dottie
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are there any other adults here who opt to live at home?
i'm 28 and currently living at a parent's house. while there are a lot of annoyances about it there are obviously the benefits. there are minor petty annoyances like noises while i'm trying to sleep, people using my toiletries, things like that. the benefit is that for the most part i can come and go as i please, i have most of the same freedoms as if i were to move out on my own (as long as i clean up after myself which is nothing since i'm ocd anyway) and obviously i save a lot of money.
but. at the same time i really don't like the stigma of "being 28 and living at home." like there is something wrong with me (well, there probably is but... whatever). i don't like having the stigma of being a slacker/loser/leach since i work hard and go to school. but people don't take you seriously if you are living at home. i am a hypocrite and judge people who live at home, myself, if they aren't trying to better themselves, you know what i mean? i go to school and work, trying to pay off school loans.
i imagine getting a studio apartment somewhere but then i have all these concerns about living by myself. what if someone broke in? what if something happened to me? no one would know for days, maybe weeks. i have lived by myself before but it was still at a parent's house (they moved out somewhere else) and i knew i could rely on neighbors if i needed help since they would keep an eye on me just to make sure i was ok. also, i have moved with a boyfriend but then i had the security of someone being there.
i am kind of afraid of living alone. i could get a roommate, but why? living at home is practically the same thing except better because i don't have to deal with the social interaction, the bullshit hellos, the "are you using the kitchen?" their friends coming over, etc and i can utilize the money i save.
THE PROS AND CONS OF LIVING AT HOME:
pros:
- saving money/paying off school
- a nice, newly remodeled house in a pretty decent area
- free meals sometimes
- not tied into the ball/chain responsibility of a year long apartment lease (what if i end up hating the place or my neighbors and want to move out?)
cons:
- the stigma of living at home
- having very little space (a tiny bedroom which is not much room for my belongings)
THE PROS AND CONS OF MOVING OUT:
pros:
- no more stigma, people take you more seriously
- more living space
- don't have to tiptoe around at night
- don't have to share the bathroom
cons:
- feeling like i am wasting money that could go towards paying off my school loan.
- insecurities (what if something happens to me? no one would even know for maybe weeks)
- i am a student and can't afford a nice place so there is a good probability that my neighbors could be ghetto. i hate ghetto people. no, seriously. i fucking hate them- they are rude and loud. who wants to deal with that?
- i have a chihuahua and he needs to piss throughout the day. due to work and school i am gone a lot, so this poses a problem.
i think i feel like moving out is the socially acceptable thing to do. but living at home is so damn convenient and i feel like it is the thing to do to truly help me get ahead financially. if you have school loans hanging over your head, you know what i mean.
i don't know... i suppose i just needed a place to vent about this. comments welcome.
i'm 28 and currently living at a parent's house. while there are a lot of annoyances about it there are obviously the benefits. there are minor petty annoyances like noises while i'm trying to sleep, people using my toiletries, things like that. the benefit is that for the most part i can come and go as i please, i have most of the same freedoms as if i were to move out on my own (as long as i clean up after myself which is nothing since i'm ocd anyway) and obviously i save a lot of money.
but. at the same time i really don't like the stigma of "being 28 and living at home." like there is something wrong with me (well, there probably is but... whatever). i don't like having the stigma of being a slacker/loser/leach since i work hard and go to school. but people don't take you seriously if you are living at home. i am a hypocrite and judge people who live at home, myself, if they aren't trying to better themselves, you know what i mean? i go to school and work, trying to pay off school loans.
i imagine getting a studio apartment somewhere but then i have all these concerns about living by myself. what if someone broke in? what if something happened to me? no one would know for days, maybe weeks. i have lived by myself before but it was still at a parent's house (they moved out somewhere else) and i knew i could rely on neighbors if i needed help since they would keep an eye on me just to make sure i was ok. also, i have moved with a boyfriend but then i had the security of someone being there.
i am kind of afraid of living alone. i could get a roommate, but why? living at home is practically the same thing except better because i don't have to deal with the social interaction, the bullshit hellos, the "are you using the kitchen?" their friends coming over, etc and i can utilize the money i save.
THE PROS AND CONS OF LIVING AT HOME:
pros:
- saving money/paying off school
- a nice, newly remodeled house in a pretty decent area
- free meals sometimes
- not tied into the ball/chain responsibility of a year long apartment lease (what if i end up hating the place or my neighbors and want to move out?)
cons:
- the stigma of living at home
- having very little space (a tiny bedroom which is not much room for my belongings)
THE PROS AND CONS OF MOVING OUT:
pros:
- no more stigma, people take you more seriously
- more living space
- don't have to tiptoe around at night
- don't have to share the bathroom
cons:
- feeling like i am wasting money that could go towards paying off my school loan.
- insecurities (what if something happens to me? no one would even know for maybe weeks)
- i am a student and can't afford a nice place so there is a good probability that my neighbors could be ghetto. i hate ghetto people. no, seriously. i fucking hate them- they are rude and loud. who wants to deal with that?
- i have a chihuahua and he needs to piss throughout the day. due to work and school i am gone a lot, so this poses a problem.
i think i feel like moving out is the socially acceptable thing to do. but living at home is so damn convenient and i feel like it is the thing to do to truly help me get ahead financially. if you have school loans hanging over your head, you know what i mean.
i don't know... i suppose i just needed a place to vent about this. comments welcome.