kuhtreen

Hey everyone, this is my first post on here. I'm not sure if what I have is social anxiety, because I don't experience extreme physical symptoms like most social anxiety sufferers do. But I do know that I have a severe problem. I just don't know what to call it. So I'm going to type out all of my symptoms and it would be great if someone could help me understand if I really do have social anxiety. Thanks. :-) Here goes...

-EXTREMELY self concious. Highly aware of everything...for example: where I'm looking, what facial expression I'm making, the way I'm walking, the way my voice sounds, the things I say, and the way I'm standing, sitting, or moving. Basically...everything.
-Unable to relax physically or emotionally; extremely uncomfortable
-Feel like everyones watching me (even though I know they aren't)
-Unable to speak normally (my voice automatically changes to a strained voice that isnt my own)
-Constantly worrying about what I should say
-Can't be myself or feel the least bit comfortable

I experience these symptoms:
-Whenever I am not in my house. Literally. Even if I just step outside to get the mail. However, I do experience these symptoms inside my house if a guest is over.
-Walking around in public
-Simply being in the prescence of anyone who is not an immediate family member

Another thing is that I simply CANNOT open up to people no matter what. Not even after an extended amount of time. I have known my stepdad for 8 years and I still experience these symptoms around him (not as extreme as if I were around a stranger, but they do occur nonetheless.)

And here's the really stupid thing - I don't even have to be in a social situation to experience this anxiety!! Even when I'm simply emailing someone or IMing someone...I can't be myself. I feel really self concious about the things I'm typing and the way I sound. I worry about if the person I'm talking to thinks I'm a bad conversationalist.

After typing this all out and reading it again, I feel like it's pretty obvious that what I have is social anxiety. I would just really like some confirmation, I guess. Thanks everyone. And sorry this was so long, I've just been wanting to let it out for a long time!!! I never talk to anyone about this.

terrified

Hi, kuhtreen

If it's strictly social phobia, you would only have these symptoms when you are out in public or with someone you don't feel comfortable with. However, you should feel find with people you feel safe with.

agoraphobia is a term used when your world is getting smaller and smaller because you keep avoiding people and public place. Some people become home bound.

However, it's all depend on where you are in your life. If you are an teenager, feeling self-conscious is pretty normal cycle of life.

Based on your descriptions, you are more hyper-vigilant or you are in fight or flight state. I know that because I have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and I feel like to most of the time.

I hope this help any.

Is seeing a counselor or seeking a psychologist an option for you?

If it is, it's best to seek help. You don't have to suffer alone.

Blueberry

I have the same symptoms as you do - feeling like everyone is looking at me and judging me, I feel embarrassed when I speak to strangers and sometimes stutter and cannot find the words, I feel very anxious in public places - especially eating in restaurants and have a difficult time relaxing. So I would say you also have social anxiety. Are you thinking about getting professional help? I am. I think now that I know what I have, I would like to see what can be done to help. At least we found this website and know that we are not alone and not crazy!

kuhtreen

I have thought about professional help, but I'm so uncomfortable around all people, so I know that I wouldn't be able to even open up to the person trying to help me! I feel so stuck in that sense. Plus, I don't want to be put on medication or anything...I don't want a band aid for my problem, I want a lasting cure. :-/

jonah

i can relate to every single word, trust me. i have the same symptoms and i also thinks it must be social anxiety. i wish id know the solution but im in the same situation, but i think recognising the problem is the first step to the heal. sorry for my bad english :wink:

Helyna

Well, not all therapists give medication. No therapist should ONLY give medication, because, as you said, it is a band-aid. They should do something like Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT). Also, if they can't handle your difficulty "opening up", they can't be very good at their job! If this is really messing up your life, then you should consider seeing one, or at least tell your doctor what's going on and see what he/she suggests.

Drkkenny

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villacjs

Hi kuhtreen

You have to try some kind of therapy whether it be individual self help therapy or with a psychologist. A good psychologist while help you open up by asking the right questions. Also don't rule out medication, it may be a band-aid solution but it can assist in the short term while you do therapy.

edgarapoo

Yes, from the sound of it, you do have social anxiety disorder, though a mental health professional's is worth more, at least you're internet-confirmed now :wink:

I agree with what someone else said, part of a therapist's job is to make you feel comfortable. You really should give therapy a second thought, because you can get better, but you'll need to make an effort.

milo001

yeah,like everyone here i think you're a SP as well because basically you just feel unxomfortable with unfamiliar peoples or even your friends when you chatting.i have exactly all the same symptoms like you like i'll hiding in the room when my mum friend is coming because i fell uncomfortable with her around.i'll feel very uncomfortable and nervous in the public places like mall sometimes i fell like peoples is staring at me. :roll: you better check with a psychologist for confirmation.

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