Is this a goal?

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Strong

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I'm tired of going school everyday and being judged for being ugly. I woke up this morning and looked at myself with my phone camera. I could totally see why somebody asked me if I did drugs yesterday.

I look different in every mirror, lighting and camera. I don't think I can ever be happy looking the way I do.

So my goal is to get a really good paying job so I can afford plastic surgery. With my luck though the doctors that work on me will screw up.
 
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F0AM

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Keep in mind that that kind of ppl (mostly in school) will always find an excuse to insult others, so you shouldnt really mind them. That said, finding a well paid job is already a good goal lol, once you have it, go for the plastic surgery if you can afford it and ONLY if YOU really want to change your appearance, DONT do that just because THEY don't like you...wouldnt stop them from being ****s.
 
FountainandFairfax

FountainandFairfax

in a VAN down by the RIVER
In my opinion, you have a better shot at plastic surgery success if you're what I call "easily perfected." Lots of movie stars have the fat pads removed from their cheeks or the old favorite, the nose job. These are followed by the occasional nip/tuck maintenance, but those people tend to already be fairly good looking, and in need of only that one procedure that will make them beautiful or flat-out matinee idol gorgeous.

The more work that has to be done, the less effective it usually is, and tends to make people look like horrors. Then you risk the indignity and torture of repeated surgeries over the course of your life, which are very expensive and can also be dangerous.

I suggest that you seek out a therapist first, because it sounds to me like you're judging yourself too harshly and may have a complex, if not full-blown BDD. Most people aren't ugly, but in today's appearance obsessed, self-flagellating world, "average" seems to be unbearable.
 
Pacific_Loner

Pacific_Loner

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I've said this before but this is my opinion that if people are acting hostile towards you because of your appearance, this is more likely to be related to your body language and facial expression than to physical traits
 
Marc7

Marc7

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No, I think you should see a therapist and rethink that because if you are feeling insecurities it might change it but what if you want more if your not happy about your first surgery. See what I'm saying it is a never ending cycle.
 
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DanielLewis

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I agree with Pacific Loner. Also, I wouldn't get plastic surgery. I've seen cases where people end up looking worse after that because their face just looks unnatural. Something looks off or fake about it.

You have to find a way to come to a place of acceptance about how you look. Otherwise, this limiting belief that you're ugly will hold you back your whole life. Being good-looking isn't what life is about. You can have a fulfilled life without being handsome.
 
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Strong

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You can't be happy being ugly guys. I wish I was atleast an average looking person. If your ugly everybody hates you, this isn't something you can know unless you are ugly and have experienced it.

I might just try one if I am ever able to. I don't want to go full Micheal Jackson and do a bunch, he messed himself up.

And I'll make sure to save enough money so I can get a good doctor to perform it.
 
andsorry

andsorry

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When I was in school kids teased me and said I was ugly. A guy even went as far as calling me a burnt cookie. Sometimes it's jealousy. I later found out a guy who use to make fun of me in school had a crush on me and a girl who bullied me just wanted to be my friend.
 
zharl

zharl

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Strong said:
You can't be happy being ugly guys. I wish I was atleast an average looking person. If your ugly everybody hates you, this isn't something you can know unless you are ugly and have experienced it.

I might just try one if I am ever able to. I don't want to go full Micheal Jackson and do a bunch, he messed himself up.

And I'll make sure to save enough money so I can get a good doctor to perform it.
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Maybe you're not ugly. Maybe you have a warped self-perception. *shrugs*
 
Marc7

Marc7

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Strong said:
You can't be happy being ugly guys. I wish I was atleast an average looking person. If your ugly everybody hates you, this isn't something you can know unless you are ugly and have experienced it.

I might just try one if I am ever able to. I don't want to go full Micheal Jackson and do a bunch, he messed himself up.

And I'll make sure to save enough money so I can get a good doctor to perform it.
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How do know your ugly? People told you that? I'm sure you're not ugly, do you have low self esteem? Sometimes you just have make your self look better if you have imperfections (if you have any) naturally.
 
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Strong

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I remember back in 2005 when I was 7 and my parents were about to divorce. I used to use my mom's phone and get on her internet. Well I got on it and started snooping her text messages between her and my dad.

She texted him that I was better looking than him. Ive thought about this before but just now I thought about it and I remember I didn't see any message from him that would make her make a reply about me. So now I think he must of texted her I was ugly and she deleted it.

They never did get divorced though and my dad just went to bed. Sucks thinking about it.
 
FountainandFairfax

FountainandFairfax

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Strong said:
I remember back in 2005 when I was 7 and my parents were about to divorce. I used to use my mom's phone and get on her internet. Well I got on it and started snooping her text messages between her and my dad.

She texted him that I was better looking than him. Ive thought about this before but just now I thought about it and I remember I didn't see any message from him that would make her make a reply about me. So now I think he must of texted her I was ugly and she deleted it.

They never did get divorced though and my dad just went to bed. Sucks thinking about it.
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That's messed up. I had a similar experience, but it was between my mom and stepfather.

For a kid to hear grownups talking about them that way is devastating.
 
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Strong

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My mom has started making jokes as well.

I said something she disagreed with and she went into the living room and told my brother and sister and then said "and he looking like who did it and why."

And in the van today she asked me if wanted to get picked up early from school tomorrow and I said no. Then she said "Thats ok. I didn't want to have to look at you earlier anyway." My little brother,sister and cousin were in there too.

We weren't having any sort of argument either. My looks have took a huge toll on my well being. Guess I should go cry about it. :/
 
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Strong

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I have no one to talk about this to either. My mom would think I was crazy if I asked to see a therapist. But then when I'm not talkative after school she asks "what's wrong? you must of got picked on at school today"

I hate life. :( It seems like my existence is just a cruel joke. But god wont let me end it either because I'll go to hell/cease to exsist for eternity. Why :(
 
zharl

zharl

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Strong, you sound like you're still pretty young, so let me tell you this: life has the potential to go a lot of different ways. I'm not going to tell you that it will get better--because I'm not psychic--but it certainly has the potential to get better. Give things some time, and they may improve. If you are ever in a state of crisis, please check out this post for some resources.
 
zharl

zharl

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Also, there were some sites that offer free online counseling in that thread, so it may be worth looking into, even if you aren't in crisis.
 
zharl

zharl

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Strong said:
Thanks for replying Zharl. If I did try them would it send letters to my house?
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As far as I know, it should be anonymous...let me do a little research and I'll get back to you.

Just so you know, I'm a bit busy at the moment, so this will take some time. I'll try to find out by this coming weekend.

You're welcome to look into it on your own, in the meantime! :)
 
MollyBeGood

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I used to have goals of changing my appearance.

Then I realized I am beautiful just the way I am.

That feels better than anything any over-paid surgeon could ever give me.... Plus have you seen some of the results when it goes wrong? No thanks!
 
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