i don't mean to be rude but u can either bitch about ur SA or do something about it, here are somethings which have helped me a lot
i suggest everyone here to try them out & i know a lot of you must be already knowing aboutthem but maybe u might have not been that motivated to try them or whatever....
CBT has helped me a lot to overcome my SA
i would suggest everyone here to get a tape of 'overcoming SA step by step'
& always talk slowly no matter where u r, i think it decreases 70% of ur anxiety
if u can't get it, heres what u have to do..
simply prepare a transcript of positive thoughts & say them loud so that u can hear ur own voice.. it is very very improtant that u *say* them, not jsut read them
do it daily for 30 mins at least
e.g 'i know that my thoughts are not always rational'
some that i made for myself-
'suddenly i realize that all these fears & negative thoughts that i had are nothing but bad illusions made by myself'
'no matter what i am always calm & relaxed'
'i have complete control over my thoughts & emotions'
'i can look people in their eyes'
' i love the evolution thats taking place in me '
'i dont care what people think of me, i love myself'
'my "filter" prevents negative thoughts from entering my brain, it simply only allows positive thoughts inside'
try to meditate for a couple of minutes everyday, after meditation visualize urself the way u want you want it to be, not the current you
Also if u can, get books on 'mind power'(there r lots of good books having similar names like that..total mind power etc), 'the power of ur subconscious mind' & 'the secret' video/book etc ,there r tons of good self help books out there..
about the secret - the law of attractions (& quantum physics) says that u attract whatever u think or feel .. like i said in another post of mine..
so 1st of all stop all ur negative thoughts! i know sounds easy but u can at least minmize them
more on this-
i ll be really happy even if i could affect a single persons life, i know how SA is & how cruel people can be, if u have problems trying/implimenting whatever i said feel free to pm me
any thoughts/suggestions/ideas are welcome