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Old 11-30-2011  
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All a guy has to do is be kind towards me. Smile at me. Talk to me. Basically, treat me like I am a normal person and not the freak that I am. And bam, I've fallen in love. WTH is wrong with me.
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I think it's more "you're in love with the attention he gives you". You're not used to men paying attention to you in your life, so, when one does, you feel special and wanted, which is, more or less, what love is (I think). I know this because I suffer from the same thing. Any female that so much as talks to me for an extended period I feel attracted to. We just don't want to give up that attention, that's all.

Plus, it's not love. That's infatuation. Two very different things (or so I was taught).

Humanity's great frailty... we prefer past happiness to future uncertainty.

When reaching for the future, we sometimes fall into the past. As we gaze upon events that cannot be changed, our hearts grow bitter with regret.
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Im the same way but with girls. Seriously girls have treated me so terribly for so long that if a girl even looks at me and smiles I feel affection. I know these feelings are false and just mainly desperation but it bothers me.
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All a guy has to do is be kind towards me. Smile at me. Talk to me. Basically, treat me like I am a normal person and not the freak that I am. And bam, I've fallen in love. WTH is wrong with me.
If that is your real photo, you'll be getting plenty of smiles I reckon.
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I think it's more "you're in love with the attention he gives you".
Astute.

I may suffer from this more than I like to think.
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don't call that person a freak
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If that is your real photo, you'll be getting plenty of smiles I reckon.
Sweet Thank you. That is my real photo. But I photogragh well. Don't look even remotely similar in person.
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you look like my aunt overseas

Don't die with the truth still inside you.
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I know what you mean, because I do the same!! I like ''fall in love'' with any girl that pays attention to me in some form. Im wanting to stop behaving like this, its like im desperate (well i guess I am kind of, miss being in a relationship and I really want a gf), im just going to try working on myself and do things that I have been wanting to do, once I get from who I am to who I want to be then I expect positive changes in my life.
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I know a girl who likes me so unconditionally that sometimes I think she's into me, but then I take a reality check and I know it's just not that way, as she was in a relationship for a long while. She's single now and is so nice to me still. Whenever I see her we sit close and we put our hands on each other, and she even kisses me on the cheek occasionally...but it's nothing.

For you, redtear, when a guy is being nice to you, take the nice gestures but realise that there's millions of other men out there who will do the same!
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