intrusive thoughts = weird face

Hey,

When I have these intrusive thoughts, my facional expression is totally different,
when I walk by people, I look at them like i'm about to die or something.
I can't help but I always look like that :/
And when people get gifts.. I'm always happy for them, but I have a jealous face ::(: Because I'm scared that I look like that, it will happen ::(:
I always feel judged because of my facional expression...
When someone says a word. I take it personally and my face will look weird

I don't know what's wrong with me.. ::(:

u know.. when I see people on TV, they always keep smiling.. But for me! when someone would say something bad to me, I will look really sad.
And that kind of examples.. I just can't control my facional expressions

And when I have to look someone in the eyes, I always drown in their eyes.. Only lovers do that, but I can't help it :(
It's just because eye contact is scary..
 
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foxdude

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I have the same weird thing with eye contact :)when I'm talking to someone it's always the same dilemma:
1) keep looking them in the eye without looking away, risking them thinking you're a freak/ you've fallen in love with them...
2) not looking them in the eye, which will make you look uninterested or shy
3) randomly switching between looking them in the eye and looking away, which is just plain weird...
 

Richey

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i usually speak clearly where i work and today i said something to one of the girls and she screwed her nose up because she didn't hear me properly or something and kept walking then when i came over to help with the coffee she said "you are talking so quiet" when really i wasn't at all, i talk clearly and everyone else heard me...

i've had some really awkward moments lately
 
I have the same type of problems with facial expressions. Because I dont want to look a certain way, I do anyway..
Also Ive noticed the more I don't want to attract any attention, somehow I manage to do the opposite!
 

Catalist

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That is totally weird that you post this, I actually came here to write about a similar problem. It is actually ruining my life right now. Yes I do have OCD, like the annoying rituals like checking everything for 5 minutes before sleeping, or like opening and closing and then reopening a web browser before using it. Those type of OCD rituals are just annoyances, but it is nothing like the following.

When I talk with people, I become very depressed / sad look in my face. I don't know why I do this to myself. I worry so much that the people will judge me. I think they do notice and I make them feel uncomfortable.

It is as you also say, if you don't want to look like this, you can't help it. I also become quiet and don't laugh so much because I know I should not do that.

I also wish I could be like the people who always smile and hold a straight face. So in a way I have no control over my facial expression like you say. Not only my facial expression, but it also seems to impact my whole mood, which brings on the facial expression change. So when I speak with people, my whole mood turns depressed and brings along my facial changes, which makes me worry about what they think about me. This problem is really bad. When I am by myself I don't have these issues. If I wear sunglasses and hide my eyes, It really helps with the problem. Sometimes when speaking on the phone with someone it will pull me into the mood.

I never had this problem before. Try to have a job interview and not control your facial expressions, you will not get very far. I used to smile and laugh when I meet new people, now I do the opposite.

Is this OCD? Is there any help for this problem? Why is this happening?
 

1st timer

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I have the same thing to, wearing sunnies helps alot. I think when i do it i just feels sad and would rather not talk to the person. I also have trouble looking at ppl in the eye, my eyes will kind of blink and water up, then i think the person is thinking i am wierd, which they prob are!
 

cobalt_bluester

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And when I have to look someone in the eyes, I always drown in their eyes.. Only lovers do that, but I can't help it :(
It's just because eye contact is scary..

Hi. I really feel for you as I find eye contact scary too. My problem is a little bit different to yours though as I don't know which eye I should look in and for how long. I've become very stressed and ill over all of this as it's not a natural process as it should be. I also feel that when people look at me it's because I am weird, and I feel like they are attacking me!!! The rational part of my brain tells me that they're probably just curious about me, but the emotional part of me tells me that they are a threat and are judging me!!! Silly I know :mad:
 

cobalt_bluester

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wearing sunnies helps alot.

I have started wearing sunglasses a lot when I go outside. I never used to do this at all, but since my mental health and social problems have deteriorated I find it helps me quite a lot and I feel it protects others from what I perceive to be my intense stare. I stare like this simply because I am overthinking what my eyes are doing, and I tend to monitor most of the movements my eyes make so now they will not dart about because I am blocking this natural process.
 

1st timer

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I know it makes you feel worse doenst it. But really most people dont prob notice or care, but of course in our mind, or i know i do i will always lean towards the worst case senario rather than the best as i am so paranoid that if by chance i am wrong, i will have to think it through so as not to do it in the future. I wish i could just not give a **** like some ppl!
 

awkwardamanda

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Yeah, I tend to think I'm making weird faces but it's not necessarily from intrusive thoughts. Could be, but sometimes its more positive thoughts. Sometimes I think I look angry or sad or whatever when I'm thinking negative things, but then sometimes I'll just think of something funny and I'll start smirking a bit too. I'm just off in my own world and I'm not sure if people are wondering what the hell is up with me or if they don't even notice. =S
 

dallasthekid

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i have this same exact thing happen to me all the time!!! it sucks soo bad! lol

it makes you feel so vulnerable and embarassed! its like people can read your mind, ive had this for a while now
 
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