man i feel helpless
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Harleyq
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Lots of people find college hard. Since I've been up here, I've only made one friend, and as of lately we don't even see eachother anymore so IDK how long that's going to last, or even if it's still there. I emailed him and offered to buy him food after my work shift tomorrow and he never answered me.
If you have any smaller classes, maybe you can get there early and work up the courage to join an existing conversation before class starts. I know it's really difficult for SA sufferers but if you can face your fear and do it, it might help. That's how I met a few acquaintances. It's scary as hell but everyone's usually nice and they talk back easily.
If you have any smaller classes, maybe you can get there early and work up the courage to join an existing conversation before class starts. I know it's really difficult for SA sufferers but if you can face your fear and do it, it might help. That's how I met a few acquaintances. It's scary as hell but everyone's usually nice and they talk back easily.
Why
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the problem with me is i take no Risks. and i mean NONE. I almsot never start a random convo with some1, they always start with me.
so scary that i look at my life and realize everything is planned, nothing spontaneous. when a girl likes me, i cant even look at her for some reason. so i seem stuck-up and uninterested.
wow if a girl offered to buy ME food, id be jumpin for joy
so scary that i look at my life and realize everything is planned, nothing spontaneous. when a girl likes me, i cant even look at her for some reason. so i seem stuck-up and uninterested.
wow if a girl offered to buy ME food, id be jumpin for joy
aboobooboobooo
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I face the same issue, it's hard but you gotta think positive. I also take no risks when it comes to making friendships but I'm trying my best to get some courage. Where do you go to school?
PennyLane
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I find that even if I do talk to people in the class...they don't become my friends. We might have a conversation during class times but we will never see each other outside of that environment.
Doesn't seem to matter if I talk to everyone or no one..thet are not my friends
Doesn't seem to matter if I talk to everyone or no one..thet are not my friends
Harleyq
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Yeah, I don't make friends by talking to people in class either, usually. It still helps, though, if you can think positively. I always try to think "Maybe they won't become my friends but at least I have enough courage to talk to them, which I didn't use to be able to do." - It's a baby step to success. I try to to celebrate small victories cause if I make my goals too big, I know I'll just get more depressed when I don't meet them.
DownInAHole
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PennyLane, r u still in Sydney
and I barely found frineds in highschool, let alone when start college...(((((
Tempus35
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College is very hard when it comes to finding friends. I also am in college at the moment and I have very few friends, if at all. I, as someone said above, take no risks or very little. I really like socialize, a paradox to my issues, but I can't do it right no matter what. The best advice is what was given above. Go early to class, try talking to the person sitting next to you. Also if there are events on campus, movie nights etc, then go to them, try talking to people.
Darker Than Black
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Diklah Xenon
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Friend of mine have the same problem. he find problem with mingling with new friends. its because he trust no one. for this try to network . find new friends from your close friends that may help you.