I'm new here. I found this place when I was researching avoidant personality disorder which I think I might have. I've always been considered shy, especially as a child. The older I get though the worse it gets. My anxiety is though the roof these days. I'm 31 years old and feel like I can't even function in society. I am very much socially inept. It's to the point now where it is hurting my job performance. I wake up dreading going t work each morning because my job consists of being on the phone all day with people.
It is really quite exhausting. I don't make friends easily at all because I am not social. It is very difficult for me to carry on even a vey basic and simple conversation with someone. Which is why I avoid people at all costs. I crave companionship, but yet I can't seem to force myself to get out there and to allow someone in. It's tough watching people around me getting married and having children when I can't even get a date. I've dated before, but have never had a relationship. My anxiety has gotten so much worse since then though to where I don't even date anymore.
I created a profile on an online dating site and even had some guys contact me who I was really interested in, but when it came to actually meeting them for a date I just couldn't do it. I would just completely freak out. Today I took down my profile. I thought it would be a good way for me to meet some people, but even that is difficult for me. I just feel very lonely sometimes and wish I at least had a girlfriend I could do things with or at least talk to. I don't even have that because it's so hard for me to make friends. These days I'm pretty much a hermit. If it wasn't for work I would not leave the house at all. I do not attend family functions and I don't even answer my phone most of the time.
Even going to the grocery store is extremely difficult for me and I get very nervous. I feel like everyone is constantly watching me and judging me. I become paranoid and anxious and break out into a sweat. A simple task like going to the grocery store should not be difficult for the regular person, but for me it is.
It feels good to vent and to just let this all out. Can anyone relate? Do you ever just feel like you're all alone looking in on everyone else who is talking and laughing and just living life? :sad:
It is really quite exhausting. I don't make friends easily at all because I am not social. It is very difficult for me to carry on even a vey basic and simple conversation with someone. Which is why I avoid people at all costs. I crave companionship, but yet I can't seem to force myself to get out there and to allow someone in. It's tough watching people around me getting married and having children when I can't even get a date. I've dated before, but have never had a relationship. My anxiety has gotten so much worse since then though to where I don't even date anymore.
I created a profile on an online dating site and even had some guys contact me who I was really interested in, but when it came to actually meeting them for a date I just couldn't do it. I would just completely freak out. Today I took down my profile. I thought it would be a good way for me to meet some people, but even that is difficult for me. I just feel very lonely sometimes and wish I at least had a girlfriend I could do things with or at least talk to. I don't even have that because it's so hard for me to make friends. These days I'm pretty much a hermit. If it wasn't for work I would not leave the house at all. I do not attend family functions and I don't even answer my phone most of the time.
Even going to the grocery store is extremely difficult for me and I get very nervous. I feel like everyone is constantly watching me and judging me. I become paranoid and anxious and break out into a sweat. A simple task like going to the grocery store should not be difficult for the regular person, but for me it is.
It feels good to vent and to just let this all out. Can anyone relate? Do you ever just feel like you're all alone looking in on everyone else who is talking and laughing and just living life? :sad: