new to the forum, but definitely not new to social anxiety...

JakeDennert

Member
Hi there, SocialPhobiaWorld community...

Thought I'd make my first post today.

I look around the site and I see a very active, helpful place. People helping people everywhere I turn. It's a beautiful thing.

Anyway, a little about me...

I've been able to trace my social anxiety back to around 8th, maybe 9th grade... when my drinking habit became a problem. I drank to feel comfortable around other people, didn't feel social at all without alcohol... and in my younger days, people seemed to like the person I became while drinking more than they liked the "sober me."

So I abused alcohol for quite a long time. Enlisted in the Marines after high school, saw combat in Iraq... and when I got back, I drank myself stupid again.

A near-death-experience car accident changed everything for me back in October of 2008... and I finally sobered up.

Upon doing so, I realized I had PTSD as a result of what I'd seen and done overseas. But I'd later learn that it was more than that -- that I'd been experiencing social anxiety well before enlisting, and well before seeing war.

That's what brought everything to the surface for me, though. The PTSD, the social anxiety... I didn't know I had either one until I took the booze away, because I'd been using alcohol as a means of coping with it.

Why I'm Here...

I'm here to meet, connect with, and hopefully help anyone who is going through what I used to struggle so much with.

-- Social Anxiety

-- PTSD

-- Alcoholism

I feel like I'm as close to "normal" as I've ever been, and I haven't had a drop of alcohol in more than 4 years. It hasn't been easy. I have my ups and downs -- good days, bad days -- but I'm never going back to what I was.

Anyway, that's a very brief version of my story. Glad to be here... and excited to help out, if I can.

Thanks for reading. :)

Jake D.
 

LazyHermitCrab

Well-known member
Hey wow you've been through a lot! I'm glad you were able to stop taking alcohol. I drink sometimes (beer mostly) but just a couple a week. Anyway welcome!!! :)
 

Lamb

Well-known member
Welcome JakeDennert. Look forward to hearing of your experiences and thoughts. :)
 

JakeDennert

Member
Hey wow you've been through a lot! I'm glad you were able to stop taking alcohol. I drink sometimes (beer mostly) but just a couple a week. Anyway welcome!!! :)

Sure have! :)

I appreciate the welcome, LazyHermit.

And I'm glad you're only having a couple beers a week... I never had that kind of control when I drank, but I'm cool with it now.

See you around!

Jake D.
 

JakeDennert

Member
Welcome JakeDennert. Look forward to hearing of your experiences and thoughts. :)

Thank you for the welcome, Lamb.

I look forward to sharing more, time permitting, of course.

And I really hope what I've experienced can help others in their own personal journey.

Thanks again for taking the time to reply. :)

Jake D.
 

cocorose

Well-known member
Hi Jake, well I can definately relate to the SA and alcoholism. They have pretty much ruined my life. Congrats on being sober, that's great. :) I am also new here. Hoping to get some advice & help (and maybe help if I can too). :)
 

JakeDennert

Member
Hi Jake, well I can definately relate to the SA and alcoholism. They have pretty much ruined my life. Congrats on being sober, that's great. :) I am also new here. Hoping to get some advice & help (and maybe help if I can too). :)

Hey cocorose, thanks for posting!

Glad to hear that you can relate to my story...

...not so glad to hear that alcoholism and SA have pretty much ruined your life.

Is it just me, or is this hilarious?

:kickingmyself:

Saw that little guy in the stack over on the right, just had to toss him in here.

I know, I know... VERY random.

Haha, anyway, I appreciate you taking the time to respond on my thread... and I'm glad you're here to help and be helped.

If you've got any questions for me about how I continue to fight my demons on a daily basis, I'm all ears.

And I may not respond right away, but I promise, I'll get back to you.

Thanks again, and take care.

Jake D.
 
Welcome to the forum, congrats on being sober and I'm sorry for all you've been through. I look forward to reading your posts.
 

JakeDennert

Member
Welcome to the forum, congrats on being sober and I'm sorry for all you've been through. I look forward to reading your posts.

Hey, thanks Jewel. :)

I've been through quite a bit, but I tend to believe in the cliche that whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

I appreciate the welcome and congratulations.

See you around!

Jake D.
 

Klonoa

Well-known member
Haroo! Welcome aboard! :)

I can feel you, bro. When I lived in the US, I began to drink heavily due depression, back home in Mexico, the whole war on drugs and seeing things here, have made me have rather bad reactions to things that make war seem just "like a game". I try to cope with it, but... Yeah. ;_; I am not a soldier myself,nor want to, but I've been caught in conflict more than enough times.... D:

We'll try help!
 

JakeDennert

Member
Haroo! Welcome aboard! :)

I can feel you, bro. When I lived in the US, I began to drink heavily due depression, back home in Mexico, the whole war on drugs and seeing things here, have made me have rather bad reactions to things that make war seem just "like a game". I try to cope with it, but... Yeah. ;_; I am not a soldier myself,nor want to, but I've been caught in conflict more than enough times.... D:

We'll try help!

Thanks Klonoa! :)

I appreciate the welcome.

War is a game, my friend... but it's a dangerous one.

Never been south of the border myself, but I imagine in certain places it must get pretty intense.

Thanks again for posting, and I'll see ya around!

Jake D.
 

JakeDennert

Member
Hi Jake I'm new also. Thank you for your service, much respect to tho's who serve.

Hey Kristopher, good to hear from another new guy!

Thanks for posting.

I really appreciate the comment about my time in the service. Been out almost 4 years, but it's still nice to hear. :)

See you around the site!

Jake D.
 
Top