obsessed about being ugly.

That's what siblings do. If you were ugly (which you're not), then he'd probably be too, as you share a lot of genetic traits.

I called my sister a "f*cking ugly whore" a countless times when I was younger, usually as a response when she called me f*ggot or something similar. Neither of us actually meant it.

thanks, maybe he just had a rough day at school, i dunno.
A lot of guys of school are acting stupid towards him, so this might influence him for acting like this ''the show who's the big guy'' or ''Look who's better'' attitude.
He does this a lot, guess I should just get used to that.
Maybe I should try to pretend I don't give a ...
 
Firstly, I can relate. I usually don't go out because there is something about my skin tone, I actually feel like I look like I haven't come out of my house for a long time (yellow complexion? Although that's also my natural complexion ish... olive.. woo......)/coloured bags under my eyes it seems.... Also that I look like a bum and thus can't feel comfortable pulling off own beliefs, that I'm fat, and that (thanks to angular chelitis one year ago) the sides of my mouth are starting to drag downwards and stretch outwards and it's completely sabotaging the balance of my face and giving me those frown lines! UGggggh!! That is my biggest obsession. On the bad days I run to the mirror every hour and just stare/wish they aren't there/ "I could look alright if they weren't there, now I never will." Anyways...

The only things I can think of... Do things every day that earn your own respect. Face a fear every day, consistently, and perhaps one day you'll look in the mirror and respect your image as well.

Find one thing that you like about your body, anything, if it's your toes or the way your smile opens your face, even if it's just one finger or an eyebrow, and try to almost hyper-focus on that just as much as you focus on the negative body image.

Take good care of your internal health, the discolor (that might not be there, who knows!) may lighten, and even if it doesn't, if you're clean and pretty inside usually you feel like the outside is less important or that it doesn't represent anything..You may not hold any personal fault to yourself, if you take good care of your internal health/cleanliness/er/etc. (This one works for me well).

Hmm what else. Do things that make you feel confident every day. For example? Exercise, and always try to be a little better at it every week/day, kind of the same thing as earning your own respect. Eventually you will feel... powerful, maybe more worthy? Make sure you get dressed and look as good as you can each morning, vs. staying in PJs, especially if you're not doing anything that day, seeing as there will be time for your mind to dwell more.

Take a picture where you look your ABSOLUTE WORST and post it on here. If you think your camera makes things brighter and thus less visible, darken the room or turn of flash or find a better camera? This may take some guts, but the idea here is that if you expose what you see as the "truth", your ugliness, and people still see your beauty, the contrast between what you see and what others see will be more visible...

Oh yeah, and try to involve yourself in something that holds more impact than how you look, volunteering for a cause, focusing on worldly issues, etc.

Goodluck. (I do think you're GORGEOUS by the way. It's hard to mistake that in your videos:p, many different angles=truly see you! And you're preeeetty pretty pretty)

hey EscapeArtist, thanks for the tips, i have another camera with no flash effect, My telephone doesn't include a flash light
I do have some ugly photo's, i dunno if i have the gutts to post them on here
face a fear everyday will be hard, well it's possible, but I don't have anywhere to go to everyday, I don't know what to think of, maybe the store or something. But still sometimes i'm too lazy to go..hmm.. lol
But if i had school i would definetely go everyday, except the weekends cuz its free time but even now im totally ready to go, but still need to be a little patience, takes a few months....

about the sides of the mouth, i'm dealing the same, because when I laugh i have these, some people tell me I look funny when I laugh, but I think like, oh really? Funny idiotical you mean :p, but with other people I don't see ugliness, not even the most ugly person alive, because I never rate people on looks, I never dislike them, because I accept them. But myself, I think people look down on me, and I look down on myself too, because I think my skin isn't healthy, and all the details I'm not gonna throw this forum all over..

lol about the PJ's, that's a good thing indeed, when I wear PJ's all day long I feel like a lazy person who doesn't want to get dressed, but I know a lot of people do this and they actually feel relaxing, why not me??, I always need to dress up because I feel more energy, BDD influences my mood everyday.

Thanks for the compliments btw (=
 
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Rembrandt Broam

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Firstly, I can relate. I usually don't go out because there is something about my skin tone, I actually feel like I look like I haven't come out of my house for a long time (yellow complexion? Although that's also my natural complexion ish... olive.. woo......)/coloured bags under my eyes it seems.... Also that I look like a bum and thus can't feel comfortable pulling off own beliefs, that I'm fat, and that (thanks to angular chelitis one year ago) the sides of my mouth are starting to drag downwards and stretch outwards and it's completely sabotaging the balance of my face and giving me those frown lines! UGggggh!!

Hmmm......I think your SPW account might have been hacked a couple of weeks ago, because a really cute girl used it to post some pictures of herself on the group. :)
 

Kiwong

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I can remember in my teens and twenties I hated the way I looked. I was too skinny I wanted to have more muscles. I used to ask my mother how I looked and she told me I was handsome at first. Then I said I didn't believe her, and she always said there is nothing wrong with you.

And you know what? She was right, there is nothing wrong with me. When I was younger if I had of looked after my appearence a little bit better, and carried myself with more confidence, I was as good or better than most of those who bullied and teased me. My parents gave me some pretty amazing gifts and I am thankful to them. The trick is to learn to be proud of those gifts and use them better.
 
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