Obsessed with SEX!

Ok, I'm a guy with sp. I haven't had much experience with women, and I am still a virgin at the age of 27. My social fears center around my interactions with women. I find that I am totally obsessed with sex. Like I think about it ALL the time. ADIDAS All Day I Dream About Sex. I figure that this is my mind and body's way of punishing me for passing through this time in my life without having a sexual partner. Don't they say that people who have sex don't think about it or talk about it, but people who aren't having sex think about it and talk about it all the time? I feel like a teenager.

Anybody else know how I feel? Is this just a guy thing, or are there women who feel this same way?

yes i know what you mean.. i totally relate

i know it's hard. i hate it to know that 'other people' have a sex life and me not. but becoming obsessed with the idea of having sex? if you think you can't live without it, you can 'buy' sex. so if you really want it, go and get it!
it's more painful to me, knowing that i can't get the feeling of being loved by someone, cause that can't be bought!

mr-holly said:

it's more painful to me, knowing that i can't get the feeling of being loved by someone, cause that can't be bought!

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Same here pretty much that worries me much more. I still think about sex alot, but i'm 18. Like you said, if it got to be such a huge issue at the end of the day you can go out and buy it.

I want to experience sex as a part of a relationship as a whole package, but thats just me personally of course - and doesn't reflect most guys my age... or girls it seems - maybe i'm just looking in the wrong places hehe.

same im 20, but i dont want to go out there and 'buy' it, I want it as part of a relationship 'package' as stated earlier... hmm 'package'.. thats an interesting concept though

Dont worry mate once you reach 30 it wears off, which is alot better as then you actually start thinking with your brain :wink:

noo thats what I'm afraid of... reaching a certain age and then having missed the whole boat.. whole lot of experiences and stuff..

it dosnt shrink and fall off :?

you get to enjoy romance abit more instead

Its like most things really. If ya aint getting any, ya cant help but think about it and want it more than ever. When you can have it as much as possible it doesn't seem so much of a big deal, I mean, you'll still want it and youll still think about it, I just think you wont be as obsessive about it.
Plus as you get older and settle down with someone it isn't the main basis of the relationship...its a great part, but it aint the basis...lol

I know exactly how you feel. So many hot women out but to damn shy to actually approach them Oh well. Maybe we should start a dating service here

Yeah with myself, now that I am 30, I still want sex. But, I don't feel driven like I did when I was in my teens and early 20's, which is somewhat of a relief. But, I still enjoy the sensual pleasures and intimacy.

As far as obsession- I agree with some of the prior postings- if you are not getting any and you are looking at erotic photos or reading erotica you are going to do nothing but make yourself much more frustrated and horny.

I believe it's the love and feeling close to someone that we actually miss.I like a lot of you wasn't getting any,so I decided to start visiting escorts.The first one I visited was real nice,like a real girlfriend.But the next one was totally cold,as you would expect most of them to be,unless they actually fancied you.So I came to the conclusion that it was love that I missing and that sex seems to be totally mechanical without love or at the very least lust.

Speak for yourself. Sex is fabulous with or without love and love is fabulous with or without sex.

I have a suspicion that sexuality for SAD sufferers is a little different to most people and I think it’s to do with this desire for intimacy. We all really yearn to be close to somebody, but our SAD (generally) prevents us from ever getting there. I think this makes our lust harder to deal with. I suspect our lust is not purely physical but goes quite deep emotionally too. (I guess I’m only speaking for myself here, and assuming it’s the same for others…but I might be wrong).

But I don’t think love and sex are as important in life as the world seems to make out they are. I’m sure they’re still great (* is guessing*), but not vital. This is a bit embarrassing but no one else has said it so I’m just gonna tell my story. I’m 22 and I haven’t masturbated in about a year now. I know what you’re all thinking, and I don’t care! Lust is no longer a part of my life. I’ve found all the passion and intimacy that I need through God and my art. I’m still open to love and relationships, and if it happens, great! But I don’t look for it anymore. I think there are just as many benefits to living a single life, to living a married life. For starters I’m able to focus all my time and energy into my work, and my life is very simple and free from complications.

So yea...ummm...I think that’s all I wanted to say.

i'm a female and i.m completely obsessed with sex, think about it a lot, i'm not a virgin either

Anonymous said:

Speak for yourself. Sex is fabulous with or without love and love is fabulous with or without sex.

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I didn't say sex wasn't good,but without love or lust it's more mechanical,and us SA sufferers miss being close to people,so that was the point I was trying to make.

I must admit that I was so obsesed with sex myself,that I got in foreign tv that had one 24 hour hard core por channel and 5 more that showed 3-4 hours of hard core a night.Then after a while I started to spend all my time on the net searching for escorts.I have realised lately that this was having a huge impact on my social life and I'm pretty sure it made my SA worse (I had SA before this).I guess that this was a way of filling up my time,while filling the the need for sexual relief.

Then I met a girl which was wonderful.I didn't work out real well mostly because of my SA,but it did help me get things straight.I moved my dish round to sky.I deleted all the links to escorts.I'll be the first to admit it was hard,but i just knew I had to do it if I was going to kick SA and get my life back.

I am going out tonight.It will be my first Satuday night out in 6 months.I will go to the pub alone and hopefully some of the nice locals will be there.

Wish me luck

Hi I'm back from my night out.It wasn't as bad as I was dreading,but it was nerve racking all the same.But it has made me more determined that I will overcome this anxiety.Some times I feel like I'm on top of things ( really confident) but all it takes is a stare from a girl to take me back down do earth.Is there any hope for us?

I tried sex once, didn't like it much, it's not all it's cracked up to be.....bloody sheep wouldn't keep still and kept trodding on my foot.

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I tried sex once, didn't like it much, it's not all it's cracked up to be.....bloody sheep wouldn't keep still and kept trodding on my foot.

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:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Sheep won't embarrass you -- there's no negative social judgment there. Unless you get caught...

http://www.ananova.com/news/story/sm_729446.html

But seriously, any men in the Hamilton, Ontario area who wants to work off the frustration?

During my first two years of puberty i went through an unbearable time w/ the idea of having sex 24/7 on my mind. after that i learnt diffirent ways of handling this stress, like masturbation for eg....these helped me sooooo much and i now i feel even if it was the case that i'll be virgin forever, i could live w/it. i'm 22 now and dont feel any extreme unbearable compulsive desire for sex, like i used to when i was 14, 15.