My dad cut corners raising me.

Metal_isthe_Answer

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I remember teaching myself to shave. I also remember being very young and wanting to play catch with my dad but he was always too tired from work. At one point later (and a little bit now) he wanted to do stuff, I was thinking to myself "yeah **** off dad"
 
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CrazyGirl

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I remember teaching myself to shave. I also remember being very young and wanting to play catch with my dad but he was always too tired from work. At one point leer (and a little bit now) he wants to do stuff, I'm thinking to myself "yeah **** off dad"

My sister does that. She's 19months younger. In our teen years and young adulthood, she wanted NOTHING to do with me. Now in our 30's, she wants me around and involved going out doing something or hanging out at her house. Our talks are mostly superficial while her and my mom are best friends. Sometimes, I'll give in out of she's one of the few in my family that will imclude me in their life
 

MotherWolff

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..and my mom basically had to pick up ALL the slack for him. its like he basically gave up on me when I was about 13 and instead spent all his time and energy with my sister and brother. in retrospect I think thats why I started gettign in trouble and hanging out wit the wrong crowd around that time. I felt like I didnt fit in at home and nobody (ESPECIALLY my dad) really wanted me around. looking back now I realize he didnt teach me key things that a father is supposed to teach his son (grooming,hygeine, bathing, self esteem) and it took me SO long to finally figure certain things out for MYSELF. as a teenager I got made fun of because of things that my dad didnt teach me how to do. my self esteem was terrible and I hung out with trouble makers because I felt like I didnt belong anywhere else..like I wasnt worthy of anything better. When I was 22 I had a falling out with my so-called "freinds" and at that point stopped getting in trouble and doing drugs. for the past two years iv been in-between chapters in my life. in that period of time everyone moved on and forgot about me. now its like im at square one and idk which direction to go with my life...I made mistakes when I was younger (getting arressted, smoking weed, abusing pills) so all the good people in my life kind of just left me for dead, so to speak. my MOM is the only person who's never given up on me. anyway, I want to change. I want to improve and live my life and meet new people. I know im capable of being succesful and independent but I worry that even when i reach that point i'll STILL be alone and regardless of all my progress people STILL wont want me around...anyway,I guess I kind of just wanted ot get that off my chest. I have alot of improving to do but at least now im old enough/wise enough to know what went wrong in my younger years and learn from the past.

I can relate to an extent to this circumstance. I think you want to establish a relationship with your estranged father, correct?

I honestly want to cut all but a few family members off, including my "father."
 

Metal_isthe_Answer

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My sister does that. She's 19months younger. In our teen years and young adulthood, she wanted NOTHING to do with me. Now in our 30's, she wants me around and involved going out doing something or hanging out at her house. Our talks are mostly superficial while her and my mom are best friends. Sometimes, I'll give in out of she's one of the few in my family that will imclude me in their life

Now hes a raging alcoholic so I dont even need to worry about him wanting to to do stuff. He'll want to go to a movie or get lunch/dinner, but if I get up around 1030 or so he already drunk saying I got up too late. If I get up early he just says he doesnt want to do anything now
 
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