Kid keeps glaring at me...

FriendlyShadow

Well-known member
So one of my sister's friends has a little kid (don't know how old she is, maybe around three years old), and whenever I'm around her kid, her kid looks at me and gives this mean glaring stare. It make me very uncomfortable that she looks at me this way, it's not a blank stare, but she stares at me with this glaring expression and I just want to tell her to stop looking at me like that. Now, of course her mother or others around don't see her staring at me like that and I'm sure I'll hear the "Oh you're taking it the wrong way" from them because it's always has to be put in this uncomfortable awkward position where these kids have no reason to stare at me or glare. I was at Sandcastle with my sister and her friend with that kid, and when I was just relaxing myself in the pool, the little girl was walking around me and gave me that glare and would not stop glaring at me. I can't handle that, gosh I guess it's no wonder why I can't find myself comfortable around kids. This is worse as someone having a schiziophrenia disorder. What should I say to this little girl in order for her to stop giving me these mean glares?
 

AtTheGates

Banned
idk...some people dont teach their kids that its impolite to stare at people..I learned that at a really young at but I guess maybe some kids dont know.

either just ignore her or say to her" "its impolite to stare at people....you little bitch"

jk, leave that last part out.

...but really you should probably just ignore her.
 

Sacrament

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There really is no reason to be mean to a three year old. Kids stare. It's what they do. It doesn't mean she's judging you in any way because their intellects are not really developed to a point where they can randomly think "oh I don't like his eyebrows, he's an ugly fella". Kid's probably looking at you because she's not used to your presence.

Try to wave and smile at the kid. Either 1) she'll get scared and thus stop staring, or 2) she'll smile and wave back shyly.

Or you can just casually approach the mother with a chukle and go "man, [name] sure seems to be giving me some really disapproving stares, haha", and she'll probably tell you that it's normal for her/kids to do that.
 

FriendlyShadow

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There really is no reason to be mean to a three year old. Kids stare. It's what they do. It doesn't mean she's judging you in any way because their intellects are not really developed to a point where they can randomly think "oh I don't like his eyebrows, he's an ugly fella". Kid's probably looking at you because she's not used to your presence.

Try to wave and smile at the kid. Either 1) she'll get scared and thus stop staring, or 2) she'll smile and wave back shyly.

Or you can just casually approach the mother with a chukle and go "man, [name] sure seems to be giving me some really disapproving stares, haha", and she'll probably tell you that it's normal for her/kids to do that.

I never said that I wanted to be mean to her(I haven't said anything to her), but the staring and these mean glares she gives me are absolutely putting me in the spot and I don't know what I should do so I can ignore it. She was standing right infront of me just glaring for no reason. I can't really blame this on the girl though, her mother is probably the one that didn't tell her that staring at people is impolite/rude. It happened to me and my dad one time at Eatin Park too and this girl was staring at us for a long time while her mother was getting a seat at the table and my Dad and I had to look away at the window until the girl was gone. Him and I didn't really appreciate that, but it was more of the parent's fault I guess that's what he said and I agree. I don't think that I'm probably brave enough to laugh it off about her her mother's kid, I think I've only noticed it when she's around me and it hasn't been a while since I've been around her. Guess my best option is to ignore it...
 

Sacrament

Well-known member
A kid who's 3 is too young to understand what's rude and what's not. Besides, the mother probably doesn't even notice it. If it bothers you so much that a child is staring, what will you do when an adult does it? Adults do it too, they randomly and blankly stare at other people, often without even noticing it.

If anything, stare back at the kid in a joking fashion, and she'll eventually stop staring.
 

FriendlyShadow

Well-known member
Okay, you're right. I agree with you. And I agree that she is too young to understand that it's rude, but if she does this to others, I'm not certain, but if she does, then I think her mother should've made it clear that it is rude to stare is what I'm trying to say...
 

Sacrament

Well-known member
Of course, I agree that the mother should show the child that it's impolite to point and stare. I also agree that in order for you not to be so annoyed by all this, you should take it with a grain of salt and find the humor in it, and use that humor to let the mother know how much her child stares. She can't really be pissed at you because you were saying it with a chuckle, and at the same time she'll possibly pay more attention to it.
 
She is probably staring because she is interested in you in some way - telling her that its rude to stare would be akin to saying its wrong to be interested in something. You are the adult, she is the 3 yo, so instead of expecting her behaviour to change, maybe adapt yours and engage her in some conversation?
 
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