So, I am a girl and I have been stalking a girl on facebook and we aren't friends. We share 18 mutual friends. So I have been keeping a tab on her for 11 months now by checking her profile every weekend. I just finished college and I have been at home since Dec '14 and this has made me hooked to laptop. I don't have my best friends here and my grad school doesnt start until August.Also,I have a minor leg fracture so unable to go out and refresh myself.Stalking her significantly increased these past 2 months.
So basically how it all started :
1)My best friends and I had been to Niagara falls in New York in mid 2013.That's when I had seen her for the 1st time.She looked very pretty as usual and I recalled that I had seen her on photos uploaded by my friends on facebook. I looked at her again.She was far from us with her family.I smiled at the co-incidence. We live in India and I see her in US out of no where.I told my besties about it,saw her again and then moved on.
2)We took a trip to Washington DC the day after. My friends were clicking my photos and there I SAW HER AGAIN. I was highly surprised at this co-incidence this time. Saw her for few min and then moved on.
3)I came back home in Dec last yr from college and visited a nearby town with family where we had spent few years prior to shifting. I was stuck in traffic and AGAIN!!I saw her walking on the footpath.My eyes were stuck at her sight and this time the co-incidence really surprised me.
4)I went to a famous area with my family and AGAIN I SAW HER WITH HER FRIENDS the same day
5)My head was spinning at these co-incidences.I discussed these with one of my close friends(who knows her) and learnt she lived in the very same building that I used to live in and she studied in the very same school my parents had initially enrolled me in prior to shifting.
I was baffled at the co-incidences and my friends laughed.That day as I reached home,I saw that she again appeared as my recommended friend suggestion.I used to ignore it before but that night i was compelled to see her profile.My friends joked that we may have had a strong relationship in our previous lives..LOL
She looks incredibly pretty and is very charming with her extremely beautiful smile.I learnt that we share few common interests.My good guy friend,let's call him Kevin,works in navy and is her best friend.Kevin and I met up in Jan this year and he uploaded a photo of us on fb which she liked.So she did see me through fb. I have been so crazily infatuated by her. And NO,infatuation here does not mean the lusty getting into a romantic relationship thingy. I AM VERY MUCH STRAIGHT and so is she.
It's just that I have been badly smitten by her. I have been so desperate to follow her on instagram and send her a friend request on facebook but have always held myself back.
I had decided that this time I'd ask Kevin to organize a rendezvous on May and I'll finally get to meet her then and know her as a person. I have been desperately wanting to be her friend. However,I just got to know last week that she's permanently shifting to UAE with her family. I was shattered.I felt so horrible.She left India last night
.I felt really sad. Killed me inside.I CRIED (SO INSANE). My self esteem poked me hard and has been literally screaming "WTH IS WRONG WITH YOU? SHE DOESN'T EVEN KNOW YOU.YOU BOTH HAVE NO RELATION WHATSOEVER AND YOU ARE SHEDDING TEARS??" and at the same time the other half of me is pinching my fragile,emotional,naive heart and sulking "You had just one opportunity to meet her and you lost it.She's gone forever." I have never been this way. I dont understand what's wrong with me.I have been so desperate to remain updated about her life through her photos.I try my best to divert my mind but her photos strike my mind.All I know is that either I should send her a friend request or I need to move on.If she accepts it,well and great.I know i'll hover over her posts for a day or two and when i see it all,my obsession will be gone.
Kevin returns home in May.I made a plan that I'd meet him and ask him to introduce me to his best friends.Aron,Kevin's closest best friend,is her bestie of 6 yrs.So I thought I'd meet Kevin and Aron and tell them about all the co-incidences I have shared with respect to her and how amazing it would have been if we had the chance to meet finally.I know they'd laugh on hearing all the co-incidences because they sound surreal.They might also tell her about it on chat.Regardless,I thought that then I'd shoot her a msg on fb that night and tell her "Hi.You probably don't know me but there's something interesting I've to tell you.So I met Aron and Kevin today and we got talking about you.We have shared a lot of co-incidences unknowingly" and then I'd tell about all the events from Niagara falls to everything later.I'll keep my tone cool,casual,funny and excited.She'd know that I am not a spam/fake person and I am friends with her besties.We might end up being good friends,although just virtually since she's gone.I'd be instead surprised if she would reject my frnd req but well,at least I would have tried.
I know this is crazy. Please be respectful and polite.I'd really hate any judgemental person to comment here and be rude. I am going through a tough weird time right now and I am sure things would get much better when my grad school resumes from August but that's a lot of time.What do you think I should do? Should I go ahead with my plan of meeting her besties this May and then msg her with a frnd req or would it be highly creepy of me?Any positive wise thoughts appreciated.Thank you
PS - SORRY ABOUT THE LONG READ !!!