My voice sounds older than it is

FriendlyShadow

FriendlyShadow

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I was in a car with my sister and her boyfriend in it. I was humming a tune to a song I liked on a radio and my sister's boyfriend commented "What's that noise?" and then when they realized it was me they laughed and said "It sounds like an old lady singing." At first, I did find it kind of funny, but then it just comes back to me hating my voice even more because my voice sounds so deep and shaky that people won't take me seriously. This is why I even have trouble cooing or even talking in a soft spoken voice because my voice sounds like it's scared or shakey and my voice sounds like I'm on sulfur hexafluoride gas or something. If I grow old, is my voice going to sound worse due to aging?
 
Sacrament

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There's a voice you use when you're confident, and a voice that you use when you are anxious, or afraid, or shy. Ask people you trust what they think of your voice.
 
FriendlyShadow

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sonia said:
Have you been to the doctor?
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I don't think it's something that medically serious, but I'm just saying if the way I sound compares to an old person's voice, I'm worried that if I will reach up to that certain age point where I am really old, that it will affect the way my voice sounds. I'd wonder if it actually make my voice sound worse or a lot more deeper and shaky sounding. I'm 18 now so I don't know if the years go by that my voice will gradually start to wither out or become worse than it sounds.
 
FriendlyShadow

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Sacrament said:
There's a voice you use when you're confident, and a voice that you use when you are anxious, or afraid, or shy. Ask people you trust what they think of your voice.
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When I was humming the song though, I wasn't actually feeling scared/nervous or anything. I pretty much got lost in my own world and just hummed the tune to the song. It was my sister's boyfriend had to point out that I sung like an old lady. I really do hate the way my voice sounds. I think it's more of the volume of it rather than pitch. My voice doesn't sound like most girls where they have really or normal feminine sounding voices and mine just sounds like its retarded whenever I speak. I can't explain it though, if I were ever to upload a video of myself talking soft spokenly I think I knew people would laugh at me because the way I talk sounds funny because my voice is shaky. I don't even try to be like that on purpose but I guess that's unfortunately how my voice sounds like. It's a part of me that makes me feel self concious.
 
Sacrament

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I love lions said:
When I was humming the song though, I wasn't actually feeling scared/nervous or anything. I pretty much got lost in my own world and just hummed the tune to the song. It was my sister's boyfriend had to point out that I sung like an old lady. I really do hate the way my voice sounds. I think it's more of the volume of it rather than pitch. My voice doesn't sound like most girls where they have really or normal feminine sounding voices and mine just sounds like its retarded whenever I speak. I can't explain it though, if I were ever to upload a video of myself talking soft spokenly I think I knew people would laugh at me because the way I talk sounds funny because my voice is shaky. I don't even try to be like that on purpose but I guess that's unfortunately how my voice sounds like. It's a part of me that makes me feel self concious.
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Maybe you should actually record a clip of your voice and share it here, I'm sure you'll find out your voice is quite normal. I used to strongly dislike my voice and always found it to be weird (and I'd hate to hear myself talk), but some people would tell me I have a soothing voice. Just the other day a friend of my father's said I had an awesome voice for radio.

I guess it's one of those things. I still find it weird to listen to my own voice, but I learned that if I actually listen to my own voice more often (recordings I have, etc), I learn to accept it more, and it stops being a problem. There's already way too many things for us to worry about, our voice doesn't need to be one of them.
 
williamreinsch

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I hate my voice too. I sound like a squeaky teenager :( But you are born with this voice just like you was born with this body and brain. You can only really do one thing to help it and that's accept it. Maybe learn to love your voice. There's gonna people that love your voice too. I love deep voices I wish I had one :) But **** it i'm born sounding like this. I can only do one thing and embrace it. I'm still working on that though as you can tell.
 
Opaline

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I can understand feeling self-conscious about this, but honestly, I think someone's voice is the absolute last thing an observer cares about unless it's truly unusual (like really high-pitched or something). I hate my voice too - I sound like a little kid and have the face to match it, but it would be so much nicer and more helpful if I sounded like a woman insteas of a girl (I'm 24). I doubt your voice is anything to be concerned about but as another poster said, if you want to upload a clip I will be totally honest :)
 
FriendlyShadow

FriendlyShadow

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Thanks to everyone who responded. Unfortunately, I don't really know how to record a clip my voice on here but I'd still feel nervous to do it though. I know that my voice isn't very important to think about worrying, but I can't help but dislike it. Not only that, but I also hate not being able to speak up louder because my voice is so soft spoken and people always tell me to speak up or I can't hear you. Maybe the social anxiety I have affects my tone of voice probably.
 
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