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Old 11-23-2009
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Hey,
What do you think ...
Is it bad to be a quiet person?
Cuz i heard people talking about my groupmate at my class, and they were talking about him like this ... ''He's kind of creepy, i can't stand a day without talking, he's totally crazy!'' I'm kind of afraid that they might think i'm weird too.
But the classmates are friendly to me though. But i'm still staying in the background, if you know what i mean, I can't talk very much.. Because of my anxious fear.
BTW.. my school is for people who are ''afraid of going, and who did not go to school for a long time''.
But i'm still afraid of judging..
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Old 11-23-2009
 

I think ppl are scared of a quiet person because they don't know what you are thinking all the time and this lack of information can bring fear to some of them. I can't give you any advice because i'm the quietest person i know in class, i always go to the back in a corner and stay there quiet until the class is over. so most likely i'm getting the same treatment that the quiet guy in your class get
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Old 11-23-2009
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It's not bad... Most people are just too stupid to accept others if they don't act the way they expect, that's the problem.
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Old 11-23-2009
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It's not bad... Most people are just too stupid to accept others if they don't act the way they expect, that's the problem.
Well said.
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Old 11-23-2009
 

Exactly. Its not bad at all. be yourself. I always will not matter how many people think its creepy being quiet.
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Old 11-23-2009
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It's not bad. I think people may just be unaccustomed to it. People may be alittle scared of things they are not used to.
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Old 11-23-2009
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I think people like to put other people in boxes. They need to know what you are, so if you don't talk that much they've got no clues to pidgeon hole you. I think this makes them suspicious and wary of you. You become an unknown quantity and people don't like that.
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Old 11-23-2009
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BTW.. my school is for people who are ''afraid of going, and who did not go to school for a long time''.
But i'm still afraid of judging..
I went to a school like that for my last year.

It's not bad to be quiet, some people find shy people very attractive. I know i do it makes me feel more comfortable.
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Old 11-23-2009
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If you want to be social it's bad, because social people want people like them selves. If you want to be yourself than be quiet. Maybe people scared of quiet ones. There's adage: quiet pig nuzzles deep root(I don't know how to translate it to english correctly, but maybe you get the point...)
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Old 11-23-2009
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Being a quiet person for most of my life, I always get the "you're so quiet" comments. I usually don't know how to respond but with a smile. Usually I don't talk b/c I don't have anything to say. I hear people who do a lot of talking but really aren't saying anything worth listening to. The world is full of different people. Some are introverts, extroverts, spontaneous, mild-mannered, wild, reserved, etc. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being quiet!
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Old 11-23-2009
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Old 11-23-2009
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Society tells us it's bad to be quiet.
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Old 11-23-2009
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Quiet people ARE NOT CREEPY they just don't have the confidence to speak up. It's not really bad to be quiet it's just who you are at the end of the day and you need to accept who you are who cares what other people think about people being quiet.
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Old 11-23-2009
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I'd prefer to not be quiet and I think most of us would... I wouldn't want to be loud either, just average
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Old 11-23-2009
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I would love to know when in history was it first written that being a quiet person was a negative thing, and why?:(
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Old 11-24-2009
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I'm quiet and I don't think I'm weird, but I make others uncomfortable. I think people are scared of silence, which makes us quiet people seem creepy. Think about it - how many people, SA or not, get anxious and/or uncomfortable when there's a lull in conversation? How many people have some kind of urge to fill that lull with something - anything - to make it stop? How many people say they can't stand silence and have to have some kind of background noise, whether it's conversation, a tv, some music, etc? A lot. I would love to know more about this phenomenon. What is it about silence that is so terrifying or stress-inducing to so many people? And yet, so many people say that there's too much noise in the world and spend their lives looking for peace, the same people who will frantically chase it away once they've found it.
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Old 11-24-2009
 

No, I don't think it's bad to be quiet, but within reason. I prefer people who are quiet and when they do speak, you know that they will have something interesting to say.

I can't stand loud people who start talking about randomly annoying crap, just because they feel that silence is bad.

On the other hand, due to me being so quiet, certain people have told me that they think I'm possibly a rapist or a serial killer, or they expect me to go on a murderous shooting rampage or something.

Thart hurt, and caused me to retreat inside myself even more. I'm now a lot more quiet than ever, and has quite a bit to do with why I never go out anymore. I'm sure that a lot of people probably share those opinions of me, due to me being so nervous, shy and quiet, but I honestly don't ****ing care anymore.
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Old 11-25-2009
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'Empty vessels make the most noise''

''It's better for people to think of you a fool rather than remove all doubt''


Sometimes being quiet has it's advantages
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Old 11-25-2009
 

Yes. I think we should be able to be loud some times. Being quiet is creepy and people talk about them more than they talk about normal people.
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Old 11-25-2009
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I think it depends. If you mean, being a quiet person in general then I don't think there's anything wrong with that at all. In fact I prefer quieter people. In some eastern cultures quiet people are revered.

If, on the other hand, you mean quiet to the extent of often having things you want to say, but you don't out of fear and anxiety, then this can be a bad thing. I think it's important we know where our limits are and have enough confidence that when something important is needed to be said we're strong enough to be able to say it. If we can get to this stage then we'll feel a lot more secure when we choose to be silent. But if the reason we're silent is because we're scared of confrontations or can't stand up for ourselves then our silences will feel more like prison.
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