Losing it slowly

Hi. I'm very shy... Shyness causes loneliness, loneliness causes sadness.

I'm 26. Never been the coolest guy. I did have my time in the sun at one stage. But then I grew inhibited.

I feel inferior around most men. Which makes me shy.

I absolutely cannot speak to a female that I deem attractive.

This leave me with no companions. My god Im losing my mind.

I can't figure out where I got so shy, but I can tell you I'm getting no where fast being this shy.

I wish I could find a beautiful girlfriend for one. Lots of friends, a good job. Is that not what we all want? I think so.

I am not sure it is something that can be overcome.

I do know there are periods when it is better than others.

But for the most part it seems to me at the moment to be a pit of quicksand that causes you distress and sucks you deeper.

What did I do to deserve this? I must be a real asshole. ok that is not true. Im actually not. Im just really weak.

I have cleanliness problem. I'm to clean. I used to shower 3 times a day.

The slightest drop of sweat under my arm made me feel like a pig.

But before that I was a kid who was pretty eww. I never cared much for being clean and keeping my breath fresh. Thats until i was about 12.

I kinda hate being human, I dont like the fact that we have to so clean all the time. It puts me off women. All I can think about is how many germs a person has in their mouth when you might kiss them.

I have great fashion sense. I love looking terrific.

Im proabably average looking, maybe even handsome.

I have a feeling i will never solve these problems.

Interesting. Without appearing judgmental I would like to say this. Do you prefer men or women?

Stoneyfaced,have you seeked any kind of help for this? i know it seems utterly hopeless sometimes but there are lots of different things out there... treatments therapy ect.I would definatley go to a doctor and see what help you can get.Also google stuff like c.b.t therapy and acceptance therapy.

Danfalc22 said:

Stoneyfaced,have you seeked any kind of help for this? i know it seems utterly hopeless sometimes but there are lots of different things out there... treatments therapy ect.I would definatley go to a doctor and see what help you can get.Also google stuff like c.b.t therapy and acceptance therapy.

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I have for over 12 years. It does help, but i go through stages. Not sure.

Interesing,Why do you think i might prefer men to women Johno?

I wish I could find a beautiful girlfriend for one. Lots of friends, a good job. Is that not what we all want? I think so.

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This idea has been put into your head by the society we live in. A beautiful girlfriend? Is that really so important? I hope you don't just mean beautiful on the outside, because any woman I spend my life with must be beautiful in all aspects, not just looks.
As far as friends go, do you really need "lots of friends?" I feel that a few good friends are much better to have than a bunch of friends who are more like acquaintences.
Then there's the good job that you want. This is obvious, but what defines good when we're speaking about occupation? All you have to do there is find one of your passions and turn it into a job. A job should always be more enjoyable than profitable in my opinion.
I'm glad to hear you're attending therapy and I urge you to continue to do so. You need to search for what you really want in life, and just let go of everything and try to achieve it. You need to attack life rather than allowing life to attack you. It's easier said than done, but I'm pretty sure that's the formula for beating this monster.

Peace

SilentType said:

I wish I could find a beautiful girlfriend for one. Lots of friends, a good job. Is that not what we all want? I think so.

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This idea has been put into your head by the society we live in. A beautiful girlfriend? Is that really so important? I hope you don't just mean beautiful on the outside, because any woman I spend my life with must be beautiful in all aspects, not just looks.
As far as friends go, do you really need "lots of friends?" I feel that a few good friends are much better to have than a bunch of friends who are more like acquaintences.
Then there's the good job that you want. This is obvious, but what defines good when we're speaking about occupation? All you have to do there is find one of your passions and turn it into a job. A job should always be more enjoyable than profitable in my opinion.
I'm glad to hear you're attending therapy and I urge you to continue to do so. You need to search for what you really want in life, and just let go of everything and try to achieve it. You need to attack life rather than allowing life to attack you. It's easier said than done, but I'm pretty sure that's the formula for beating this monster.

Peace

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Thanks man. Yeah true. Beautiful on the inside and chemisty on the out.

A job that i can excell in, that tps my abilities. That is both enjoyable and profitable.

I like having lots of aquantances, but true, good friends are unbeatable.

Peace.

Just tryin to put things in perspective for ya man. We're goin through this crap together so keep on makin changes to your life until your content with where you're at and what you're doing with your time. That's all that matters. We only get one life, we're not gonna let this bullshit bring us down. There are ways around it if you search your soul and find the right combination of medication/therapy. I wish you well on your way to recovery, because its possible, especially if you just accept the whole "dilemma" as a gift rather than a burden. Think outside the box, there are millions of us with this anxiety problem, there has to be benefits to being like us, so find them and make them a part of your life. Just don't try to be "normal." As far as I'm concerned, there is no normal, and everybody has their own little issues, some just have worse ones than others.

Peace