My boyfriend

Anonymous

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My boyfriend, for quite a while, has worried about OCD. He says that when he watches a scary movie and such he will try to move the energy by blinking his eyes in a downward motion, when he says "i love you" over the phone he can't look at the TV because it will mean that I love that character on the tv, and when he puts his arms up he has to make sure that he doesn't put his arm through any of my pictures or it means he is slicing through them and something bad will happen to me unless he lifts his arms up until he completly goes around the picture. I am almost positive he has OCD, but he is afraid to tell someone and have them tell him its nothing. He is constantly anxious about things and is always highstung, most of his friends call him a 40 year old trapped in a 16 year old body. He is also abnormally clean, he even one time came over and was looking through my cd case turning all the cds so they were all facing the same direction. He does many other things I cant completley remember right now, but he wont tell anybody untill he gets some confirmation that when he does everyone wont tell him hes just silly. Any help would be greatly appriciated and would ease my mind. I just want him to relax.
 

FlipFlop

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Hello GF!
It's really nice of you to look for help for your boyfriend. That means you know he is NOT crazy and NOT being annoying or childish on purpose. CORRECT! :D He is still your boyfriend, only he has got some weird thoughts that make him do some rituals he is ashamed of and wants to keep them secret. This is really difficult, I know from my own experience with OCD which I've had for 8 years now. By the way, I can relate with some rituals he has, especially with the one slicing the picture with the arms. Oh, yes, I know that feeling. I never had exactly the same ritual, but it`s all similar. Now if he wants help: Give it to him! Look for information on OCD. Look for ways to help him. Assure him you believe him. This will help a lot.
feel free to post here or to send me a private message anytime if you have questions.
FlipFlop
 

Sacrament

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I just think that it's a great thing you didn't leave him for "acting weird", and instead you're trying to help him.

Well done :)
 

Sacrament

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Oh and yes, those are various signs of OCD. Maybe he should see a doctor and explain what's happening. He will probably feel very embarassed, since none of us actually want to behave like that, but doctors understand and are used to it.
 

sweetpea6656

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I also have a boyfriend with OCD and I just recently found out it was OCD, after being with him for 5 years and wondering what the heck is going on? Whenever we would be with all of our friends or at parties he would always cause an "argument" little did I know this was his way of asking for reassurance. I could never get close to another guy even if the guy was both of our best friend, I could never go anywhere without him there or he would assume I was cheating on him and I could never talk online or on the phone without him thinking I was cheating. His obvious obsession was with me cheating. He recently told me what it was after gathering the courage which I highly commend him on because now I am in a frenzy. I am looking back on 5 years of a relationship from when we were 16 yrs old until now and everything makes so much sense to me now. I can't read enough, go on enough forums, or inform myself enough about OCD. I am happy to finally have some information. I think the key is to understand the person and what they are going through and not making assumptions or judgements because thats what the rest of the world is good at doing. By understanding them or atleast trying to...my boyfriend always said u just don't understand, well after he told me what it was and i researched i completely understand now. just give it time, those with ocd have a difficult life to live and they need all the support they can get from my experience. hang in there, if you love them it is worth every argument and every harsh feeling:)
 
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