Is it a good thing or a bad thing?

Iam not sure if this forum is a good or bad thing?

It has its good points like being able to talk and relate with people the same as me :wink: but at the same time it highlights problems i have and other problems i didnt have or more like i didnt know i had :? its like when ever someone comes on and talks about somthing new i think to myself "i have that" or " i do that" and before it was highlighted i never made much of it or even noticed it but now that its been highlighted by someone i become obsessed with trying not to do it :roll:

Overall i think this is a good place,i now understand i have a problem rather than just thinking iam weird 8O

Yeah...I see what you're saying...often wonder this myself, but i think it's better to know what you have...better you notice it then someone else right :wink:

I know what you mean, and I agree, but I think the good outweighs the bad. I think it's a good thing. I'd rather know what's wrong with me than think I'm the only one, and that I'm a total loser freak.

Ah yes...the satisfaction of figuring out WHY things are the way they were. But to my experience and by looking at different perspectives of others and even some on this message board, it seems after they figure out WHAT is wrong with them or WHY they are the way they are, they simple will "accept" that they can not speak casually with some one else, and become in a submissive like state for the rest of their lives.

Now that we know what as wrong with us, I suggest we beginning solving our problem by trying out different things. We'll be a thousand times more satisifed after changing ourselves for the better, compared to the satisfaction we got when we diagnosed our selves with this anxiety disorder or shyness and realized why we are so different.

Yes I agree this is a wonderful place to talk with others who think like us and whom share many of the same typical daily experiences that we undergo. It is a community, discussing our similar problems. But along with that, we should become a community that will reduce/i] our dreadful anxiety attacks in the real world; rather than play tennis with one another in this virtual message board about how bad our lives our.

Scottish_Player said:

Iam not sure if this forum is a good or bad thing?

It has its good points like being able to talk and relate with people the same as me :wink: but at the same time it highlights problems i have and other problems i didnt have or more like i didnt know i had :? its like when ever someone comes on and talks about somthing new i think to myself "i have that" or " i do that" and before it was highlighted i never made much of it or even noticed it but now that its been highlighted by someone i become obsessed with trying not to do it :roll:

Overall i think this is a good place,i now understand i have a problem rather than just thinking iam weird 8O

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I have thought the same exact things, Scottish_Player. It is nice to read about how others have the same weird problems as me beceause no one that I know in person is like this. But I have noticed that it may make me more aware of these things and obsess over things more, which may not be good.

i found out that there was such a thing as social phobia about one year ago. and i think i've had sa for about 4 years. for the 3 years that i had no understanding of this issue, i was confussed and i would bring my self down continuosly about how i was.
i think that finding out how common this phobia is really helped me. and this forum let me understand just how many people out there suffer like me (and in alot of cases worse).
i agree that reading some posts here can be a bit depressing and make you wonder if it's really helping at all. but i also think that having the ability to be able to share our problems with each other is great. it was such a relief to talk to someone about social phobia without the fear that they may not understand or they may think we are weak or strange.
over all i'd say this forum is good. if i had never found it, i may have been in a much worse situation.

Ah yes...the satisfaction of figuring out WHY things are the way they were. But to my experience and by looking at different perspectives of others and even some on this message board, it seems after they figure out WHAT is wrong with them or WHY they are the way they are, they simple will "accept" that they can not speak casually with some one else, and become in a submissive like state for the rest of their lives.

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Spot on. I found out about social phobia about a month ago. Came to this site - it felt like an ephipany, although I have noticed myself becoming far too comfortable in my reclusive state. In my defence, I have been going through a particularly bad phase, but I'm sure that when my summer holidays kick in I'll be back to my [fairly] normal self and will look back at this forum in good light. I will definitely pop in now and then and add to my web-blog, but I think in the long term getting addicted to this place may be more detrimental for me as I tend to fixate on the negative stuff.