New mommy with bad anxiety - Any mommies out there????

how do you cope??

Hey Vancouver I'm a momma. I was young, just 19, when I had my first daughter - I didn't even know what social anxiety was back then.. Of course it was something I experienced, but I just thought there was something very wrong with me at the time and tried to push myself onward.

Having kids when you have SA can be very trying and exhausting.. There are appointments to attend, phone calls to be made, play groups, doctor visits, school, then teachers and parents to talk to etc... But it gets easier with time, trust me . Soon enough you'll be so busy trying to stay on top of everything that you won't even have the time or energy to be anxious at times haha. I also think it makes it so much easier to just get on with what needs to get done, (no matter how much you're unwilling to deep down) because you're doing it for those gorgeous kids.

My oldest is 10 now, and my youngest is 3. My oldest is in 2 netball teams, takes taekwando and dance classes, and she's very social and likes to have friends over a lot so I am kept busy! i think what gets me through it all is a "just get on with it" attitude, not dwelling on any social interaction that may be required and just focusing on the task at hand, like "get kid to netball at 4" as opposed to focusing on the fact that I'll have to see and talk to parents and the coach etc.. thinking about that aspect would only heighten any anxiety unnecessarily. I think also, just try and relax and breathe easy, having kids is exhausting as it is, so just try to relax your mind.. deep breaths, meditate, and dont push yourself too hard or more than necessary. Try to utilise any help you can from others, and if you dont feel like socializing at times - dont. Congratulations btw!

hey lost girl, your reply actually helped me a lot! thanks so much. You are right i should have that attitude as well. instead of worrying about all the things that could go wrong..to just think about getting the things i need to do done. i just get so nervous before and sometimes during social interactions

I have 5 kids and I love them all, they are the only people in my life that don't cause me anxiety, lol! When they were all little it was easy to deal with because there wasn't many people to deal with, just a Dr. here and there (trick to the pediatrician is finding one you trust and sticking with them, you will be more comfortable.) Now that some are older it is harder because there are sports, teachers, friends etc. and it can be trying, I just try to take one step at a time. I am lucky enough to have a husband who does a lot of the things for the kids that I am not comfortable doing, such as taking them to the library and the pool, and doing dentist appt.s and even teachers conferences. He makes the phone calls for me etc. I know I could do these things if I were forced, but he makes my life more comfortable by taking some of the brunt.
Right now I feel bad because my son wants a birthday party. His birthday was in FEB! (we celebrated as a family with grandparents and such, but he wants one for friends.) Obviously I have been putting it off and I think I will continue to put it off until it can be held outside. That way I can save my sanity... I guess it will be an "un-birthday" party...
Just do the best you can with what you have
I started an off topic thread for parents with social anxiety. Look it up and feel free to post