Nearing the end of my rope

I've been a poster here for a while, and need some strength.

My wife and I moved across the country, and have been living in western Canada for two years.

My Anxiety has been terrible, my career has fallen apart, I resigned from an extremely stressful job last week (my wife works for the same company) and I feel like Ive let her down.

With the job changes I've made since we've moved out trying to find a groove, my resume is full of holes.

My anxiety is through the roof. I've been started on Celexa, and it's been really rough the first two weeks. I can't sleep past 4:00 AM, and wake up shaking and in full blown panic mode.

This is so stupid. I'm 36, and feel like my career is a bust, and I can't get it together.


I'm just so scared right now.

Sending good vibes you're way, Ryan. All will work out in time, we just have to be patient. I'm sure your wife understands how you're feeling. With how you have been feeling, a stressful job would make it worse.

Try not to sweat the holes in employment, we all have them. Life likes to poke it's head in our plans.

Until you can find employment, try doing things that can help at home. Cook her a nice romantic meal if need be. :bigsmile: You don't have a job for the time being, so maybe you could also take that time to get yourself relaxed a little bit and figure out how to get into a good place where you can function better. We all need to take a step back once in a while.

Take life slowly - Nothing is permanent and there is always a way.

Thanks for the reply. Your response really sunk in. It's nice to be reminded that things get better. Damn they seem bad some days,

Thanks again.

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What gives you so much anxiety, to be precise? Anxiety is a response to certain stimuli, and not being able to handle that stimuli (not the situation per se, but the stimuli). What kind of fears go through your mind to make you feel so "helplessly" anxious? Constantly worried about the future? About what could go wrong, etc?

Maybe you could work at a coffee shop? I know that's not a lot of money but just to work but not get overwhelmingly stressed with dealing with papers and things like that. I'm hoping to get a "stressful job" soon but will probably end up in a similar place as you. It's tough but try to find a job that has some balance and is not too stressful... it's good to just quit sometimes but still do something...

Hey there,
Sorry to hear about that. It was the same for me in 2010, I quit three high stress jobs in a row as a disability carer and felt useless. So I know the feeling and hope it gets better. Same in 2011, only one job that year.
In 2013 studying to gain qualifications in a less stressful industry was step one. It took three years unemployed and volunteering to get in, but now work is filled with pleasant, relatively low stress days working in libraries.
Maybe that's an idea? Train up for what you really enjoy, but be prepared for it to take a few years in the making. Having less money and being calm is better than being well paid and miserable.

All the best, Ryan. :thumbup:

Thanks Ads,

I think you're right. That's actually what I'm working on right now. I've decided to make the step to a career change. Thanks for the boost! Things are on their way,

Ryan