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Old 01-18-2006
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There's something broken in my soul cause everytime I try -and you bet I do with all my heart- to socialize there's someone treating me like I'm a stupid. I already know that I'm shy, too sensitive and too insecure. What is the reason why people keep remembering me that all the time?
I feel so bad about being shy! I have such bad times everytime I remember my life is shit because of my lack of self confidence! This hurts so much! Why is people so obsessionated with my shyness??
I have this problem right now with two work mates... and I just don't know what to do. They make me feel so stupid and childish! They keep joking at me, laughing aloud, talking rude, talking about dirty/sexual stuff, making me go red-faced, making me go ashamed, making everyone arround notice that I'm shy and insecure... I know they don't mean it and it's not their fault if I'm shy and insecure but you know...that just doesn't help me.
I'm thinking about the way to stop this somehow. But fighting other's takes me so much energy!
I hope I'll be able to avoid those two girls and go with other persons in the company who treat me more seriously.
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Old 01-18-2006

I feel pretty similar to you. But i dont think shyness is a bad thing, Im proud of who I am. Even if at times I am a little quiet, i dont think its worth talkin just for the sake of makin noise like most people.

as 4 people tryin to make u embarrased, u can tell them that its totally out of order and pathetic to do that. U dont hav to be anxious or have SA to find some conversations embarrasing

And as for confrontations, i hate them and it takes up loads of my energy as wel.
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Old 01-18-2006
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Well, your reaction is excactly what's making them do this again and again, but I guess you know that.

If you tell them how you feel about it, then it could go both ways: If they are decent people then they will stop it, if they are not then you'll only be giving them more ammunition.

The absolute best response is to not show them how their words are bothering you. Then they will quickly tire of it. If the others at work are treating you well, then there is no reason why you should care about these two individuals. Easier said than done, of course. I really wish I could make you tougher! :twisted:
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Old 01-18-2006

I think im becoming addicted to coco pops I can't stop eating them and now they give away them free torch toys i keep getting the dam hippo and crocadile and all I want is the coco monkey one :(
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Old 01-19-2006
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People like to treat being shy or quiet like its some kind of crime, I think you're on the right track with trying to stay away from them. You are only responsible for yourself and not for anyone elses actions. Be true to yourself and at least at the end of the day you have your integrity.
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Old 01-19-2006

my butt hurts, from sitting in this chair for too long!
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Old 01-19-2006
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Im sorry to hear that people treat you like this.There is no reason to be ashamed that you are sensitive or shy.Even though our culture does look down on shy and sensitive people.Does not mean you dont deserve to be treated with respect and common decency.As for 2 coworker that make a joke of you.They don't deserve respect from anyone.

I know how you fell and i which I had somethin better to say to you.
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