On being petty
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This is a hard question to answer. What does being important mean to you? Importance is subjective. I could be a president of the United States and people would still find something petty about me. Any specific area you want to feel important in?
arjuna
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I never really related it to importance. Maybe is a question of pride then. If there is any area I would like to feel important in?...Well, maybe I don't feel valued enough but part of that can be seen as my own fault.
Often when someone, say, gives a description of reality that doesn't make sense or that I don't agree with, I get angry and want to prove that person wrong. That's when I notice it the most.
Often when someone, say, gives a description of reality that doesn't make sense or that I don't agree with, I get angry and want to prove that person wrong. That's when I notice it the most.
MollyBeGood
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Petty to me means letting everything bother me. Is this what you mean? I do this sometimes and it makes me nuts when it comes to relating to others.
Choose your battles. That is what I TRY to do. I remind myself to let a lot of things slide and only react to really important issues-like "character attacks" for example. Though, I have to admit, due to my sensitivity, I feel often my character is under attack.
I have to let my ego go and just ride it out. Often, if I do that the other person comes back and says "You know you were right..."
IF they have any desire to keep a relationship with me.
They will see the errors of their ways.
This happened to me just today ha!
Does this have anything to do with your post? It was a bit cryptic...:thinking:
Choose your battles. That is what I TRY to do. I remind myself to let a lot of things slide and only react to really important issues-like "character attacks" for example. Though, I have to admit, due to my sensitivity, I feel often my character is under attack.
I have to let my ego go and just ride it out. Often, if I do that the other person comes back and says "You know you were right..."
IF they have any desire to keep a relationship with me.
They will see the errors of their ways.
This happened to me just today ha!
Does this have anything to do with your post? It was a bit cryptic...:thinking:
arjuna
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Yes, absolutely. Being pissed off is a way of life for me. Often I get the wrong end of the stick due to my thickness and I get angry for no reason. Tbh, lately I haven't been personally attacked but I may interpret things as attacks. It must be because I don't have the necessary resilience to take the action and change my beliefs. I can't say that it makes me very happy. I suppose it gets better with time and exposure.
Deciding whether something is petty or not is being judgmental. In reality things just are. It's up to you to decide. I know people like you and me tend to have negative decisions, but it doesn't have to be that way. Reality is nuetral. Whether something is petty or important is just an opinion.