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Old 11-30-2011  
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All a guy has to do is be kind towards me. Smile at me. Talk to me. Basically, treat me like I am a normal person and not the freak that I am. And bam, I've fallen in love. WTH is wrong with me.
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I think it's more "you're in love with the attention he gives you". You're not used to men paying attention to you in your life, so, when one does, you feel special and wanted, which is, more or less, what love is (I think). I know this because I suffer from the same thing. Any female that so much as talks to me for an extended period I feel attracted to. We just don't want to give up that attention, that's all.

Plus, it's not love. That's infatuation. Two very different things (or so I was taught).

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Im the same way but with girls. Seriously girls have treated me so terribly for so long that if a girl even looks at me and smiles I feel affection. I know these feelings are false and just mainly desperation but it bothers me.
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All a guy has to do is be kind towards me. Smile at me. Talk to me. Basically, treat me like I am a normal person and not the freak that I am. And bam, I've fallen in love. WTH is wrong with me.
If that is your real photo, you'll be getting plenty of smiles I reckon.
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I think it's more "you're in love with the attention he gives you".
Astute.

I may suffer from this more than I like to think.
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don't call that person a freak
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If that is your real photo, you'll be getting plenty of smiles I reckon.
Sweet Thank you. That is my real photo. But I photogragh well. Don't look even remotely similar in person.
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you look like my aunt overseas

Don't die with the truth still inside you.
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I know what you mean, because I do the same!! I like ''fall in love'' with any girl that pays attention to me in some form. Im wanting to stop behaving like this, its like im desperate (well i guess I am kind of, miss being in a relationship and I really want a gf), im just going to try working on myself and do things that I have been wanting to do, once I get from who I am to who I want to be then I expect positive changes in my life.
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I know a girl who likes me so unconditionally that sometimes I think she's into me, but then I take a reality check and I know it's just not that way, as she was in a relationship for a long while. She's single now and is so nice to me still. Whenever I see her we sit close and we put our hands on each other, and she even kisses me on the cheek occasionally...but it's nothing.

For you, redtear, when a guy is being nice to you, take the nice gestures but realise that there's millions of other men out there who will do the same!
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I'd love you for the opposite lol, I'd probably love you for being a "freak" your words, not mine! :P I can't help but loving the "different" things though.
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I feel attached to anyone who's nice to me. Eventually it gets to the point I have to realize they have more friends and other people to deal with and I have no one but that person at the moment. That's when I back off. xD
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Whenever I see her we sit close and we put our hands on each other, and she even kisses me on the cheek occasionally...but it's nothing.
I have to ask, Mikey: are you sure it's nothing? Or is that just your anxiety talking?

You do sound close.
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I am the opposite these days. If a guy is nice to me I presume 1) he's mocking me or 2) pitying me and then I feel annoyed and defensive....in order for me to like him hed have to have absaloutely no interest in me and be a complete **** hahaha

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If a guy is nice to me I presume 1) he's mocking me or 2) pitying me
I worry about this when people compliment me.

were they being sarcastic? were they were they were they?
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I am the opposite these days. If a guy is nice to me I presume 1) he's mocking me or 2) pitying me and then I feel annoyed and defensive....in order for me to like him hed have to have absaloutely no interest in me and be a complete **** hahaha
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I worry about this when people compliment me.

were they being sarcastic? were they were they were they?
if i make the effort AND risk making a fool of myself to compliment a woman, you can be assured that i'm sincere

i could just as easily say nothing at all - why would i expend the energy otherwise?

i'm sure i'm not the only man who thinks this way

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I often get called beautiful by other people's mothers, and these days I fear it is because they're trying to be kind but that they honestly can't think of any other positive thing to say.
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I often get called beautiful by other people's mothers, and these days I fear it is because they're trying to be kind but that they honestly can't think of any other positive thing to say.
well that's on page 32 of the Mother's Handbook

they have to say those things in order to get their merit badge

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I often get called beautiful by other people's mothers, and these days I fear it is because they're trying to be kind but that they honestly can't think of any other positive thing to say.
Doesn't beautiful connotate that you have the looks and the personality? Think of it as a double compliment. Or it's probably because it's the thing they first notice about you. You're just that beautiful, it seems! A third idea is that they barely know you, so they can't compliment on anything else because they don't know that much about you.

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AND risk making a fool of myself to compliment a woman
This I have learned: if something positive about my boyfriend comes to mind, it is worth taking the risk to say it. There is no one so secure that they don't need to hear it. And that never stops being true.

(Scary, though. Oh no! he might see how much he means to me.)
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