Is this guy shy/gay/asexual? GUYS PLEASE HELP

pinkputter said:

hes gay

whch i dont think is true, because he comes from a traditional christian home.

Click to expand...

Which does not mean he is straight, but may be a reason why he wouldn't be open about it (e.g. Ted Haggard).

pinkputter said:

He is GORGEOUS, a gentleman, and has a good personality, he can get girls if he wants to ... in fact, they ASK HIM.... yet hes STILL been single longer than me...

Click to expand...

He's gay.

bleach said:

does not mean he is straight, but may be a reason why he wouldn't be open about it (e.g. Ted Haggard).

pinkputter said:

He is GORGEOUS, a gentleman, and has a good personality, he can get girls if he wants to ... in fact, they ASK HIM.... yet hes STILL been single longer than me...

Click to expand...

He's gay.

Click to expand...

well i am definitely not saying its not a possibility..the way hes perfect, has girls to the left and right but is still single, and is like "too good to be true" makes me think that..
but how many gay guys do you know that shop at aeropostale..?

if you know where he shops from he's probably gay. I worked in retail and was the only non-gay person in my entire store, i got fired quickly because i refused to talk to customers

[Monthly post deletion.]

pinkputter said:

Ok I wont go into all the details (even though its really good ..for real)...but this guy who i was like in love with who was in my class, i THOUGHT liked me. After what happened in there, it was really obvious.

Click to expand...

pinkputter said:

..the way hes perfect, has girls to the left and right but is still single...

Click to expand...

I get the feeling that most of the girls to his left and right feel the same way you do about him, namely, that he likes them the same way they like him. And of course that's a very flattering thing to think, that out of all the girls he only feels special about you. And that's one of the reasons he has all these girls going after him. He's "unattainable", but you want to be the one to "attain" him. I give you credit for having the guts to open up to him and tell him how you feel. That's not easy for anyone, let alone someone with anxiety. Too bad you got flat out rejected, but at least you know the score now instead of having to wonder about it forever. My advice to you is to lick your wounds and find someone else.

As to your original question, I don't know if your guy is gay, asexual, whatever. He seems to be really good at attracting women, which in turns attracts more women, etc. like a vicious cycle. Well, the opposite of a vicious cycle. You're probably better off if you're not part of that circus. Maybe you can stay friends with him, without emotionally entangling yourself like a lot of other women seem to have. It's probably better for your emotional health.

Dave McFadden,

yeah i tend to agree with a lot of what you said. which reminded me.. it freakin PISSES ME OFF that when guys are single its like a turn on- girls want to be with them more because its like they are waiting and particular about who they date- so theres all these girls all over them.. when GIRLS are single- its a turn OFF- guys are always attracted to girls when they are unavailible and single girls people are like all "why are they single, is something wrong with them" .. when REALLY im just like that, I AM particular, i dont string guys a long- and yeah, won't say yes to a guy if i dont like him- but since i am officially not taken right now most guys wont notice or think im unavailible and go after taken girls- for thrill? for something..

its the dumbest thing and nothing will change- it will be like that, thats our lovely society for ya

Sorry, but my english is so bad:

You have to find out the reason of the distance between you. There is a reason in his mind. Get him and talk with him. So you can find out how he is ticking. Moreover, maybe there is a bad story in your area about you?

pinkputter said:

...when GIRLS are single- its a turn OFF- guys are always attracted to girls when they are unavailible...

Click to expand...

wait, Wha...? :?

I've turned down girls on numerous occasions because I was shy and intimidated by them. And if that's you in your display picture I would be intimidated by you haha.

Don't know if that helped, just throwing in a male point of view.

Well I would not intimidated by the situation. At the time, when I had trouble, I had seen many problems. So I was overwhelmed with my symptoms.

However the simplest reason: he is a gay without coming out???

Sometimes I question myself, am I gay or not? I rejected girls that liked me, because I'm too self conscious about myself in every way. But I don't mind being around a bunch of dudes most of the time. I do have like 2 female friends, but I'm never really open to them, and I still get all these weird thoughts in my head whenever I'm around them. I can't ever talk to girls the way I used to talk to them online.

It worse when others assume you're a fag because you tend to distance yourself from girls because of the SA/APD and so on^^.

Sure is that not fair to say he is a gay. We all don’t seen the circumstances. It is pinkputters task to find out what is the reason for the reservation by the boy…

If necessary for you.

pinkputter said:

I need some ones opinion on this. And be nice. I just had my heart broken by the only guy i ever thought i was in love with, I am forever changed by some one i barely knew. HELP?

Click to expand...

Sounds moe like infatuation than love.