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I would also like to add, be wary of accepting/taking advice from people who give advice, but haven't had successful relationships, let alone the fact they may not be in one currently.
End point.
Haha.
But also keep in mind this is also a 'help' forum populated mostly by people who openly declare that their lives are pointless, there's no use trying, etc. Anyone who has already adopted a defeatist mindset is probably going to find their answers in that the same way lonely guys are looking for comfort in these kinds of threads.
I answered but deleted my post because it was too full of generalizations, which is what topics like this are asking people to make. It's probably comforting to believe that life is a series of predictable stages that everyone goes through and we all come out the other side with everything we want, but that's not reality. Unfortunately, it is entirely possible that you will go through life trying and constantly failing, or waiting and watching everything you want slowly slip out of the realm of possibility.
Things won't just happen for you because you reach a certain age-- you need to be able to learn from your mistakes and apply what you've learned. It doesn't matter what age you are, if you do this without giving up, then you will eventually get there. It might also help to ask others, because we don't always get a good sense of what our own flaws are... a lot of us tend to be too soft on ourselves while being overly hard on others.
This is actually really difficult for a lot of people, because they will usually have a list of reasons why it isn't their fault, why the world is ****ed up and why they were right and everyone who disagrees is wrong because it shouldn't be like this.
Anxiety is actually pretty manageable when it comes right down to it. Most people will understand if you tell them, and being open about it actually helps you realize that they're not out to get you. What trips people up is when they keep it to themselves and withdraw into isolation. The effect that the resulting isolation has on their egos and the fact that they think admitting to character flaws is somehow worse than spending the rest of their lives putting people off and being rejected for them.
I am in a relationship right now, btw.
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