. Then I just withdraw by default, because the extroverts/narcissist have to be the ones being funny or just talking.
So the environment means that the big egos usually dominate the group situations, at work or with family.
If you were around a group of mild mannered, non show offs, then your extroversion may come out more so.
I think the key is to find friends who are mild mannered and nice and then you aren't as intimidated to speak up. Or extroverts that bare nice and non intimidating.
Being around very witty chatter boxes can be a very intimidating thing if they are too intense. Too forward.
If you can target the main reason of your introversion.
For instance I can show up to things but second guess everything I might say, so the other stronger personalities take control by default. Then I just withdraw by default, because the extroverts/narcissist have to be the ones being funny or just talking.
So the environment means that the big egos usually dominate the group situations, at work or with family.
If you were around a group of mild mannered, non show offs, then your extroversion may come out more so.
I think the key is to find friends who are mild mannered and nice and then you aren't as intimidated to speak up. Or extroverts that bare nice and non intimidating.
Being around very witty chatter boxes can be a very intimidating thing if they are too intense. Too forward.
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Pacific_Loner
Pirate from the North Pole
I just watched this TED talk and I thought it was relevant to this thread. This is a very good lecture anyway. He kind of answer your question in the middle of the lecture when he talks about acting out of character.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NZ5o9PcHeL0
There is also Susanne Cain's TED talk that is very interesting, but I won't post it since I'm sure it's been posted before (possibly by me). The more I read and listen about introversion/extraversion, the more I find it's a fascinating subject and the more normal I feel. I thought only crazy me uses the restroom as a shelter to recharge, but finally it appears to be a very typical survival habit among introverts
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NZ5o9PcHeL0
There is also Susanne Cain's TED talk that is very interesting, but I won't post it since I'm sure it's been posted before (possibly by me). The more I read and listen about introversion/extraversion, the more I find it's a fascinating subject and the more normal I feel. I thought only crazy me uses the restroom as a shelter to recharge, but finally it appears to be a very typical survival habit among introverts
