My Scottish Mother Has a Tumor

So I found out my mom who just turned 55 has a tumor in the middle part of her head. It sucks, because it was most likely from her smoking. I love her very much, she always had a way to make me feel better. The doctors said that the news isn't really good; so we don't know how long she might live for.

She forgets the year, day and time. She still remembers us thankfully. But she struggles with using the microwave, turning on the t.v, getting up and walking around a lot. And whenever she talks she sounds like she's always confused in a weird way. Though it's probably the medication their giving her to subside the pain.

She complains a lot that her head hurts, but there's isn't much we can do at the moment but do our best to make her live happy. It's sad, when I was 7 I was looking up in the stars one night in my kitchen window and I felt the presence of her father/ my grandpa who passed away when I was 2 months old.

My mom came over and asked what I was doing, I told her I was talking to him and she asked; what's he saying. He then told me to ask my mom if she was happy and when I turned asking her that question...she freaked out and ran away. I know its hard to believe this but it's true and it actually happened.

Later she told that her father would always would say that to her whenever he was around. Who knows, maybe I somehow heard it as a baby and remember it...or possibly I was really talking to him.

So, I want to give my mom the best times she can get because I don't want to think for the worst but I know that we'll all be there to make her happy. That's all that matters in the end.

I'm really sorry to hear that. My parents are ageing and my dad's smoked all his life, so I'm dreading that moment coming for me too. But I must say your attitude towards it is really inspiring. I think you said it all when you said all you can do is try your best to make her live happy. I think that's a good perspective.

I'm sorry Cetnien!

I can relate to this, my mother had lung cancer (though she smoked, the doctors said it had nothing to do with it, at least in her case) and spread to the brain. I lost her 4 years ago (she was 54 while i was 21) and though she had problems speaking (due to the brain damage), her last words were that se loved me a lot and that's a great relief.

So i can assure that you're absolutely right when saying that making her happy is all that matters

I hope she gets better and overcomes the tumor, if not, be with her and give all the love you can (you should do this even if she recovers! but you know what i mean lol) making those last moments easier for everyone!

So sorry to hear that.

I hope you have happy memories.

Thanks everyone. Just spending time with her whether before the tumor or after, I've been there and she's been there for me. Works both ways. That's what counts!

F0AM said:

I'm sorry Cetnien!

I can relate to this, my mother had lung cancer (though she smoked, the doctors said it had nothing to do with it, at least in her case) and spread to the brain. I lost her 4 years ago (she was 54 while i was 21) and though she had problems speaking (due to the brain damage), her last words were that se loved me a lot and that's a great relief.

So i can assure that you're absolutely right when saying that making her happy is all that matters

I hope she gets better and overcomes the tumor, if not, be with her and give all the love you can (you should do this even if she recovers! but you know what i mean lol) making those last moments easier for everyone!

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I'm really sorry to hear about that! I'm glad you and your mom have no problems. Because it sucks if you can't get along with your family members. Believe me, I sometimes had my differences with my family.

However, we always had laughs growing up. Smiling is a gift to all that endure it. Though I got no regrets with my mom; sometimes we wouldn't agree with each other but she tells me that she loves me and I do the same.

Its the loss that's the difficult part, but if you dwell on it for too long; it can damage you. This may be hard to say and take in but, no matter what; they will always be in your hearts when they are gone. Like I mentioned before that I was able to talk to my deceased grandfather.

Most of all, they wouldn't want you to worry about them being gone because they want you to live a full life off wonders and follow your dreams. That's how I look at it and it keeps me strong. I hope you stay strong too! :thumbup:

I'm so sorry :sad:

It's really tough having someone you love suffer and feeling so helpless. Bringing them happiness is all that matters because the future is so unclear and frightening.

Record the happy times. I lost my mother to cancer. I cant see her in the photos from that period because she didnt look like herself but I can see her in the things I wrote down, funny things she said or did or kind things, happy things that dont show in the photos.

Im really sorry this is happening. I hope for the best for you.

Dear Cetnien, I'm so sorry you're going thorough this difficult moment right now, I just want to tell you that I'll pray for your mum and for you and your whole family so that you all keep strong and have the strenght needed to pass through this difficult period, and to have peace.

I send you a big hug dear, trust everything will be for good in the end.

Dear Cetnien, I'm so sorry you're going thorough this difficult moment right now, I just want to tell you that I'll pray for your mum and for you and your whole family so that you all keep strong and have the strenght needed to pass through this difficult period, and to have peace.

I send you a big hug dear, trust everything will be for good in the end.

Cetnien, I am terribly sorry to hear about such an ordeal that you and your beloved mother must be going through.

As a matter of fact, I know how it feels, my mother herself has suffered from cancer (left breast), when I was 13 or 14, but she treated herself and underwent chemotherapy without even telling me, maybe because I was too young to understand and that it would divert my mind from studying somehow.

Thankfully this is all behind us, and I honestly hope that this would be the case for you both.

When it comes to my mother, even though I am 23, I'll always cuddle, hug and kiss her as when I was a child, even around other people, that's the only thing I'll never be ashamed of.

I wish your mother good recovery, or at least to live what remains happily and peacefully.