magnum_pi

Hi

I recently came into contact with a girl I use to work with. We met roughly 5 years ago and I liked her - and she knew it. We are both pretty shy people. I did ask her out but nothing came of it.

Anyway, its a very long story which I may post sometime, but basically at the moment I have met up with her for coffee and then for lunch. We have also emailed each other alot and have texted on several occasions.

I am meeting up with her this weekend for a trip to a seaside resort.

Basically, I am working myself up a bit about it. I find it quite hard to be myself around people and may come over as being "quiet" and not the "silly", possibly cheeky person I can be. I am myself, juist very toned down. I keep thinking over and over that I'm going to be "quiet", boring and all the other negative type things.

I have no idea where we are going with this - friends or potentially more and that in itself is frustrating. I feel I could let go a bit if I knew how she felt over me. Can anyone offer any advice on how to relax when I'm with her - we do chat alot and have a fair bit in common, which is one of the main reasons I like her, and I feel fairly comfortable with her in a funny sort of way, compared to most other people. How to let go or just stop the negative thinking. I'm also a bit scared to push anything or say certain things in case she does just want friends.

Anyway, its a bit more complicated than it appears, but it would be an awfully long story otherwise....

Thanks
magnum

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pi,
I'm not an expert in recent courtship methods (been married for 34 years), but since she agreed to a weekend trip at a resort, it sounds like she must have an interest in moving forward with the relationship. Go for a swim, have a margherita, and enjoy the sunset. Unless she's just playing you for a free trip I think you're going to be just fine.

Have fun and be yourself.
Ray