Jesushasomeoneforme
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for me,online dating is so hard. women love to play head games. You don't know if there being honest or not. people need to get to know someone before making decisions. anyone else have these problems?
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GraybeardGhost
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Yes, some women love to play head games, but you know what? Some men love to play head games, too. It's often hard to tell whether anyone is being honest or not online. That is an unfortunate reality of life in the internet age. Let's not turn it into another gender war, please.
Argentum
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Yes, this was my experience as well.
I don't live in a very empathetic society, and people can be seen as means to an end. Maybe it's just part of a larger cultural problem where getting ahead and getting yours is so valued, and since you don't suffer any social consequence unless someone is part of your social circle people can just move on without ever looking back.
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BlueDays
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^Yup, yup.
erfect:Predators (both male and female) hunt in online dating websites, so be very careful Jesushasomeoneforme.
PugofCrydee
You want to know how I got these scars?
I've recently ended a long term relationship and currently have no desire to get romantically involved with anyone. My SA & AvPD can make it a little harder to trust someone, but I realize its not just women that can play mind games. And sometimes I think some women don't mean to be that way.
As far as online dating goes, I may try it in the future. I don't see anything wrong with it, but the potential for people to be deceiving is probably greater, so you would have to be more careful I guess.
As far as online dating goes, I may try it in the future. I don't see anything wrong with it, but the potential for people to be deceiving is probably greater, so you would have to be more careful I guess.
thewildsucker
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i think you can tell if they are playing mind games if they are not clear and spontaneous with you
also if you don't find them to behave like you would drop the contacts, there's no need to go deeper if they make you feel uncomfortable
did something specific happen?
also if you don't find them to behave like you would drop the contacts, there's no need to go deeper if they make you feel uncomfortable
did something specific happen?
Jesushasomeoneforme
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mean women some
Metal_isthe_Answer
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I tried it once, my experience went like this:
See someone and look at their profile, hey we like similar music and movies, send her a message and get no reply.
Someone (and only one) sends me a message, I reply, she never talks to me again
I don't really like the online route, but I also think its probably my only option
WeirdyMcGee
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my experience on 4 different sites were all pretty much the same.
I sign up and add a profile photo-- before I finish filling out my profile, I get about 10-12 messages from people about 20+ years out of my preferred age range who both compliment my photo and then ask me if I'm 'horney'.
So, I finish the profile and block initial weirdos but the next 5 minutes are spent anxiously staring at the computer screen as MORE AND MORE people send me gross messages and ask if I want to see their weiners.
Yes.
This happened on 4 different dating sites where I specifically said that I was looking for serious relationships/marriage with a MODEST and not sexual/scantily clad profile photo.
All in all, I think that my 15 minutes on PoF had about 63 messages; very few of which I got to read because they were all just freaking me out and making me feel sick...
marriagemindedpeoplemeet.com - same thing. Alot of guys 60+, calling me 'baby' in their messages to me with poor grammar and no punctuation.
gk2gk.com - also same thing but I had messages from 12 people in the 5 minutes before I took my profile down.
AND-- of course... match.com; alot of links to pictures of penises. Alot of old guys.
That was my experience with dating sites.
So, I have decided-- I've been 6 years on my own after a 7 year relationship. I'm 26. I'm going to die alone by choice.
The internet is a scary place.
I sign up and add a profile photo-- before I finish filling out my profile, I get about 10-12 messages from people about 20+ years out of my preferred age range who both compliment my photo and then ask me if I'm 'horney'.
So, I finish the profile and block initial weirdos but the next 5 minutes are spent anxiously staring at the computer screen as MORE AND MORE people send me gross messages and ask if I want to see their weiners.
Yes.
This happened on 4 different dating sites where I specifically said that I was looking for serious relationships/marriage with a MODEST and not sexual/scantily clad profile photo.
All in all, I think that my 15 minutes on PoF had about 63 messages; very few of which I got to read because they were all just freaking me out and making me feel sick...
marriagemindedpeoplemeet.com - same thing. Alot of guys 60+, calling me 'baby' in their messages to me with poor grammar and no punctuation.
gk2gk.com - also same thing but I had messages from 12 people in the 5 minutes before I took my profile down.
AND-- of course... match.com; alot of links to pictures of penises. Alot of old guys.
That was my experience with dating sites.
So, I have decided-- I've been 6 years on my own after a 7 year relationship. I'm 26. I'm going to die alone by choice.
The internet is a scary place.
Get_RektXoXo
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one of the dating sites I signed up to charged a membership fee to be able to read incoming mail
a few other ones I just registered to look at other peoples pictures because I was bored
a few other ones I just registered to look at other peoples pictures because I was bored
Wow. What if a person had a vague profile without a picture? Looks like that'd stop a bunch of that. I could be wrong though.
WeirdyMcGee
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... that's what I would suggest if you're a ladyperson and want to try out dating sites.
I'm not going to try again though. Used up all of my courage in that hour of HELL. (signing up for dating sites/onslaught of old peepees)
I wouldn't suggest craigslist then. If i did the online thing i could see myself responding to women like "hi I'm jc972. I like this, this, and that and I'm 29 and i blah blah blah. Tell me about yourself." Then i would, if all went well, ask her out. Maybe I'm weird?
BlueDays
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^Yep. The internet IS a scary place.
I had a similar experience to you.
Nothing like an afternoon joining up to several dating sites only to be made to feel like you are nothing but a piece of meat that most men want to pound with their tenderizer.:sad:
I gave up and will probably just end up an old cat lady.:thumbup:
BlueDays
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Cool...meat tenderizer!
You left the wrong smiley at the end of my quote, jc! holy cow, now it looks like I am happy about it! h: :bigsmile:
Took ya a minute or two to catch that
Argentum
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Not something I'd bother with, personally. Plenty are free, and from the sounds of it there's not a lot of difference site-to-site.
Lots and lots of beautiful girls,but I find that I dont have anything in common with them,the people who I find the most interesting tend to be very religious which makes sense but it is very ironic because I am not,they also probably wouldnt like me because of that,so I get nervous to start messaging them.